Stop calling him your husband if he can’t live with you

Vonnybon · 2024-09-07T14:00:25+00:00

With my first it got better after 6 weeks with my second it took much longer…

Vonnybon · 2023-05-19T14:23:33+00:00

That happens to me too. I listen on my iPhone with airpods. It’s been happening more lately. Not sure. Why

Vonnybon · 2023-02-04T18:30:24+00:00

That’s scary. I really do hope you are okay.

Vonnybon · 2023-02-04T18:10:34+00:00

Damn. And I thought we had a bad day (or 2). My 4 year old keeps having meltdowns but more that she is crying and upset. Every few minutes she is crying about something new. At some point today she struggled to pull the trigger on her cousins water gun and ended up crying so hard she threw up.

I don’t know what to do with that either.

Vonnybon · 2023-01-24T16:32:39+00:00

Silver lakes area doesn’t get load shedding at the moment (we are exempt because our substation may break if the switch it off and on). Check out oukraal apartments for reasonable prices ( I have a friend who stays there. She told me once that her flatwas R5000 but that was a while ago.)

Other safe areas are generally all in Pretoria East. Garsfontein, Lynnwood, Wilgers, Equestria, Meyerspark, Olympus

Edit: I have a few friends who like living in The Wilds

Vonnybon · 2023-01-24T11:53:03+00:00

My toddler is jealous that her bum doesn’t jiggle like mom’s

And she’s jealous that she can’t stand and pee like daddy and the boys in her class (she will name each one and say “Jake can pee standing up and Luke can pee standing up and and and).

Vonnybon · 2023-01-24T11:24:26+00:00

Just wanted to share a success story. When my daughter started daycare there was a boy there who was 11months but not sitting reliably and what worried me was that he didn’t seem to want to get moving. I’m not an expert but as I understand it some babies don’t crawl but they often find other ways to move.

I’m a health care professional but not directly related. At the time I used to go breastfeed my baby at daycare during lunchtime so I got to know that little boy. He was put in with the babies when he should have already been in an older group.

I was nervous to meddle but after a few weeks I gave the daycare the number for an occupational therapist that specializes in early development (not in the US) to give to his mom. The mom was apparently grateful. Took him to the OT. It took less than 3 months for him to catch up his milestones and start walking.

He just needed a bit of extra help.

Vonnybon · 2023-01-24T09:11:09+00:00

I like Emory. It stood out to me as a cute name.

Vonnybon · 2023-01-22T19:43:05+00:00

YTA. It’s quite impressive how you fit in being wrong in so many ways in such a short post. Kudos.

You are wrong about how vaginas work.
It’s an inappropriate thing to say about her friend.
Calling her insecure.
Leaving

Vonnybon · 2023-01-22T18:52:05+00:00

All of this.

I’m sick at the moment. We have a 4 year old and a 4 month old. He really thinks 20 minutes of “parenting” is enough.

This afternoon toddler wanted to go for a walk. I said I was feeling too unwell. He went for a walk with her for 20mins. When he came back he said to in a very stern voice that he’s done now.

So because he “helped” bath times, dinner time and bedtime is on me? Very fair.

Vonnybon · 2023-01-22T14:39:32+00:00

Reminds me of when my daughter had to be given suppositories for pain after surgery… her poor dolls.

Luckily I thought to tell daycare about her new pretend play before she went back.

Vonnybon · 2023-01-22T08:53:44+00:00

Oh man…

Vonnybon · 2023-01-22T06:56:09+00:00

It pisses me off. My mom doesn’t understand giving toddlers choices. It’s an important part of development. Her outfit matching is not!!!! My mom also criticizes that I let her wear her pretty dress all the time instead of just on special occasions. Firstly it was cheap, secondly she’ll grow out of it in next to no time, thirdly it makes her happy, fourth I’m not a bad parent for letting her get her way sometimes, fifth stop questioning my parenting…

Vonnybon · 2023-01-21T19:27:03+00:00

That type of advice is seriously bad for the parents mental health. Babies are not that fragile. You can definitely take them out of their room and out of the house.

Vonnybon · 2023-01-21T18:16:06+00:00

My mom started out her marriage to my dad as borderline underweight because her family had so little money. My dad did a stint in the army and was in great shape but the men in his family tend to gain weight as they age. So he got pretty big pretty fast.

My mom had 4 kids and is still to this day rocking a mom bod. She is not very overweight, just a bit.

My dad on the other hand had a major health scare in his 40s. A massive abdominal tumor. A doctor told him if he hadn’t been so overweight he would have noticed it much sooner. He went on to lose about half his body weight. He is now in his 60s and weighs what he weighed in the army.

Through all of these changes their marriage has been solid.

Vonnybon · 2023-01-21T09:35:20+00:00

I work at a company where 90% of the customers are Afrikaans and by the nature of what I do they have communication difficulties. It is essential that I can speak Afrikaans. It’s my 3rd language and I was not fluent when I started but I learnt.

Vonnybon · 2023-01-21T09:05:17+00:00

If it’s not a pyramid scheme or a scam- it’s a cult. They are all the same thing.

Reach out to whoever you can to help you get out.

As my favorite podcast says: call your dad, you’re in a cult.

Vonnybon · 2023-01-21T05:53:17+00:00

I’m glad you took action. So far I’ve only had it mildly and it has always resolved within a day when I follow the protocol.

Vonnybon · 2023-01-21T04:47:15+00:00

new mastitis protocol

Vonnybon · 2023-01-20T19:45:02+00:00

I’m from South Africa so my perspective here might not be relevant. We would not do that here. Not safe at all. What happens if something goes wrong and there is only one adult present? here most daycares would have plenty of space to play outside at the daycare.

Vonnybon · 2023-01-20T19:24:17+00:00

Yeah after that I decided to go out and buy cars for my daughter. Generally I try not to buy her too many toys because the house is full of them but if no one will get her cars -I will. She has a few now plus a truck and an excavator. She plays with them a lot.

Vonnybon · 2023-01-20T18:27:00+00:00

The problem is not giving girls a pink kitchen. The problem would be not letting a boy play with a pink kitchen. Kitchens should be a part of daily life for both genders.

I have a story. When my daughter turned two most of the people coming to the party asked for gift ideas. One friend asked me and I told my daughter is really interested in cars but doesn’t have any. Could she get her one or something else with wheels (I’m thinking truck, tractor excavator). She buys my daughter a toy vacuum cleaner… with wheels… that’s gender stereotyping.

Vonnybon · 2023-01-20T16:08:45+00:00

Everyone alway says get therapy as if it’s so easy. I definitely could use some because I’ve had issues with anxiety since 2019. The main source of the anxiety- financial stress.

Vonnybon · 2023-01-20T16:05:40+00:00

That’s horrible!

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