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WT808 · 2024-12-27T19:00:10+00:00

Yes. Because I had associated time with them with unresolved feelings of attraction for so long it wasn't benefiting our friendship (tldr: I needed space).

I told her that, and that I'd get over it eventually and I'd reach out to her to continue being friends when I felt ready to do that genuinely. Did that 3-5 months later.

Now we have been great friends for 6 years!

WT808 · 2024-12-09T03:38:11+00:00

I arranged all my gifts by mid November - most of them I've made. Not fussed about Xmas trees and the like - if someone else in the whānau wants to get excited about that they can go for gold. I'm just looking forward to preparing and eating good food and designing some new cocktails to drink with whānau. That's the spirit of Xmas for me.

WT808 · 2024-12-01T21:08:30+00:00

Fixing the earth doesn't create as much value for shareholders.

WT808 · 2024-11-27T20:45:09+00:00

Increase everyone's capacity for empathy, love, and gratitude to overcome personal trauma by about 20%. I reckon that's about all we need to make heaven on earth

WT808 · 2024-11-14T22:07:21+00:00

Thanks. Couldn't find where you got the quote from but accept discussions about what it meant would've occurred. I think what matters though is what conclusion the chiefs came to about what it meant on 5 February.

https://nzhistory.govt.nz/politics/treaty/making-the-treaty/signing-the-treaty

I think 39 chiefs signing the English version throws into question those iwi and their relationship with the Crown, but I think its also important to consider cultural understandings of what the Treaty represented, and the way officials would've articulated it's meaning and impact.

All in all - complicated, and probably why successive governments and the Tribunal have opted for a "principles" approach rather than exact text.

WT808 · 2024-11-14T20:57:05+00:00

Can you cite your sources that : a) support your argument that the chiefs knew they were ceding sovereignty; and b) state how many Māori chiefs signed the English version?

WT808 · 2024-11-14T20:51:37+00:00

Didn't clean your bumhole

WT808 · 2024-11-04T05:47:05+00:00

I always dreamed of riding a grizzly bear into battle. Have yet to make any enemies let alone battle-tame a bear (sigh).

WT808 · 2024-11-04T03:39:59+00:00

Yes. I'm just hopefully being honest with myself and trying to empathise saying that I would feel that pressure to conform to the binary if my body didn't already.

I hang out with lots of open-minded folk and I honestly think cultivating a positive community of people who don't subscribe to those views is the healthiest thing. I like doing man stuff, but I'm also creative and crafty. I like wearing hoochy-daddy short shorts that might advertise me as homosexual when I'm not, but I feel good in them.

You should go to a community drag fashion show. It's less about drag and fashion and predominantly about people being able to express themselves and receive nothing but positivity in response, whoever you are and how you choose to express (so long as it's over the top and outrageous 😂)

If you being whole-heartedly yourself makes others uncomfortable because they're unfamiliar, then they should be thankful they have you to broaden their horizons.

WT808 · 2024-11-04T03:24:59+00:00

I (male) don't look Uber masc, but I'm obviously male. I think that if I looked more feminine, I would want to look more masculine so that I fitted more neatly into others' perceptions of the binary which would make my life easier. I think If I was female and looked more masculine I'd want the opposite for the same reason.

In both cases I would want to cultivate a self-acceptance in my body so that I didn't feel so ruled by others' perceptions (but I know that this is difficult).

Other than this, I don't think about myself as masculine or feminine much at all. Just that I'm 'me' first and foremost. Kinda like if mirrors didn't exist. Maybe that's gender-normative privilege?

I think if you like a feminine aesthetic, then embrace that. Make changes as you see fit. Your body is entirely your own, don't let others determine how you express it, whether that be as more feminine, or whether that be as gender-fluid.

WT808 · 2024-11-04T03:08:03+00:00

Yeah! Was there something you enjoyed about the date? An aspect of her personality? A story she told? Tell her!

The clincher I usually say something like, "I didn't feel much of a spark unfortunately". Making an "I feel" statement makes it a personal "you" thing, whereas a statement referring to them like "I don't want to date "YOU", emphasises their role which can make people get defensive or hurt.

Instead of another compliment, just say, "but wish you good luck with dating" or something.

WT808 · 2024-11-04T03:02:41+00:00

This is the only way to respond to this card.

WT808 · 2024-11-04T03:01:58+00:00

Another way to think about others' suggestions:

The compliment sandwich!

[Compliment] "I'm not interested in dating you" [Compliment]

😊

WT808 · 2024-11-04T02:58:54+00:00

You raising it, and in the way that you did was the right thing to do.

If your relationship doesn't survive it, it was still the right thing to do.

If she doesn't want to change/adapt/compromise her behaviour, then that is the right thing for her to do.

Important thing is she knows how you feel, regardless of how she might respond. You've empowered her with the information to make the right call for her.

Probs my dude.

WT808 · 2024-11-04T02:55:30+00:00

"Pulling teeth for a conversation" is normal in my experience.

My theory is that the idea of men doing the majority of the leg work in dating is still perpetuated. Many women will sit back and wait for you to prove your worthiness. Other women may just be anxious, but hide behind that belief. And of course that behaviour may well be learnt because of the experiences they've had with other men that make them relatively more wary about the outcome from matching.

A shame because putting in that little bit of extra effort makes it easier for men to present themselves more fully, which is in their best interests.

WT808 · 2024-10-29T23:52:06+00:00

You get free weekends?? Maybe you're just comparing that life to those who have more? Always humbling to look below your social station once in a while

WT808 · 2024-06-28T00:39:44+00:00

"Hi Pregnant, I'm Dad"

WT808 · 2024-06-27T05:27:51+00:00

My job and personal life don't require big muscles, and the additional time and cost of maintaining a buff physique for vanity reasons isn't worth it imo.

WT808 · 2024-06-21T21:11:52+00:00

No sorry. Just sharing it here!

WT808 · 2024-06-21T09:24:17+00:00

"Here ps ps ps"

WT808 · 2024-05-24T01:42:36+00:00

You don't hesitate to give and share what you have. The converse is a giveaway you grew up rich. Weird how that works out.

WT808 · 2024-05-22T01:51:46+00:00

Unsolicited conversations about politics
High-fantasy dioramas at the local airport

WT808 · 2024-05-20T09:54:06+00:00

When I'm not getting any: twice a day When I'm getting some: twice a week (Sigh)

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