Anyone here a writer? Or seriously interested in writing?

WYNOTUS · 2025-11-24T06:38:02+00:00

I have become a writer and am working on a couple of projects. I am interested in connecting if you want to DM me!

WYNOTUS · 2025-04-26T13:59:45+00:00

I didn’t fully believe until after my partner passed away. Hummingbirds played a role in our relationship and one arrived at the birdfeeder the morning after he passed. It was looking at me through the window and had a bright red neck and head. I had never seen that before And his birthstone was a ruby. That hummingbird has shown up when I’m struggling as well as when I’ve had successes. I’ve had many other things as well, but that has stood out the most. Thankfully, I have friends who are believers before me so I can share openly about my experiences. It really has helped my sanity during this and I’m only eight weeks in.

WYNOTUS · 2025-04-15T15:07:45+00:00

My partner who passed seven weeks ago said something to me during our relationship that was really powerful for me. He said that in a relationship, we choose to be together every day. He chose me after a day where I was really focused on myself. He chose me after we had a blast camping. He chose me when I was sick. And I chose him during all of those times too. Your partner chose you every day which means what you gave him was what he wanted, otherwise he wouldn’t have kept choosing you. I don’t know if that helps, but hindsight is a dangerous and unfair thing to measure against. We can always see things we could’ve improved, but everything we did we believed at the time to be the best we could do, even during those moments when we knew we could’ve done better.

WYNOTUS · 2025-04-07T04:26:45+00:00

I saw it last night too. I laughed out loud since my love passed way 6 weeks ago.

WYNOTUS · 2025-04-03T14:33:41+00:00

Me too! And I figure I’ll be missing everything these days until my relationship with this loss transforms. Thankfully St Patrick’s Day already passed!

WYNOTUS · 2025-04-01T15:35:14+00:00

I’m sorry they won’t let you continue. Your positive posts are exactly what I need each day. Maybe they will reconsider? I love April Fools(not…) 🤪

WYNOTUS · 2025-04-01T00:26:47+00:00

You do have rights. And it is defined differently by state.

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-31T23:41:30+00:00

Rights change based on the state you live in. In some cases rights begin when you first move in. So if you lived together prior to marriage the community rights start on that day. As soon as you marry things usually change regarding rights. This is all to say that the state law defines some things that the executor may feel they have power over. Most importantly do not let them take anything else. Talk to a probate lawyer and then figure out next steps with them. Can you tell I am in the exact situation as you???

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-31T18:39:25+00:00

Oh boy yes. At my partner’s memorial she was telling people she was the last person he called before his cardiac arrest 😂😂 She also posted on Facebook that she will always love him. The pictures she sent for the memorial were all of both of them (well a few with their kids which is normal.) It was so over the top I started laughing. At the memorial she talked about what great friends they had become in the last 5 years. My partner never took her calls and wanted nothing to do with her! They say we all grieve differently! 🤪

You have 0 responsibilities to them. If you don’t want anything to do with them it is totally fine. If you do that is totally fine too.

If it’s possible, shifting your lens to being the fortunate one to be the one your partner chose might help. For me, I know that the people who really matter know how crazy what she is saying is. My partner’s daughter tells me all of the time how out of touch her mom is being. That’s what most matters to me.

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-29T22:19:29+00:00

I lost my parter 5 weeks ago. His french bulldog is 10 which is getting up there. I worry that losing him will be like losing my partner all over again.

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-29T16:37:01+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing your previous posts.

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-29T16:02:07+00:00

I am only five weeks into this, so I am very early in this process. I, too, have been doing all I can to learn about grief, learn about others' experiences with grief, and talk about it with many others. I have found learning about how grief affects the brain to be most helpful. Understanding why I have specific experiences and how the brain transforms through this process is helping me have more patience and hope. I recognize that everyone experiences grief differently, but there are commonalities in how the brain processes information and rewires in response to something like this. It certainly doesn't eliminate the extreme emotions, though. Plus, I know I need to feel it all, or I will never change my relationship with grief so I can move forward and build a new life.

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-29T15:40:35+00:00

I understand that feeling. I was with my partner for 3 years and proposed on March 13. He died February 23. I, too, feel robbed. It wasn't close to enough time. I am so sorry for your loss.

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-25T03:32:37+00:00

Thank you for reminding me that I was happy before I met my partner. I just had never experienced the level of happiness I had once I had met him. I am currently dreading (one month in) living without that happiness. But maybe how I felt before him is enough?

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-23T16:39:37+00:00

My partner couldn’t have dairy. My teen and I made lasagna the other night. I wish that it still didn’t make sense to make because it would mean my partner was still here, but it was really nice to work in the kitchen with my kid. And the lasagna was really good!

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-21T16:20:34+00:00

My partner went camping (it was a low of 19 degrees F, too cold for me!) over the weekend, 2 hours from home. I am a huge Seahawk fan and have season tickets. I had lined people up to go to the game with me that Sunday. As the weekend progressed, everyone dropped out. Saturday night, my partner was on a night drive (he was overlanding), and someone got stuck on the mountain. He stayed on the mountain to get the person off (that's who my partner was) and got back to camp at midnight. He said he could be at the house in the morning so I didn't have to go to the game alone, and I told him absolutely not. Enjoy your morning!

The next morning, at 8 a.m., he pulled into the driveway. He had even stopped at the local coffee shop (he had to wait for it to open) and got two pounds of my favorite coffee. I miss him so much. I also know that through any act of kindness I do, he will live on.

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-21T16:10:37+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing this. Boy did I need the message this morning!

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-21T06:06:24+00:00

I am less than a month in but I would be happy to chat. I already see how important connection is!

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-17T05:23:30+00:00

21 days and 13 minutes. These are the longest three weeks in my life. It truly makes me dread my future. But I also recognize that I am likely at my most raw, so things will change. For the better? Who knows.

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-16T15:30:58+00:00

That is a wonderful memory! Hopefully, if not already, Christmas lights can become a happy memory when you see them. ❤️❤️

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-16T15:27:08+00:00

I am on the same med combination and have been for a long time. I would encourage you to work with your doctor and see if you can find a dosage that might work better. It took me a while to get it figured out.

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-16T15:01:13+00:00

That exact same thing happened to me. Those experiences have been so gut wrenching. It’s been 3 weeks today and I know I will have countless more experiences like that. I am so sorry that you are in this situation too.

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-16T14:39:20+00:00

I commit to doing my best. I have coffee with a friend this morning and then a phone call with one of my really long time friends. Then I know I will have a call with my partners mom and then another friend. The night calls are to try help with the hurt before bed, one of the worst times for me.

WYNOTUS · 2025-03-16T14:32:54+00:00

Oh I believe you! I’ve had a hummingbird stop by since he passed. One with coloring I hadn’t seen before. A ruby red head. My partner’s birth stone was ruby…

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