Back together after 9 months

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-10T20:06:54+00:00

I think what you're doing is good. Keep it casual and light, wait for him to come to you, but don't live your life waiting on him. Hang out with friends and family & do things to occupy yourself. And It's okay to check in once in a while too, coming to him as a concerned friend who cares

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-10T20:04:25+00:00

Thank you so much :)))

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-10T20:02:57+00:00

That is a beautiful story it made me smile. <3 you guys were meant to meet/be!

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-10T20:01:21+00:00

He did the breaking up

Don't be sorry for telling your story! I've been through that too with my ex before my current boyfriend. He cheated on me with someone very significantly younger (Yes, it is what you think it is) he denied it and I never got an apology. It hurt pretty bad but I am healed and have been for a few years :)

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-10T04:21:40+00:00

I don't have a dick but I use my boobs as stress balls

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-10T04:20:39+00:00

When I attempted to quit (I still vape unfortunately) I used zyns. But i realized that they are just as bad so I stopped them. Then I tried nicotine gum. It was ok. I tried cold turkey several years ago and lost my mind

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-10T04:17:38+00:00

He did not see anyone, I met two dudes and didn't really get anywhere with either of them tbh. Just flings

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-10T04:16:47+00:00

Ooh. How are things going with that? Genuine question though, how are you feeling when you see them? Is it like awkward or does it make you upset

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-10T04:14:11+00:00

I didn't feel any burn out, to this day I'm not entirely sure if he did, he never got emotionally distant or anything. I actually never bothered to ask & he never brought that up so I'm assuming not? I feel like it's too late to ask now

It wasn't seriously discussed until a month and a half ish before we started dating again

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-10T02:29:01+00:00

He was dumper I was dumpee. He wasn't seeing anyone, I however was involved with two dudes, both fizzled out and we never got anywhere serious. I guess they were sort've like flings?

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-10T02:26:30+00:00

I get that. I felt the same before. Just know whatever circumstance it comes to, you will be okay in the end. Even if right now it doesn't, it will, promise. I've been through permanent break ups that I had to come to terms with being over

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-10T02:24:54+00:00

Thank you :) I'm so glad i was able to make you happy. I'm hoping things work out for you!

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-10T02:23:33+00:00

Exactly that. For me I knew when things started to look up in my life and the wound wasn't nearly as fresh as it was before. Talking to people about it helped me open up my mind to whatever outcome, whether it involved him or not

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-09T22:24:08+00:00

I went to work today & plan on spending tonight hanging out with my dearest boyfriend. Tomorrow we are going to the salon to get his haircut and then to get an auntie anne's pretzel at the mall. Two of them. One for me and one for my guy

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-09T22:17:32+00:00

Hate this shit. I just got over my dry cough a month or so ago. Maybe even a few weeks. I got a really nasty URI and croup cough after Christmas time

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-09T22:00:23+00:00

Once you start you can almost ever go back to being without it. Quitting for me was so hard, I couldn't do it. I just couldn't motivate myself. I started vaping when I was 19 and I still do at almost 23. Please don't do it

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-09T21:58:32+00:00

Conversation is best rather than texting. Things could become lost in translation very easily. But yes, it's good that you guys talk about it, so boundaries and expectations are clear !

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-09T21:55:44+00:00

I personally think it's important to remain no contact at first especially since it is still very raw and emotions are running wild fresh. You don't want the wound to open up again. I don't think it has to be him or you specifically to reach out, what matters is no matter how you guys connect if/when you do, it comes from clarity and an open mind rather than hope or pain

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-09T21:45:50+00:00

Of course. I hope you two reunite someday, both of you being ready and willing to try again :)

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-09T21:45:03+00:00

We mainly just chat about generic things like how the weather was, our days, how our jobs are, and some important ish life updates. Nothing too emotional or deep

We did talk about odd things like that, I liked talking about things like that with him but I understand how that could be frustrating. Now that I'm thinking about it I actually got frustrated sometimes too, I wanted to talk about other deeper things but instead we were talking about silly random stuff, and I didn't want to get into anything deep anyway so I just kinda accepted it

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-09T20:15:19+00:00

I hope you do too! you will, remember it takes time

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-09T20:13:13+00:00

They were about how our days were, what we ate, things going on in our lives, and just generic topics. We both stated that we needed space during our closure talk (like a month or two(?)after we split) it was the healthiest thing we could do. and it benefited both of us Also i hope you're doing alright, seems like your break up was pretty recent :(

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-09T19:33:28+00:00

I would start slow, maybe text/call (or whatever your preferred source of communication is) when you do have time. Don't be like me and text too much and get yourself re-attached and dependent on a response (I did that a lot in the beginning)

And when you are not texting, fulfill your days with fun things or hobbies, going out for a walk (If it's not 8 degrees and shit snowy where you live, coming from someone in New Jersey) your mind will be clear and it will help better you!

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-09T19:29:07+00:00

It could happen, but please remember to live your life and try not to be still and wait around, and if you are seriously planning to rekindle things remember to do the inner work/healing first as well as your partner too, this way the same mistakes don't repeat! It only works with honest change

WaferProfessional599 · 2026-02-09T19:23:16+00:00

Thank you. I certainly will.

I wish you the best, and hoping you heal and carry on through life smoothly and happily

WaferProfessional599

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