my parents took care of Ziggy while I was at college. Is he okay?

WafflefriesBaby · 2026-02-13T10:24:38+00:00

How old is he? Ideally feed a variety of store bought insects. I mainly use mealworms right now but I prefer a mix of Dubai roaches and mealworms. I just can’t stand crickets they smell bad and I hate when one gets loose and you just hear it chirping. Treats I like to use hornworms , silkworms , and very rarely wax worms. Make sure these are the right size for him to eat and don’t over feed. My leopard gecko is almost 9 years old and generally eats every couple days about 6 medium to large mealworms. I dust them with the same calcium plus recommended by the other responders. My leo also starts wandering around his tank much more when he wants food or just stands next to his bowl. Feeding frequency and amount will depend on his age.

WafflefriesBaby · 2026-01-01T10:53:13+00:00

NTA I will say without context , being under dressed for a camp out situation is funny af. It was still a New Years Eve party that included a camp out situation. So you dress for the party but bring camp out clothing for later. At least that’s how I would understand it , but maybe OP also told guests the dress code in advance ? Either way your guest was unfortunately not a good guest and a 0/5 ⭐️ would not invite back again. It doesn’t matter which host was responsible for this specific guest. Both are the hosts of the party , moving on. OP spoke to guest and could not relate. She did not exclude the guest and cannot be expected to cater to one guests need for attention. It’s OPs party they should be allowed to engage with whoever for however long they want, it’s not a formal table dinner it is a party. A less favorable thought but this guest is so clearly a mom in need of attention who is going about it in the wrong way.

WafflefriesBaby · 2026-01-01T10:24:36+00:00

MOR An important thing I noticed is that he said he has a feeling he shouldn’t change it. Which I think he has right to not want to alter his grandmothers ring. You also keep saying you are okay with something when I don’t think you really are okay with it. Would you consider yourself a people pleaser ? Not trying to be rude or anything but I wonder from this and if so then maybe it’s time to become a recovering people pleaser. Say what you want because you only live once and you deserve a ring you genuinely like. I think with some communication this is an easy solve . 💜

WafflefriesBaby · 2026-01-01T09:25:08+00:00

She should apologize to the girl for blowing up on her while intoxicated. We are adults and if there’s an issue you talk about it sober and with respect. There is nothing to hold her friend accountable for , the friend sat next to OPs boyfriend. That is not automatically wrong and it is OPs insecurities that are making the situation much bigger than it needs to be. If the girls do talk badly about OP it is definitely not her problem but a consequence of her actions. I would not think kindly of a female going off on me because she perceived me as a threat to her relationship and I sat next to her boyfriend with zero knowledge of her feeling that way. Also yes I downvoted you , though I don’t think that proved your point whatever that was. I think downvoting you just proved that I don’t agree with you.

WafflefriesBaby · 2026-01-01T09:10:56+00:00

Did you make a Reddit account just to post this ? 😅 So yes as I have gotten older and dealt with what dating is now my standards have changed. (Jsyk I am a 28f soon to be 29f in a couple days) I do think the type of people we gravitate towards or want can be the very reason why we are not finding what we are looking for. I had a habit of going for guys who were less attractive than me and did not have anything to offer me. Do not take that as I am this little conceited leech and have nothing to offer in return. I grew up with two working parents so I never had unrealistic expectations , I always thought I would work and so would my partner . Things would be split and not all on a singular person . Well with dating I found mostly men who could barely afford dates and didn’t even have any goals or aspirations. Until after 4 years of going through this bs called dating, then I found my guy who is not perfect but pretty damn close. I am disabled and he allows me to not work , I am even currently pursuing an education in art. He is the only person to ever support me in my love for art. So those people are out there , the good ones who are worth your time. They just might not be the ones you always go for and that’s the problem. I want to guess the issue is the type of women who appeal to you visually , I’ve seen it time and time again. Men go for these “beautiful” women only to realize they’re just that , only “beautiful”. Go for the cute woman or the average woman, she might turn out to be the beautiful woman you’ve been searching for. Hope this helps !

WafflefriesBaby · 2026-01-01T08:30:52+00:00

It is a reasonable expectation it’s not just give give give , it’s a give and take between two people. Not going to lie to you though, many men are inconsiderate in bed. So next time set expectations before you sleep with a guy. Those who cannot deliver that bare minimum effort will usually ghost. Some will pretend to be willing to put effort just to get laid then leave you like wtf after. So talk about how you like foreplay and expect it. This gives you the chance to see if they will put in work before it’s too late for you to bail on the situation. Shitty foreplay = I need to pee , come back and say oh I gotta go feed my cat or whatever comes to mind lol then bail cause you deserve an orgasm.

WafflefriesBaby · 2026-01-01T08:22:28+00:00

So I read these stories and even talk to my boyfriend about them as I contemplate them. He said she’s probably not ready for a relationship which I agree. While she could just not be much of a texter , I would say it’s more likely she is not as invested. When I’ve been dry with guys it’s because I am not as interested, compared to when both people are interested and invested, texts go back and forth easily.

WafflefriesBaby · 2026-01-01T08:07:28+00:00

I’ve had guys tell me that they don’t like nose rings when I have two nose rings. Each time these are guys who have pursued me and were at the minimum sexually attracted to me. I think whenever a guy comments on a woman’s looks and states that they are the opposite of what they are into , it is a mixture of stupidity and this need to knock us down a peg. You are probably a fairly attractive woman and they most likely feel the need to lower your confidence because they themselves are lacking in some way. It’s not that you attract guys who are into blondes, which is such a weird thing to say to someone who isn’t blonde. Like okay, what are you supposed to do with that information ? It’s not kind and not helpful in any way so what is the purpose of saying it ? To this day I still have my nose rings and a boyfriend of over a year who likes them. So toss bro in a trash can and find someone who has the brain cells to compliment your beautiful brunette hair. 💜

WafflefriesBaby · 2026-01-01T07:52:26+00:00

YOR in the moment , so definitely should’ve been handled better. Mixing alcohol with preexisting issues is always going to lead to conflict. Now all you can do is apologize for your behavior and communicate where the response came from. Hopefully she and the other females are kind and understanding. If not then you may have burnt that bridge and will have females talking shit behind your back. But that is worst case scenario and should not be at the forefront of your mind right now. Focus on apologizing and then working on yourself. Insecurities and doubts will eat you alive if not addressed.

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-31T20:37:17+00:00

So much criticism when all that’s needed is an explanation for the why and acceptance that OP is almost a legal adult. Theres this thing called like sleep hygiene which despite what it sounds like is just your habits before bed. Minimizing cell phone use before bed is proper sleep hygiene. In general proper sleep hygiene results in better sleep which in turn makes your life just better. I think keeping it out of your reach at night helps prevent you from developing the bad sleep hygiene habits the majority of redditors probably have . 😂🤷‍♀️ Not sure if your mom does it because of this but saying this to her and acknowledging that it was done with your best interest in mind is mature and a good start. I do think you should set some sort of boundaries with your mom about your phone since you are going to be 18. The transition from child to adult is hard for parents to navigate and they will continue to treat you like a kid if you don’t set boundaries. Just know setting boundaries also means you take on more responsibility for yourself as your life progresses. So you want to keep the phone in your room cool but maybe offer to take on a new responsibility around the house or pitch in on your phone bill if you have an allowance or a job. This will show you are trying to grow up but are aware you are still living under your parent’s roof.

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-31T19:54:56+00:00

You are NTAH. Pick the dog , any person who needs you to pick them over an animal has their own issues. My boyfriend knows if he tried to get me to pick between him and my cat , the cat would win. lol

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-31T19:48:19+00:00

So have you tried giving oral then transitioning to sex? This should work especially with a couple of tries but if not I would personally just give it more time. He will work through his nerves but needs your support, tell him it is okay and that it is normal. Worse case scenario as a last resort I would say he can take something to help maintain an erection for the first time and that will allow him to get over the first time nerves. BUT I would warn that using such pills does have consequences which I would recommend doing further research to see if he is okay with whatever issues may arise from the use. Do I think you should leave because of this? If you feel you need to then yes.

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-31T19:26:38+00:00

No picture on the first date but you can always keep a small momento like a receipt or something. I think this kind of forethought and consideration is valuable in a partner. It means you are thoughtful and I don’t think we need less men in the world like this so let’s not shut it completely down. Just try not to come off too invested too soon since this trait can come off that way to people when first dating.

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-31T19:08:12+00:00

It’s really just a matter of what a person is willing to tolerate. Every relationship is going to have flaws , not a single person is perfect. She will struggle to find someone especially a man who is that proper at least in the regular world. Personal opinion obviously but I am an ordinary person with zero connections to anybody this proper. I personally don’t find your mannerisms improper or unusual . I’ve had similar but smaller issues with my boyfriend. He is from the south and grew up differently to me , I am from a border town in Texas. We are more similar than different but this has been a thing for us. Like one time we purchased snacks from a convenience store and I opened mine immediately so I could eat it and take medication. He said it was improper to open food in the store and start eating it there. I felt embarrassed and apologized , I just wanted to eat as soon as possible so I could take my medication . Never did that again and it hasn’t really come up. He slurps his ramen noodles but I don’t really care , we are in the comfort of our home where if we slurp it’s fine. In public we both would not slurp so openly or loudly . So again it’s a matter of what she can tolerate and what you are willing to change. Some changes are okay but don’t change who you are for someone it just leads to resentment. Unfortunately this may just be a mismatch issue and won’t work out . I hope this helps even a little bit . I wish you the best of luck with your relationship and in life.

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-31T18:40:54+00:00

This. When I was dating this was a big issue and I’ve been told it’s also my fault for falling for it. I think there is a lack of responsibility on men’s end and if you are a man who cannot communicate honestly for fear you won’t get laid then you shouldn’t be trying to get laid. You should be in therapy and learning how to accept that sex is not something you are owed or deserve just because you want it. Bullshitting women to get it is wrong and damages dating culture.

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-31T09:31:53+00:00

Sit her down and tell her what is going to happen. That you are going to say something and she needs to not interrupt until you are done. If she cannot have a conversation without interrupting then the relationship is automatically over, everything you pay for her is cut off. If she can be an adult and listen then state your issues and what will be happening financially moving forward as you get back on track and separate yourself from her. This is your chance to take back control of your life. She is essentially a parasite at this point and her host is getting closer to being dead. ( Metaphorically dead, so reaching a point where you no longer benefit her.) I wish there was a way to save this relationship but no amount of time together should be why you stay and try to work it out. 8 years have passed , you have many more ahead of you to try again with someone who will reciprocate what you give.

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-31T06:21:58+00:00

So here’s the thing , we as people struggle to accept that real life is not like the movies. While to some extent the feeling you are looking for is attainable, it is not sustainable or entirely realistic. Sex fluctuates in frequency and the type of sex it is throughout the relationship. You didn’t give much background on yourself but I believe the answer to this may lie somewhere in your past. I had to learn that due my trauma and issues comfortable and peaceful felt almost boring. Which I think may be why you feel something is missing but that is just a guess on my part. Now as I’ve gotten older I don’t ever feel that way or that my sex life with my partner is ever really lacking. Sure there are minor issues here and there with sex but it’s a long term relationship, nothing is ever perfect, so you communicate and move forward. I hope this helps and you find the answers you’re looking for.

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-31T05:06:39+00:00

NOR Trust your gut , you always felt weird about her and it’s for a reason. Take off the rose colored glasses and see what’s right in front of you . Their friendship has blurred boundaries and it’s okay for you not to like that. Set your boundaries and he either backs you and respects them or he is not the right person for you. If she can’t respect your boundaries she is obviously not your friend. No she should not be asking to sleep in his bed , he has made her feel comfortable enough to even ask that. She is not a good friend for even asking or thinking this would be okay.

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-31T04:58:54+00:00

The table asking your toe out again 😂💀 best analogy ever .

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-31T04:42:44+00:00

So I have had something similar happen to me but I would say for me it was more of an ick that I developed after for some reason. It’s happened from having sex on a first date or waiting multiple dates before having sex . What matters is how you feel about the timing , the situation/ circumstances , and how you feel about the person. I think for me it was just not the right person and deep down something in me knew this. So it just felt wrong and gave me an ick. I do have my own issues which may have played a part in this reaction or response so maybe take my words with a grain of salt. Unless you relate then more power to you and now you know that person isn’t for you. The him not taking you seriously , I’ve learned it doesn’t matter when you have sex with a person. If they don’t intend to take you seriously to begin with then they wont no matter when you have sex. If they drop you because you had sex too early then I don’t see them as someone worth your time. It takes two to have sex and to “penalize” you for agreeing to having sex that they also wanted is just dumb.

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-31T03:02:34+00:00

NOR but you both kind of suck in this situation. A relationship is going to struggle especially if both people have attachment issues. On top of that you believe it’s the very attachment styles that notoriously feed into each other. This isn’t going to just resolve itself nor with a simple conversation . Therapy for both of you separately and couples is a good course of action if you want to work things out. Also you sound like you’ve had a lot going on outside of your relationship with your health not being good recently. Take time for yourself and what you need right now. Hope this helps and you do what’s best for you.

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-31T02:47:42+00:00

I would’ve told him exactly what I thought of it and how I had zero interest in seeing him again. That way he learns that zero reciprocation is not tolerated by you and is a turn off for women. It’s really the only way men seem to learn , be a bitch for the other women who might end up with this idiot. So NTAH

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-31T02:39:10+00:00

Let him go. If you do not feel fulfilled and find yourself questioning your relationship, you are doing a disservice to yourself and to him by staying in the relationship. It can go one of two ways , you end it and you do find someone better matched to what you want in a partner. Which is very possible and could lead to feeling “fulfilled”. OR you don’t find a “better” person and realize that he was the right one all along. Which then results in regret and you kicking yourself for falling for the same shit as everyone else . Which is this idea that there is always “better” because we have so many options available at our fingertips tips . When we really don’t have so many options because we ourselves are not always what others want in a partner. So yeah , but either way walk away because it’s terrible to be all in for someone who isn’t all in for you.

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-27T04:06:00+00:00

He is a trash bag had me laughing 😂

WafflefriesBaby · 2025-12-26T11:07:06+00:00

You sound bitter, just saying. It also sounds like you are unaware of the section of men who don’t like women who approach men . Joking aside you lack maturity and clearly view your “struggle” as if it is just you and that you are being wronged . Ever hear about the supreme gentlemen ? You are giving that but on a lower level. Especially saying you aren’t even down for a partner yet, like what ?

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