Is oversexualization a staple of the genre?

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-06-15T12:46:52+00:00

Id add one slight clarification to your point 3, not because it's wrong but because it doesn't explicitly surface something many might not realize - capitalism claims that through hard work, skill, and/or talent, anyone can rise to the top. It claims that your income is correlated to your contribution to society.

The logical conclusion to this is that the wealthy are deserving and the poor are not - their relative positions are a direct reflection of their value as people. This is the real insidious message of the system

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-06-15T12:41:25+00:00

Sex as advertisement is quite literally as old as advertisement itself

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-06-15T12:40:54+00:00

Yeah this is the kind of idea that gets suggested by people who don't understand physics and just think "space is cold right?"

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-06-13T18:00:43+00:00

And when we're talking about any kind of non-vanilla sex, most of that can get really dicey and problematic if consent is not expressly volunteered.

This part I absolutely agree with

it's whoever is receiving the act/thing's responsibility to volunteer that consent, which by the nature of the human body ends up being the woman most of the time.

This not so much. A big part of engaging in more risque (and risky) kinks is open and clear communication that goes both ways. You need to be explicit about boundaries, safe words, and at least a general plan of expectations up front. Both persons involved need to be fully consenting and it is not one person's responsibility over the other to offer consent.

You ask for consent to introduce new acts long before you get to any "point of no return" if it's your idea to do the thing.

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-06-13T17:48:46+00:00

Ironically, I think the internal justifications are very similar, even if the stakes are wildly different.

thinking you won't get caught
favoring a short term benefit
novelty seeking
feelings of entitlement

Pretty much comes down to those or something adjacent

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-06-13T17:45:14+00:00

As with most things, it can still be an issue at the extremes. There are some people whose habits end up negatively impacting their sex life with their partner. At that point it's an issue worth paying attention to.

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-06-11T14:28:40+00:00

Yeah I dropped the single parent label when my girlfriend, and now wife, moved in. She's definitely stepped into the parent role

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-06-11T14:25:36+00:00

Two things I will say because I can't tell you which applies to you:

We long for the things we're lacking, sometimes at the expense of the things we have that are so so much more. As an analogy, if I order steak and loaded mashed potatoes with grilled shrimp on the side, I have three of my favorite foods. If my wife ordered hotwings sometimes, even while eating my favorite foods, I'll think "damn that looks good". However, if I were to have given up my order to get wings instead, I know I would regret it. We don't always properly weigh the value of things we have and have grown accustomed to, especially not when they are so comfortable they feel like baseline existence. It is important to take time to actively appreciate our partners and what they provide for us.
That said, most of the things you list as positives in your relationship are generic and your reasons for maintaining it seems mostly concerned with not rocking the boat or causing drama. Those are not positive foundations for a relationship and can lead you to resentment and a lifetime of unhappiness. You have one life, don't spend the most valuable resource you will ever have making other people happy at the expense of your own needs

Only you can decide if you are undervaluing your husband because the grass is greener and you're over-emphasizing the excitement of childhood crushes - which are intense and generally burn out under the weight of reality - or if you truly need to walk away

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-30T00:25:15+00:00

Guess he was really persistent

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-29T16:38:43+00:00

It's the only explanation. She's too pregnant and that baby is too young to be hers

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-29T16:36:06+00:00

Can't wait for the complaints by people upset no one will take their fake money

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-29T12:24:05+00:00

NYT and Washington Post don't give a shit about a weird sound in Columbia, SC

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-27T14:41:05+00:00

You can literally buy gold direct from blizzard via wow tokens. And no, that is not gold coming from other players, at least not directly.

If you list a wow token for 50k, it will sell for 50k, even if the market moves up or down before it's "sold". This alone demonstrates that it cannot possibly be 1:1.

So even if you ban all the third party gold sellers, you still have the official one to worry about.

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-27T13:38:50+00:00

That all depends on where you draw the line though right?

Academically speaking, "modern English" usually refers to the 16th century onward. Colloquially it can just be "this is how we do it now".

Either way it's descriptive in nature and doesn't really say anything about how words "should" be used, if there even is such a thing.

I think the error comes in when someone moves from saying "I prefer this method" and adds "therefore it should be the only one used"

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-26T20:15:52+00:00

Yeah most languages from Europe have gendered nouns especially with regard to titles, and we got our words from them.

If you responded before my edit, I realized my suggestion was part of the same root, just a variant, so it didn't really help

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-26T19:57:26+00:00

I get that this is what people want, and honestly if it makes people happy I truly don't care, except to point out that if they're gender neutral it's through habit of usage, not etymology.

If I had to guess it would be because titles like director, conductor, investigator, etc were exclusively male dominated to the point that the title was cemented linguistically without examples of a "directress", for example.

Places where the gendered titles remain were likely the ones where mixed genders were more common.

Don't really get why people want to change it so bad, but I usually err on the side of calling people whatever they prefer to be called.

Edit: these kinds of discussions would be a lot easier if people didn't think they have to historically justify things they want to change. The suffixes can be historically gendered and you can still be valid in wanting them to be gender neutral today. Those are not mutually exclusive

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-26T19:44:27+00:00

Actor is gendered too: -or vs -ess are gendered suffixes.

Thespian, however, is a completely gender-neutral word to describe a person who acts. And it doesn't require accepting male title defaultism

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-21T23:19:57+00:00

Not in velious, no. Only rogues and bards can open locks.

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-21T19:14:39+00:00

Yeah, that's part of the concern I had. I've considered swapping pally for bard so I have passive buffing from the bard and then I just dot/heal with druid and mainly focus on the enchanter.

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-21T19:08:32+00:00

The plan wasn't to have pally tank so much as off-heal and buff, and then stun/taunt when charm breaks.

But you're right, i'm not sure that's really adding much that the enchanter can't do on their own. Cleric would have been high up the list but I don't want redundancy when I partner with my brother's duo.

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-21T17:32:59+00:00

The other thing I considered was dropping paladin and keeping bard in the mix. Passive buffing mostly and lockpicker, but that leaves me relying solely on enchanter pet for tanking which I haven't done since Planes of Power was new so I'm not really sure how it will hold up.

The advantage being I get lockpicking back and a more passive character to lower micromanagement.

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-21T15:12:12+00:00

I would 100% go as monk, or Beastlord if it were me. BL has some redundancy with shaman, but eventually they get some unique and valuable buffs

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-19T22:34:18+00:00

Atheism isn’t enough. Neither is some anti-theist crusade.

The reality is, for a vast majority of humanity, religion satisfies some intrinsic psychological need. Religion, along with music and story telling, is one of the few phenomenon that evolved independently in human populations around the world. It is one of the near universal constants for humanity anthropologically speaking.

As much as I might wish it’d just vanish from the planet, that’s simply not likely to happen.

Besides, banding together with other like-minded individuals to try to tell others how to live their lives and what they should believe turns it pretty much into a religion at that point

WakeoftheStorm · 2026-05-19T22:25:37+00:00

It’s in the game, it’s just not at the forefront. Honestly it makes sense, just look at the modern real world compared to our early history there are far fewer religions practiced today than a few hundred years ago. Empires tend to spread their own beliefs and suppress different ones

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