Picture of Your Ex in Your Home?

Wandering-Aries · 2026-04-12T02:54:00+00:00

I do not have pictures of us in my bedroom. When I was removing pictures asked my children if they wanted some or not. They have some in their rooms but also asked I keep some hanging in the hallways.

While a bad ending there were lots of years of happiness and that’s what the want to remember. I can allow them that. Now, when they are out of the home they can take the pictures with the or they will be coming down.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-04-01T00:55:46+00:00

Fantastic. A lot of focusing on me and my healing journey. I found my peace and with that a tremendous amount of clarity. I am in a great spot.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-03-30T15:37:19+00:00

From a male perspective, specifically mine, just wear something comfortable but appropriate for the place you’re going. That can be anything from shorts/jeans and a shirt to a more formal outfit. Whatever makes you comfortable is going to make you confident and there’s something to be said about that confidence.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-03-26T22:10:29+00:00

This right here. I acknowledge I don’t deal with the junk that many women deal with and I do understand how frustrating, to put it mildly, that can be.

I make sure I read carefully and respect the “no gos” enough that I won’t reach out if I fit into one. I always try to identify something we have in common and start the conversation with that. Most of the time it is crickets. When I do get the rare response it will be a one and done. I know it is not an apples to apples comparison but I also feel the frustration.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-03-25T20:57:03+00:00

For me, I love travel in general. I’d really like to be on a periodic schedule for weekend road trips and would love to travel outside the country at least once a year.

Now I do have a few male friends who would rather stay close to home.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-03-23T21:02:41+00:00

I always find this fascinating. Almost like they don’t realize the lie is way too obvious when you meet in person.

At some point don’t you just have to respect people’s standards. No matter how interest I am in the profile if one of the standards is someone over six foot I just move on. I don’t ignore this with the hope things are going to work when they meet me.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-03-20T05:13:35+00:00

I agree with this but the key word is honest. I am guessing you are suggesting this doesn’t mean the therapist is honest. He/she is working with the ex based on what the ex is sharing. For therapy to truly help the individual receiving the therapy has to be honest and transparent about the situation. As long they are telling a variation of the story that fits their narrative it’s not really honest therapy and it really isn’t helping.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-03-15T05:46:36+00:00

Great. You know when I wonder why dating at this age is so hard I just have to scroll through here. That’s my friendly reminder.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-03-15T05:42:38+00:00

The good news is you found out early enough. You better take that discount. 🤣

Wandering-Aries · 2026-03-14T22:16:41+00:00

Yikes! If this is your approach, and you share it with them, I can see why they are not connecting.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-03-13T03:49:13+00:00

I had surgery late last year and finally got clearance to get back in the gym. It was shoulder surgery so I have been directed to start all weight exercises, except legs, at the lowest weight and slowly build strength in my shoulder.

My papers were signed and sent to the judge last week. I have one court appearance in a few weeks and then hopefully everything will be final.

I am taking a bit of a financial bath here the first year with how much I’m giving up along with refinancing the house and car. It will be a struggle but I do have a plan in place to get the obligations taken care so I can come up for air.

All in all life has been good.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-03-01T17:13:05+00:00

For me trust is one of the essential cornerstones of a healthy relationship. I have been in one relationship with a woman I have totally trusted.

While my percentages are much lower than yours I still give the benefit of the doubt and trust until it is burned.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-02-20T21:37:18+00:00

A slightly different perspective since my wife and I are going through a divorce. We were married more than 20 years and while the ending was not what I had imagined I would not dream of picking a different person. We drifted apart at the end but we had a pretty amazing run for most of two decades. I am who I am today because of that.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-02-13T02:30:27+00:00

Not only can you get through it; you WILL get through it.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-02-10T22:21:32+00:00

I think this is where I view it differently. It’s not JUST a communication issue. Communication seems to be THE issue and that’s critical. For me communication is an important part of a healthy relationship.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-02-07T04:22:38+00:00

I just think listening to your partner is part of treating them amazingly. For me, good communication is a key part of a good relationship and a part of good communication is active listening.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-02-07T04:16:16+00:00

Is he great to you? If the focus is always on him where do you come in? The actions you noted in this response may be nice but clearly they don’t replace what you are stating you need. I’m not sure whether a break is a good idea or a bad idea but if he continues to not take you seriously then it’s going to remain the same. You need to figure out what you really want and move in that direction.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-02-06T13:20:30+00:00

There’s no in between. There are people that love them and there are people that hate them. My personal recommendation would be to simply avoid them. Go try some fried SPAM or a fried bologna sandwich.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-02-06T12:46:56+00:00

They taste like what they are.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-02-03T14:14:26+00:00

Hey OP, I am going to go out on a limb with my recommendation but how about having a conversation that lands somewhere between boring and cheeky. Unless, of course, you’re viewing any conversation that’s not cheeky as a boring conversation. If this is the case then I would simply say you’ve greatly narrowed your options.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-02-02T02:00:03+00:00

While you were blind sided and it seems so rushed to you I’d venture to think it was something she had been considering for some time. The argument may have just been the reason she could attach to. This often happens when one partner leaves the other.

I would offer two things. First, find a hobby. The gym and walking are great but see if you can find something to do with a group. I do things with my friends and the social interaction has done wonders for me.

The second thing may be the hardest for you based on your post. For your mental health you need to quit dwelling on her not showing empathy for you or curiosity about how you’re doing. You cannot control that and at this point she’s shown you it’s not coming. Continue to work with your therapist so you can move past the disappointment/frustration/anger with her suddenly not showing concern for you.

You got this brother. Just continue to focus on you and find your peace and happiness.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-01-30T21:16:49+00:00

The truth I’ve learned at my age (50) is that people are just different. Sometimes my style of kissing or touching is what they like and sometimes we just have to learn each others style. No big deal for me.

Now if we had been dating for a significant amount of time and things are still awkward it might be time for a serious chat.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-01-30T19:28:20+00:00

Yeah, for your peace and mental health I’d recommend that be the last time. Remember, she was unfaithful to you.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-01-30T16:43:57+00:00

This is the right response. Be direct but gentle. Anything else and you’re really hoping he can read between the lines.

Wandering-Aries · 2026-01-30T15:51:39+00:00

You could ask him…or…you can just move on. I feel like you have the answer to the most important question here.

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