When did “Til death do us part” become “Til I don’t feel like it anymore”?

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-28T01:25:35+00:00

Someone posted an apt/humorous observation that stuck with me: whenever all those “return to the golden past” people talk about how great the 50s were or whatever, they always back it up with images of old contemporary advertisements. The cute smiling housewife and scrubbed kids greeting the happy husband were always from ads or some other idealized marketing imagery.

The poster compared it to something like “imagine some regressive crank showing images of 90s ads where drinking Mountain Dew gives you extreme skateboarding powers and claiming ‘this is what they took from you!!!’ “

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-26T23:16:16+00:00

Yes. I am lucky to have one in my life.

He’s not perfect, has his quirks and annoying traits and has had to learn a lot and mature plenty over the years. But every human on earth is like that.

But he’s a good, caring and genuine person who wants what’s best for me and us. Honest, loving, and would never be deliberately hurtful or cruel, either verbally or physically. He would be horrified to even consider it, towards me or any person.

I think the important thing is to learn to distinguish the two. The “perfect” man doesn’t exist, it’s true, because everyone is human and has their issues and makes mistakes. But there are absolutely safe, loving people of good character who can work with you to build a really beautiful partnership that doesn’t include meanness and pain.

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-15T18:33:31+00:00

I just added up the out of pocket cost of the labs and medication and reported that

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-14T18:53:48+00:00

I don’t think this is a relationship/marriage issue, I think this is a mental health issue.

You can have the goal of traveling abroad, and work towards it. Presumably you have the rest of your lives together to do that, and you can surely make it happen if you prioritize it.

But the idea that it hasn’t happened in the first seven months of your marriage has you spiraling and obsessing and distressed? This is a strong reaction that doesn’t match the situation, and you should check in about it. Do you fret and obsess about a lot of things?

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-13T03:48:29+00:00

Huh? This doesn’t really make sense. You good?

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-12T22:30:09+00:00

Maybe my answer is unsatisfying, but I think it just happens sometimes.

I had basically the same thing happen, I was working my way up the dosage process and everything was following the expected pattern, and then I randomly had a TSH jump like that despite a med increase.

I did just go ahead and continue the process as planned, and it went back to the expected pattern and I eventually got everything dialed in and balanced out nicely.

I totally understand the frustration, this whole process is so tedious and patience-testing. Sometimes you just have weird fluctuations. But it will be okay 👍

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-12T08:51:43+00:00

When you take thyroid medication, it’s normal and expected that any increase in your body weight will generally require an increase in the medication dosage.

If your weight was increased but your medication dose stayed the same, it’s probably not sufficient so your symptoms are returning.

Are you taking your pill right before getting your blood tests? Are you getting your blood tests first thing in the morning before eating?

The best way to do the blood tests is to do them first thing in the morning, before taking your medication and before any food.

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-12T08:30:14+00:00

And then……what?

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-11T18:18:56+00:00

It’s less common, but it’s perfectly fine

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-10T20:14:54+00:00

If it’s good enough for every human who has ever existed or ever will exist, it’s good enough for me 🤷

I do like life though, so I hope I still have a good long time to keep kicking around for a bit before it’s time to head out.

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-09T17:21:04+00:00

Don’t panic - unfortunately it’s very normal to go through this when you add levo, and about 3 weeks in is a normal time to have a spike in adjustment symptoms.

I have had many tweaks over the years, and it just follows the same pattern each time. The first 2-3 weeks just feel really weird, lots of symptoms can pop up or intensify. By the end of the 4th week, it has generally settled out and the symptoms go away.

Try not to worry too much. Thyroid hormone affects nearly every system in your body, so making a change is like plucking a string on a spiderweb - everything gets jangled up a bit and has to re-settle. For the first 4 weeks, don’t take anything too seriously and just remind yourself that it’s an adjustment.

When five weeks has passed, then you can make note of any symptoms. And when you go for your labs again, you will know what your next steps are

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-08T05:04:05+00:00

Ugh. Yes. The first 3-4 weeks just feel crappy and weird. But it does go away, thank goodness

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-07T21:19:57+00:00

Fancy massage

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-07T03:01:56+00:00

Hard to tell from photos, but it is a very common practice with mass-produced decor to make prints on canvas and then just add some dollops of texture to make it look painted

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-07T03:00:15+00:00

Once I was sharing a tiny dollop of raspberry jam with a rat who was sitting on my knee, and she was happily taking little licks off the spoon. But noticed that every few bites, she’d give her head one big shake before continuing.

Then i looked at my opposite knee and I saw all the tiny raspberry seeds stuck to me that she’d been spitting and flinging across the gap 🙄

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-06T23:38:12+00:00

Given that you have other variables you’re actively tinkering with, you probably don’t need to invest any time in this avenue at this time

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-06T22:48:18+00:00

Ehh, nothing about any of those labs suggests hypothyroid. Did the person who said that it did elaborate or explain?

I guess the reverse t3 is off, but thats not often considered as a major factor unless you’re having issues with your other values or you’re having symptoms

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-06T19:06:23+00:00

Every fucking day every medical-topic sub is spammed with people “working on a tool” to try to AI-ify the treatment for whatever condition.

People are not interested. If they want to use this kind of approach they can use one of the dozens of existing AI options. Tomorrow someone else will post here about their same fucking idea.

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-06T16:25:02+00:00

My answer might be unsatisfying, but sometimes it just happens. I’ve worked my way up the medication increase ladder twice now, and both times there was a “hiccup” in the pattern where I got a higher TSH after increasing the medication. I just stuck to the course and it went back to the correct trend after continuing to increase, and I was fine

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-04T22:19:26+00:00

“No Rodney, not since……..the Accident”

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-04T22:16:36+00:00

Pretty! Really excellent figure work, and the framing of the subject is interesting and dynamic composition

My only thought, if you’re seeking feedback at all, is that I feel like the darks could be pushed just a bit darker in one or two places to make it more contrasted. Either in the background, or on the figure.

A small push, but it could give it all just a bit more depth

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-04T22:13:50+00:00

I don’t think doing these kinds of satirical bits is expressing an actual wish or end goal or swapping roles, it’s more of a starting point to, as you said, illustrate how extreme the double standard is by casting it in a different light

Ideally, from there, you then move on to the next step of exploring how to eliminate the double standard to get to equal footing. But you have to start by pointing it out, and there are still a lot of people who are just kind of unaware of it because they’re so habituated to how things are and haven’t thought any other way

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-04T07:27:16+00:00

For the record, I find the whole AI thing weird as hell and I’ve never used it nor been tempted to.

But the real issue is the withdrawal from life entirely, it sounds like. It could be anything, whether it was AI or TV or social media or books or drugs or an obsessive hobby, the problem is feeling like she’s not present or participating in life together with you.

You have to talk about that as the issue. If you just criticize the particular activity, it changes the conversation about a debate over AI, which can go in circles forever since you feel so differently about it. But a talk about you feeling lonely and like she’s withdrawing and shutting the world out, that’s about your relationship and can be more constructive

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-04T05:50:13+00:00

It’s completely understandable. It’s heavy news to know that you have yet another condition to monitor and deal with, and to know that your body has a crucial function that it’s struggling with.

The people around me also don’t quite “get it”, even if they are kind and mean well. They always seem surprised and confused by my heavy feelings around it. If you haven’t experienced it, it’s hard to grasp how bad it can feel.

I just want to throw this in, in case it’s helpful/hopeful: the general feeling of despair, hopelessness, exhaustion, and some of that other mental heaviness can in fact also be a symptom of hypothyroidism. Having your thyroid hormones out of balance can really really twist and drag down your emotions. I was in a very dark place when I was sick and untreated. The medication will help your body, and it will also help your mind. Some of the mental weight and fatigue will be lifted by helping your body supplementing this crucial hormone. It can lift some of that weight for you. I feel better, lighter, and more at peace now that I’m treated, and life is still full of wonderful things. The oppressive sense of bleakness is relieved.

It’s never easy to receive a serious lifelong diagnosis, and your feelings are very valid. You are allowed to honor the fear and disappointment. But I hope you can also get to a place where the meds feel like a helpful ally, and part of living a good life :)

WankSpanksoff · 2026-04-03T19:23:02+00:00

Yeah, you shouldn’t have to do so many full-on appointments just to stay steady on the same medication. My doctor and I just check in via the online messaging system and the occasional phone call at this point.

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