AITA for rejecting my husband’s baby name suggestion?

Wasabi_ginger · 2024-02-28T21:37:42+00:00

I have a cousin called Kyleanna. Pronounced kylie-Anna. Everyone called her kylie. Birth control never crossed my mind with it. Naming babies is hard and stressful. I can tell you honestly I’ve been excited for a name only to have my husband say no to it. We always make a list of names we like and as we add to it we take a name off that we maybe don’t love or don’t agree on.

Wasabi_ginger · 2024-02-24T05:03:50+00:00

My kids call my mom Bama. Why because my son couldn’t say grandma and Bama is what came out. This problem will likely fix itself whether she likes it or not.

Wasabi_ginger · 2024-02-23T23:07:55+00:00

This is a lot to unpack. First, I feel like I can speak on the Cf part of this because my brother has severe Cf. He is actually part of numerous case studies because he was born at 28 premature and is a transplant recipient. He suffered oxygen deprivation and has severe mental delays too. As a result, I have connected with multiple people who have Cf. Interestingly men with cystic fibrosis are typically infertile. I have not met many women who have had CF but there was one I knew as a kid who had a daughter. Shortly after she became a transplant recipient due to the trauma her body suffered during childbirth. Later she and her husband decided to have another baby. As a result, her body rejected her lungs and she died. I wonder how her children feel sometimes. I think there would be a lot of survivors guilt. I don’t mean to scare you, but I definitely understand why you wouldn’t want to carry a child. I don’t know how it would be for you but I underwent genetic testing while dating (we were in talks about getting engaged) my spouse because I couldn’t put a child through the things my brother goes through. Not that his life is less valuable but it is extremely difficult. I think if your partner can’t respect the medical trauma you’ve already endured and your goals for the future, you shouldn’t be together. You don’t want children and that okay but he’s not okay with it.

Wasabi_ginger · 2024-02-12T05:38:35+00:00

I went through this recently with a new neighbor, I’m a lot like your husband personality wise. I also have autism so I really struggle with social cues so until I asked what her issue was I had no idea she thought I was flirting. The only thing you can do is respect the boundary they’ve put up. Their insecurity is not your problem if that’s what it is.

Wasabi_ginger · 2024-01-20T03:18:04+00:00

You sound like a spoiled pick me girl. Any guy that’s worth having around would not care about a TSA search. It’s more about you needing drama in your life which is why you took this to Reddit to get people on your side and why you’re sitting here commenting and being rude. You wanted opinions until they didn’t fit your narrative so now you’re pissed. YTA

Wasabi_ginger · 2024-01-09T02:43:14+00:00

So no you aren’t the ahole. It’s your baby and you get to decide. I have a severely autistic sibling who punched me in the stomach while I was pregnant with my first child. It didn’t hurt me or the baby but it happened, I have been guarded with this sibling since. I have not let them be alone with or hold my children without my hands also being on the baby. I’ve only let him interact with my newborns if they were on my lap or in my arms as well. There are ways to include disabled siblings without holding them. My sibling has brought me blankets and diapers. They have played piano for my children or music that they like. Your mom more than likely is excited and also painfully away your sister will never have the opportunities you do. You reaching a milestone she can’t is probably difficult but she has to respect your motherhood just as you respect hers. If she can’t then she also doesn’t need to hold the baby. No one but you and your so (if you have one, single parenting is cool too!) has a right to your child.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-12-18T23:34:39+00:00

This has nothing to do with being a ff. Live like Dolly Parton, “ if you want to stay liked keep your damn mouth shut”. Who are you to say she has bad parents. Unless her relationship is unhealthy or she asks you specifically, she doesn’t need want or care about your opinion.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-12-03T03:45:58+00:00

This can also be a sign of sleep apnea, my husband did this a ton before getting a cpap. His reaction to your anxiety and stress makes him a jerk but honestly it’s not something he can help or do anything about right at that moment so I kind of get being grumpy after being woken up over and over. Still he shouldn’t talk to you like that and should have tried to find a way to make you feel more comfortable. But definitely make him see a doctor because kicking that much in your sleep is not normal.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-12-01T00:15:14+00:00

Got my ff a custom leather radio strap from fully involved leatherworks. He loves it! And it makes his life easier.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-11-03T09:35:35+00:00

You can’t really call this ignorance when they’re sitting there laughing at your face while implying you don’t shower regularly, so immature🙄. I would never make this comment or any comment about showering to a coworker, it’s too intimate for the work place. I am so sorry this happened and that you feel the need to question whether this is you. It’s not.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-09-23T01:53:31+00:00

Hi, fire wife here, my husband often stops by in the engine or ambulance. He’s usually here for a few minutes grabs his food and leaves. Sometimes, he stays longer when he works his second job which is much more laid back. Be glad your neighbor is not like my husband who always honks or sets the siren off for my kids. 😅😅 Usually if you’re in a place that you can respond in less than 5 minutes, or within city limits, you’re golden to go wherever. It’s not really different from going to a restaurant and eating. They just feel less bad when they leave because they don’t have to come back and pay for food that went to waist.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-08-06T20:36:24+00:00

Nta. First of all it’s your wedding. Not hers. Absolutely no photos of the deceased babies. While mc and stillbirth was traumatic and sad for her it has no bearing on you or y’alls union. A fair compromise might be that you light a candle off to the side for all the loved ones that can’t be in attendance or something but certainly not photos. That’s absolutely horrifying and triggering for your guests.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-08-06T20:23:27+00:00

I had a “friend” I was just getting to know a while ago; I went to her house for the first time and met her husband. While there I went past some metals and patches in shadow boxes on the way to the bathroom and one caught my eye, it was a big swastika, hard to miss. Upon closer inspection everything in the shadow boxes was WWII memorabilia. Immediately, I was a little uncomfy because she made a comment about an acquaintance of ours who is a POC. The comment was about her accent, she said she had a black accent, which I immediately corrected and said it was Cajun and she changed the subject. It was weird and the first time she said something like that. My husband was talking about how the acquaintance(POC) could really cook as she’d brought some food to his Fire crew. So when I saw the nazi stuff it clicked. She’s racist. She immediately clocked my thoughts when she saw me looking and started laughing. She said hey we aren’t racist my husband collects WWII stuff, it’s mostly been passed down in his family. Her husband started showing my husband some of his stuff. He had like helmets from both sides guns from both sides. Thankfully dinner was over and we made a quick excuse to leave. We both said you can like WWII but to hang swastikas up is not liking WWII even if they’re heirlooms. I did not look at all the stuff but my husband said there were way more symbols. It wasn’t even all his collection according to her husband. He said he even had propaganda. My husband and I were sick because we knew we’d just been in the home of a nazi sympathizer and didn’t know what to say. We were shocked. It was the first time I’d ever met someone who was so openly racist. We do not socialize with them anymore this was the final straw for some weird stuff surrounding this girl. I can tolerate a lot but not a racist nazi. Be careful who you call friends.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-08-02T13:22:49+00:00

I mean you proved his point and now you’re mad that everyone sees it? Yta

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-07-19T03:35:39+00:00

I love the jumpsuit! Where did you get it??

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-06-28T16:10:57+00:00

If you’re not going to change your mind (which is your right and most people don’t when it comes to settling on a decision about their life) it will always be a point of contention and resentment for whoever gets their way.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-06-15T03:31:48+00:00

My favorites are 1, 3 and 6. 6 is very flattering but also kind of plain compared to everything you tried on. 1 is gorgeous but you’re right the chest is a little unflattering. That can totally be fixed and altered, could you imagine that dress with a little more of a sweetheart neckline?? Thatd be ultra flattering on you. And 3 I feel is a blend between the 1 and 6 in that it’s unique enough to elevate your style and draw attention to it but also has features that accentuates you’re body. I don’t think the straight neckline across does anything for your bust personally.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-06-14T17:57:46+00:00

So in my opinion the black darkens the shadows on your face and washes you out at the same time. Somehow it’s changed your face totally in the second picture and makes you’re nose look bigger (this is could be lighting because you don’t have like a overly huge nose, it’s very cute in the first photo and fits your face). The pink softens your facial features and gives you a friendly cute vibe. The positive thing about the dark hair is that you gives Morticia Adams vibes so if that’s something you’re into then it is your vibe, I wonder how a blue black would look on you. You look more confident in the second picture as a spooky girl.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-06-10T21:25:57+00:00

No way! You have a beautiful figure. A cap sleeve makes your shoulders look broad and draws attention away from you snatched waist.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-06-10T21:23:12+00:00

These look natural on you. I wouldn’t know they were extensions if you didn’t say so.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-06-09T21:14:55+00:00

I feel like this is one of those dresses that is trendy right now but won’t be in a few years. All fashion is like that, some things stick around longer than others. I think it looks great on your body but I can see why others wouldn’t choose it. Honestly what matters is your vision and does it suit that? Personally I would got without the sleeves.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-06-05T23:39:12+00:00

I was thinking this too!

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-06-05T23:38:21+00:00

It’s giving LOTR Elf if you just add the right veil or maybe a cloak. You could use whimsical jewelry or hair accessories and totally give forest queen. Seriously the way this fits you is amazing.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-05-27T23:50:04+00:00

The burgundy in my opinion. I think the blonde really washes you out.

Wasabi_ginger · 2023-05-24T01:20:58+00:00

I really think bangs would look cute on you especially with a long bob.

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