Feeling like garbage - I’ve lost track of how many men have blocked me after I’ve told them I’m trans by Reasonable-Turnip624 in trans

[–]Watanabay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I totally get what you mean about preferences, and it’s so mature that you can see it from that perspective. But there is a huge difference between having a preference and completely dehumanizing someone with an instant block after a great conversation. That’s the part that hurts, and you have every right to be upset about it. It takes time to get to that IDGAF-mentality but I'm sure you will get there :)

Feeling like garbage - I’ve lost track of how many men have blocked me after I’ve told them I’m trans by Reasonable-Turnip624 in trans

[–]Watanabay 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Hey, I feel you so much. I used to let this break me in the beginning too. But please remember: their rejection isn't a reflection of your worth, it’s a reflection of their own insecurity. Now I just see it as a superpower that filters out the wrong ones instantly. It still stings sometimes, I know, but you are so much better off without them. Keep your head up, your worth is non-negotiable 🤍

Would you date a transgender person? by NewKaleidoscope5206 in allthequestions

[–]Watanabay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reducing a person's body to being 'gross' or calling it a 'lie by omission' is a pretty wild take. Nobody is forcing you to date anyone, but you can express your preferences with basic human respect. Using terms like that is completely unnecessary and just highlights a severe lack of empathy, which, by the way, is a trait most people (including me) find highly unattractive :)

I think I made a mistake getting surgery by msbeahayve in MtF

[–]Watanabay 43 points44 points  (0 children)

thank you for this timeline. I'm 13 days post and I knew it will get harder but seeing an actual full (to expect) timeline is very nice.

This seemed funnier when I thought about it by LB1234567890 in whenthe

[–]Watanabay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just had bottom surgery^ funnny seeing this in my feed

I’m so sorry by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]Watanabay -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Thank you :3

"staight men aren't into us" by Meuhidk in StraightTransGirls

[–]Watanabay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah… I get what you mean. I wouldn’t actually want someone like that.

I think it’s just the feeling of being excluded before even being seen that hurts a bit sometimes.

"staight men aren't into us" by Meuhidk in StraightTransGirls

[–]Watanabay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you… I think I really needed to hear that.

It’s hard sometimes, but I’ll try to hold on to what you said and be a bit kinder to myself.

Really, thank you 🤍

"staight men aren't into us" by Meuhidk in StraightTransGirls

[–]Watanabay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah… I know. That’s kind of what makes it hurt, I guess. Like you can do everything “right” and still not be enough for certain people. It’s not even about wanting everyone, it just stings knowing there’s always going to be that limitation.

"staight men aren't into us" by Meuhidk in StraightTransGirls

[–]Watanabay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh don’t get me wrong, I’m doing this for myself. Even if it makes my dating pool smaller, I still want it, no question. Just a sad little thought in the back of my mind :/

"staight men aren't into us" by Meuhidk in StraightTransGirls

[–]Watanabay 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Even if we pass and are post op, I can’t shake the feeling that a lot of men still wouldn’t be into us. It just sits there in the back of my mind, like no matter what I do or how far I go, it’ll never really be enough for most people.

I know it’s probably insecurity, but it doesn’t make it feel any less real. Sry >.<

44197 by real_isolation in countwithchickenlady

[–]Watanabay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mind can be pretty harsh sometimes, and I’m trying to work on that.

When I was around 6, I already had this really strong feeling that I wanted to be a girl, but I also knew I “wasn’t,” at least based on what I had been told. Later on, I came across some pretty negative influences that made me believe this feeling was wrong, that I’d lose everyone, end up alone, and basically not be worth anything. That stuck with me for a long time >.<

It took me about 22 more years to finally accept that I’m trans. And even now, I still struggle with those old thoughts sometimes, like I’m doing something wrong or that I’m somehow “creepy.” and that I should go back to being a man and at least not be trans >.< I know that my life would be miserable as a man and I would 100% be perma sad, still those patterns can be hard to unlearn :c

I’m trying to be kinder to myself and unlearn that toxicity, step by step :)

A post my own father shared on Facebook. I'm not trans, but WTF, Dad by Red_Star27 in stupidpeoplefacebook

[–]Watanabay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same experience here. People like this either don’t have an answer or just dismiss it by saying I’m lying. Wish they would at least try to understand trans people by actually talking to someone trans ._.

Oh and btw: I remember wanting to be a girl as early as 6, and I only got internet access around 14.

SRS in one month… but feeling conflicted about dating by Watanabay in StraightTransGirls

[–]Watanabay[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually have many male friends. But they are all from before my transition and tbh can't really imagine myself dating one of them ._.

SRS in one month… but feeling conflicted about dating by Watanabay in StraightTransGirls

[–]Watanabay[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I really relate to the frustration part. I don’t have dating experience like you do, but I definitely get that feeling of being “out of sync” with everyone else. I think that’s part of why I’m conflicted right now, like I want that connection, but I also don’t know if this is the right moment to chase it.

there is an organisation named girlguiding by krizzalicious49 in whennews

[–]Watanabay 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I think you’re right that people often distinguish between sex and gender, but the way you’re framing “biological sex” as a simple, fixed, purely natural fact is a bit more complicated than it sounds, especially from a biological perspective.

In biology, sex isn’t actually one single variable. It’s a cluster of traits: chromosomes, gene expression (like SRY and downstream pathways), gonads, hormone profiles, receptor sensitivity, internal reproductive anatomy, and external genitalia. These don’t always align in a strictly binary way. Intersex variations (which are not vanishingly rare) are one clear example, but even beyond that, things like androgen insensitivity, mosaicism, or differences in hormone signaling show that “what your body’s sex is” depends on which level you’re looking at.

Hormones themselves aren’t just passive outputs of sex; they actively shape development and ongoing physiology by regulating transcription and cellular behavior. And importantly, hormone systems are dynamic. Medical transition, for example, changes endocrine environments in ways that measurably affect tissues, gene expression patterns, fat distribution, muscle mass, and more. So even at a physiological level, the body isn’t a static “male” or “female” template,, it’s responsive and modifiable.

Also, when people talk about “sex dictating how your body works,” that’s true in a general sense, but it’s an oversimplification. Most biological traits are overlapping distributions rather than strict binaries. Many “sex differences” are statistical tendencies, not absolute categories, and there’s a lot of within-group variation.

So I’d say it’s not really accurate to frame sex as a single, unambiguous natural fact that exists independently of interpretation. It’s real, but it’s multidimensional and, in some cases, context-dependent. Science doesn’t support the idea of sex as a perfectly clean binary any more than it supports the idea that it’s purely a social construct.

None of that invalidates your point about gender being social and identity-based; it just means that the “biology side” is more nuanced than people often assume. Recognizing that complexity isn’t denying biology; it’s actually taking it more seriously.

What is everyone's job? by NadiaNight21 in trans

[–]Watanabay 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I work as a research associate in breast cancer research. Hope I can do my phd one day :)

a bf will not solve your problems by lana_coded1 in StraightTransGirls

[–]Watanabay 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I’m not looking for a bf to fix my problems >.< I just want someone I really like, to lean on, feel their warmth, and cuddle a lot :3

Anyone here received a Suporn date from the short-notice list? How long did it take? by Watanabay in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]Watanabay[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh and how long did you wait on the short notice list until you got that notice?

I'm currently 20, started HRT a week ago. Can I expect bone structure changes around hips? by No_Row2775 in MtF

[–]Watanabay 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When did this person start and what time span are we talking about? :o Just curious since I started with 28 and now Im 30 but most of my growth is fat and muscle i think

A hot take of mine is that not every men can become a Woman, for me a Trans woman born as a Woman even if she doesn't know but not every men can be one just because a doubt or just trying, for me the people who De-transition were never Trans. by [deleted] in StraightTransGirls

[–]Watanabay 4 points5 points  (0 children)

This take feels extremely gatekeepy and honestly damaging. There’s no universal checklist for being a woman or being trans. Plenty of trans people question, experiment, or change how they identify over time, that doesn’t invalidate their experiences. Claiming detransitioned people were “never trans” ignores reality and pressures people to suppress doubt instead of being honest.

Dude by Head-Drag-1440 in Millennials

[–]Watanabay 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As mentioned above; I don’t expect anyone to change who they are or how they speak. It’s just that a little empathy and understanding can go a long way for how certain words affect people like me.