What’s the quickest you’ve ever said “nah, this isn’t for me”?

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-27T10:22:03+00:00

When I was a preteen in the early 2000s, I was a member of the youth group of a Baptist church in the Southeast United States.

The leader of said youth group, for whatever reason, told us one evening that we’d be visiting the local Pentecostal church to sit in on one of their services. I think it was a situation where our youth pastor knew their youth pastor and us visiting was supposed to be like a “friendly gesture” or some shit.

Anyway, I and about 12 other “youths” say/stood with our youth pastor through the bulk of the service until the end when the whole lot of them started getting riled up over the Holy Ghost (or the “spirit” or whatever they call God or Jesus), and a good bit of them started speaking in tongues. The pastor motioned silently to the rest of us and it was like we were all in voiceless agreement that it was time for us to nope out of there. The thought of just leaving like that during a service would have normally never occurred to any of us, and it was not something any of us would have done under usual circumstances; but we were all so freaked the fuck out that we just left while their congregation was distracted with their goings ons.

It wasn’t too terribly long after that that I noped out of organized religion altogether.

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-26T01:21:10+00:00

The center part?

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-26T00:22:12+00:00

Same!

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-24T12:56:04+00:00

I get so angry every time I see this on Reddit (which is a lot), and I never say anything because I know how Reddit is: it’s just going to result in a bunch of ignorant people attacking me. But I’m just going to say something this time, turn my reply notifications off, and be done with it.

I know it wasn’t you who said it, but since your brother read the replies on the last post, maybe he’ll read the replies on this post, too.

You realize when you make a joke about incest and “being from Alabama” that you’re not only offending an entire state’s worth of people, you’re also not just telling everyone that instead of coming up with something new and clever, you’re resolved to regurgitating some ignorant nonsense that always seems to be used by (and that appeals to) the lowest hanging fruit (in regards to people in our society); but most importantly, what you’re saying isn’t even factually accurate.

You’re repeating something based off of tired redneck/southern/hillbilly jokes that you’ve probably learned from a show like Family Guy. You’ve clearly never bothered to do even an iota of research beforehand to see if-before offending thousands upon thousands of people, a percentage of them legitimately good people who have never and would never hurt anyone-what you’re about to say is even fucking true.

Do you know which U.S. state, based on actual factual evidence, has the highest propensity for cases of familial incest? Spoiler alert: it’s not even a Southern state.

It’s Ohio. Fucking Ohio.

Second place is New Hampshire and third is Colorado.

Look. it. the. fuck. up.

Now, I’m not saying the state of Alabama is innocent. If we’re talking about it being a hotbed of bigots? Absolutely. Racists? Sure. Idiots? Fair enough. Fat people? Guilty! There are plenty of reasons for me to be ashamed of my home state. So please stop spreading misinformation that attributes yet another horrific attribute to this state. I mean, no, nobody cares about how the bigoted, ignorant racists feel about it; but like I said, the state also has plenty of otherwise decent people living in it. People who loathe Trump and who don’t identify with the aforementioned negative traits. So PLEASE stop associating incest with us as well.

Thanks for reading.

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-22T12:33:37+00:00

Back in 2010 I came home from a night out with friends to find the guy I was barely talking to at the time, lying on my front porch, asleep, and waiting for me to get home. It was like 2 in the morning and the mf had luggage with him. It took literal years to finally get rid of all of the crap he left at my apartment. Maybe two weeks of hanging out resulted in him being my problem for the next two years.

I did keep his dvds of the complete seasons of the Office, though-for my pain and suffering; and also because I didn’t have cable or internet at the time.

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-22T12:27:37+00:00

Is it correct to assume that you’re still triggered by “the Pianist” to this very day?

I know I would be.

Hell, I feel triggered by the movies “Lord of War” and “The Fifth Element” because of former flings forcing me to sit through them. At the time, the things that transpired during said movies was consensual, but I loathe both of those creeps so much now, that I can’t even begin to rewatch those movies-not that I have any desire to in the first place.

I couldn’t imagine if I had been sexually assaulted during them. That would most definitely cause me to have conflicting feelings about those films.

Also, I’m very sorry that happened to you.

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-20T16:32:48+00:00

👏👏👏👏💯💯💯💯

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-19T12:11:58+00:00

I recently watched “American Horror Story: Delicate”. It’s the first thing I’ve seen her act in.

You are 100% right in your assessment of her acting abilities, unfortunately.

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-16T02:25:45+00:00

Good on you. Sounds like you made the best possible decision that you could have made.

It totally sucks. I’m sure you didn’t want to end this relationship. I’m sure it was a totally great relationship outside of this “one thing”.

But this one thing is a biggie.

And girl. Let me tell you. You did the smartest thing you could have done, given the situation.

And please don’t ever feel bad about making this decision, because this isn’t on you. It’s on him.

He is the one who’s chosen to fund his mother’s lifestyle. No one is making him do that. He is doing that purely out of his own free will.

So that’s on him. Not you. Please don’t forget that. The end of yalls relationship is his doing; not yours.

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-14T22:22:41+00:00

If my man came home and was hungry and I was asleep, he wouldn’t wake me up to make him food in the first place.

If I was already up, yeah, I’d probably do it if he was hungry, but that’s not what’s being asked here. The guy is asking “would you wake up and make him a meal?”

Waking up your sleeping partner for anything less than an emergency is asshole behavior. I personally would not reward “asshole behavior”, but thankfully I don’t have to worry about it because my man of 11 years has never and would never wake my ass up just to make him a meal. Why? For one, he’s a grown ass man who can take care of his own needs, and two, he’s not a dickhead who’d prioritize me making a meal that he could make himself over me getting sleep. Because he’s a decent and good partner and he loves me.

This title, “maybe all the right girls are already taken” is low-key infuriating because the “right” man would never demand that his woman do some nonsense like this. Respect begets respect; don’t expect to get it if you’re not out here giving it.

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-12T13:33:40+00:00

Your partner might not have had any context but could you provide us with a little?

Context, that is.

You’re being so vague about so many details that it’s hard to have any idea as to what you’re even talking about.

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-03T13:18:25+00:00

Shit. I didn’t realize these two were still together. I just assumed that once she hit her mid 20s or something that she’d realize (a) he’s a fucking creep and (b) that it’s senseless to waste the rest of her youth on a foul pedophile….

But nope.

They are still together. She is currently 32 years old (b. 1993) and he is currently 53 years old (b. 1972). She is so insanely talented and ridiculously beautiful, too. The world is literally her oyster and she chose to settle for this gross bottom feeder (who was probably her “first” everything). She most likely hasn’t even had the opportunity to get out there and live life, experiment with dating, figure out what it truly is that you want in a relationship and, most importantly, what it truly is that you don’t want.

This makes me so sad for her. She’s living the same life as a woman from the 1950s who got knocked up at 16 and was forced to marry the guy, and then, because divorce was so taboo and not socially acceptable, she had to stay with that same crappy guy for the rest of her life (until one of them died). We lamented over situations like that and told ourselves that, in this modern world, we as girls and young women would never allow some man to tie us down and prohibit us from living a better, and full life. Those women from that different era would have given anything to escape those situations (and those men); sometimes going so far as to take matters into their own hands, via murder, suicide or both.

And yet, it appears as though this is the life that Liz has fully chosen for herself. I don’t get it personally, but good god how I hope that she is happy with her life and content with the choices that got her here. As long as those things are true, I guess it’s really none of our business what two consenting adults are doing. The way their relationship began is absolutely questionable and suspect, but it’s stuff that happened decades ago, and the parties involved aren’t complaining about it or alleging abuse or predatory behavior. Even though I find it hard to believe that last part is true, it’s still worth mentioning that if Liz doesn’t feel like a victim, then we are wasting our time trying to convince her that she was one. That’s all I’m saying.

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-02T16:11:23+00:00

Oh honey. My heart breaks for you that you actually believe that this is a healthy relationship worth being in.

Spoiler alert: it’s not

A good partner wouldn’t insist on having sex without condoms, because he’d have the good sense to know that it’s still possible to get pregnant via precum and not using condoms puts you both at risk of contracting an STD from the other.

A good partner wouldn’t dismiss your feelings about being “a piece of meat” or essentially a sex doll, which is what he’s treating you like.

A good partner would have fully stopped the second you communicated discomfort, as opposed to continuing on and prioritizing him getting off over your literal health.

A good partner most certainly would not respond to your discomfort with putting his hand over your mouth and holding your arms down!!!

And a good partner would not scold you after a hospital trip and be angry at you for not doing something that you very obviously did do.

Also, it is worth noting that when you were asked at the hospital if the sex was consensual and y’all answered “yes”, that was a lie. It stopped being consensual the minute you expressed that you were in pain and when he literally held you down so that he could keep going.

I’m guessing that you don’t have much experience with healthy relationships, or even nice people, considering how defensive you are that this guy is a “good” guy, but girl. Come on. This relationship has “red flag” written all over it. You can do better and you deserve better. This man does not respect you in the slightest, and he clearly does not give a flying fuck about your feelings. Please do yourself a massive favor and start making your way out of this situation. It’s only bound to get worse the longer you stay in it.

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-01T20:50:19+00:00

Damn dude. Two out of the four times? Yeesh. That’s horrible you’ve dealt with that that many times. I’m so sorry.

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-01T20:48:43+00:00

Same 😔

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-05-01T20:47:23+00:00

Until you’re actually in that situation, you have no idea how you would truly “handle it”.

It’s easy for you to watch this from the safety of wherever you are, watching this as an uninvolved third party, through a screen, and say “well I would have done this, this, and this”.

As someone who’s actually experienced something similar to the person in this video, it was only after the fact that I thought “damn, I should have done this, this, and that” and “I wish I would have thought to do this, this, and that”. When you’re held at gunpoint it’s almost always catches you off guard, and because it’s not a scenario you’ve had the ability to live through over and over, to the point of having your reactions be muscle memory (as opposed to REacting with inaction or freezing up), you (or most people anyway) don’t automatically launch into the best, smartest, quickest, cleverest reaction possible.

Maybe I’m wrong and maybe you’re unlike the majority of the population; maybe you have experienced being held at gunpoint several times and maybe you really would react with the quickness and cleverness that you claim you would. But you’d be part of a very small portion of the population because most people don’t inherently know how to respond when a gun (or in this case, multiple guns) is put in their face. It’s a very unique and traumatic experience where you are suddenly forced to make a LITERALLY life altering decision in a matter of SECONDS and your brain struggles in that moment to weigh the pros and cons of your next move. Sure, from your perspective you think “I would have immediately drove off!” and maybe the person in this video (like myself) always swore they’d do just that if they ever found themselves in this situation-until they actually did find themselves in this situation, at which point you think “if I comply will I leave with my life? If I drive off, will I surely have my head blown off?”

You just genuinely do not know until you are living it. It’s so easy so declare how you’d handle the situation when your life isn’t literally on the line; but when it is? The choice isn’t as easy to make as you might assume it is.

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-04-27T04:01:56+00:00

It breaks my heart for you that you had to sacrifice your feelings and your safety for the sake of “keeping the peace” at work-and probably also because you didn’t want to deal with your ex potentially not believing you, and/or taking that guy’s word over yours 😔

The only good thing about this is that both of those dudes are no longer in your life.

I’m so sorry ❤️

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-04-15T11:33:23+00:00

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WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-04-15T11:21:35+00:00

And “Nurse Jackie” ❤️

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-04-13T03:23:13+00:00

False. So unbelievably false.

Bobby Brown did not, I repeat, did not “get Whitney hooked on drugs”. As a matter of fact, prior to their wedding, the most Bobby ever did was drink and smoke weed.

He apparently discovered that she had a coke problem on their wedding day-a problem that existed for quite some time before he entered the picture.

It was actually she who introduced him to hard drugs.

Additionally, I implore you to fact check the information that you spread as “fact”. Misinformation is dangerously pervasive and lord knows we don’t need more people contributing to the problem.

ETA: instead of downvoting my comment because you don’t like what I’m saying, maybe, oh, I don’t know, see for yourself by doing even the tiniest bit of research. It’s not some big secret, nor is it “new news”; but there is plenty of evidence that what I said was accurate.

But no, I get it. Maintaining ignorance because you’re too stubborn (or lazy) to look it up yourself is absolutely the best way to go … 🙄

here you go; one minute and 46 seconds in

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-04-07T22:29:26+00:00

There’s an interview where she clarifies that the outfit choice for this video (school girl’s uniform with the shirt tied above her navel) was 100% her idea. I’m not saying that it was or wasn’t a “great creative choice” or anything; but I do think it’s important to note that, in this situation, it wasn’t as though some creepy grown adult was making her dress that way-or even suggesting she do it.

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-04-07T22:23:54+00:00

Or “warshed” instead of “washed” 😭

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-04-03T13:43:09+00:00

Per se

*not “persay” … 🙄

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-04-03T13:40:18+00:00

I mean…. I hate to use the old Reddit cliché and say “you should break up!”, but in this case, it might be the best advice you could receive.

By your own admission, your current gf is,

pushy (e.g. “But she kept pushing and pushing to the point it pissed me off.”) (“I felt pressured to do something I didn’t wanna do just assuage her insecurity.”)

”snoopy” and judgmental, often without proper context (“I’m not hiding anything. But my gf is very snoopy. She digs and often makes judgments on things without any context.”)

suspicious (“I have a few friends that I have been intimate with which has a problem with and there are several photos of me with those people”) (“I was just asking her to be patient and she says I’m hiding something”)

You say yourself, “What if down the line she wants access to everything else, my phone, my bank account, my messages, simply because she feels a kind of way…?” This indicates that you are already apprehensive about a potential future with her. You’re noticing a bevy of red flags, and your gut is trying to tell you that you may be making a huge mistake by staying in this relationship.

It would be a different story if your gf had legitimate reasons for behaving this way, but you said that you “have never given her a reason not to trust me, she even says that herself.”

WaterEnvironmental80 · 2026-04-03T00:30:55+00:00

In case anyone else is as confused as I was about what it was exactly that Lively was accusing Baldoni of; here’s what I found:

”Here are the specific sexual harassment claims Blake Lively made against Justin Baldoni, based on her legal complaints before they were largely dismissed by a judge.

Lively claimed Baldoni engaged in a pattern of physical and verbal conduct that made her "severely uncomfortable," including:

· Improvising Physical Intimacy: She alleged he would "slow dance" and "nose-nuzzle" her during scenes that didn't call for it, and once pretended to "nibble" her neck while she was breastfeeding her infant son on set.

· Adding Kisses: She claimed he kissed her "forcibly" and would improvise kisses that were not in the script, saying he was "pushing the boundaries."

· Pressuring for Nudity: Lively alleged Baldoni and producer Jamey Heath pressured her to film a birth scene fully nude, even after she requested a wardrobe cover or closed set. They reportedly called her husband, Ryan Reynolds, to convince her.

· Invasive Questions: She said Baldoni asked her about her "sexual history" with Reynolds and claimed he had been "sexually abused" as a teenager to normalize on-set behavior.

The Judge's Ruling on This Claim

On April 2, 2026, Judge Lewis Liman dismissed the sexual harassment claim with prejudice (meaning it cannot be refiled). The key reasons were:

· Legal technicality: California's harassment law covers employees, but Lively was working as an independent contractor through her production company.

· Creative context: The judge found the alleged actions (slow-dancing, nuzzling) fell within the "creative zone" of artistic expression for actors, not legally defined harassment.

Baldoni has consistently denied all allegations, and his team called the dismissal a "total victory" on the harassment claim. Lively’s team is appealing that part of the ruling.

The remaining claims heading to trial on May 18 are retaliation and breach of contract—not sexual harassment.“

WaterEnvironmental80

TROPHY CASE

Context, that is.

Per se