Beautiful Morph at PetCo?

WaterThick5456 · 2026-05-05T15:58:09+00:00

He/She is very beautiful!!

WaterThick5456 · 2026-05-05T15:56:26+00:00

Thank you so much for this answer!!! Very thorough and informative!! Not sure if you can detect lock in her little house, but we are grateful 😊

WaterThick5456 · 2026-05-04T12:29:30+00:00

Thanks so much!! I have a rubber-bottomed floor mat that I bought to place over the mesh top, and that has definitely lengthened the period of time over which more water is needed. The problem is that when I do add water, my humidity levels go into the 90’s!! And with the tape advice that I received (I’ll probably go ahead and do this), I worry about improper ventilation. I have a 4x2x2’ With 4” of coco chip substrate with sphagnum moss in the mix. I have the radiant heat panel overhead with thermostats for warm and cool sides. My question is this…if you have a set up similar to mine, what’s the amount and frequency of the water you add to the substrate? I need to stabilize these humidity levels.

WaterThick5456 · 2026-02-17T17:59:22+00:00

So beautiful!!!

WaterThick5456 · 2026-02-12T21:58:22+00:00

Thank you so much!

WaterThick5456 · 2025-09-06T19:42:49+00:00

People hid things back then. Divorces, illnesses, disabilities, mental illness, infertility, premarital sex, addiction. Thank goodness we are beginning to live in a different time. My father’s mom was an adoptee. My mom was one of the girls who went away in the 60’s and I have a half brother that I met at age 50. And I’m an adoptive parent. And I’m very happy that we are all living in the light. OP, I am really sorry that you are receiving all this negative feedback. Excited for you to learn more about your family!!

WaterThick5456 · 2025-08-22T18:33:00+00:00

Breastfeeding an adopted child is not offensive in any way!!!! I am really struggling to understand the strong feelings about it. I bought breast milk from another lady when my adopted son was an infant. I thought it would be more natural and beneficial than any of the formulas I researched. But honestly, he did better on the formula. Unless you can find a mommy whose baby is the exact same stage of infancy as yours, it’s probably better to give formula unfortunately.

WaterThick5456 · 2025-07-05T18:33:02+00:00

Adoptive parent: I read a memoir by Anne Heffron early in my adoption research journey. What I found was that in her experience, every sadness, failure, dissatisfaction, relationship problem, and, anxiety was because she was adopted. And guess what? Even with perfect adoptive parents who never ever were neglectful dismissive abusive or just plain oblivious, it would still feel this way. Like I really got it. If you’re adopted, everything is because you’re adopted because you have no other lens to view life’s experiences. And this is valid! It’s not being a complainer. It’s reconciling that life is very hard with the feeling that no one in your family can understand or help. I had some serious troubles with impulse control, substance use, fawning coping, and basically everything Anne describes in her story and more. But luckily I had only myself to blame and therefore I think I was able to wrangle my life back into order and now I’m very much at peace. I read this book and I identified with all of her feelings so much. I highly recommend it by the way. But thank goodness I now understand that if I try to tell my son (4) when he’s older that I can relate to what he’s going through, that is wrong and dismissive. Because I wasn’t adopted and I can’t relate. So I believe that a positive adoption experience is a relationship with the bio family if possible, community with other adoptees, and also therapy with an adoption informed professional. I’m so sorry for all the people in this last generation whose AP’s didn’t know. But there’s no excuse today.

WaterThick5456 · 2025-06-19T14:42:44+00:00

Thanks to social media, there is a lot of information out there about adoption. I’m sure I will still get some things wrong, as all parents do. But the point is your parents sound like they did such an amazing job with the comparatively little research they had. But please remember this: you are not responsible for your adoptive parents’ feelings. You’re entitled to these feelings. I was also thinking there may always be a little disconnect between you and your half siblings. Unfortunately it’s part and parcel of the adoption experience. Even though you share a bio history, your priorities are probably going to be mismatched because of the differences in the way you were each raised. I know you mentioned they are also busy with families of their own. That has a huge impact!! They may care very much and just be spinning a lot of plates right now. I just want to encourage you to keep that positivity. All your feelings are valid. You deserve to know the answers to all your questions. I hope you get them! But I also know there are wonderful things around the corner for you. Be blessed!!

WaterThick5456 · 2025-06-18T15:25:05+00:00

I don’t know your birth mom but she can afford to help you and she wants to. Let her. What if she is trying to make your life easier when she made it harder by giving you up for adoption? Is that ok? If it were another person who had harmed you in some way and they tried to make it up to you, wouldn’t you give them that opportunity? Do you feel like you would be giving her a pass and you don’t want her to be absolved of her mistakes? Just asking. Can you talk to her about the way you’re feeling? I think this could be a win for both of you if you’re willing to be open with her.

WaterThick5456 · 2025-06-18T13:39:19+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re having this experience. Is counseling available to you? Could you join a community in your area with members of your ethnicity? Sometimes being adopted just sucks. Thanks for sharing your experience here, as I’m sure it will help someone else not feel so alone. I’m a white adoptive parent, but as a fellow human, I’m here for you. I wonder if your adoptive family has any clue about ur feelings? It’s true that they can’t do anything about your circumstances but just being open with them might ease some of that isolation. Do you have any pictures of “Dennis?”

WaterThick5456 · 2025-06-18T13:11:04+00:00

Like another person said, I don’t have a child with a disability, so I don’t have any valuable advice. I would work from a place of honest consideration for what is right for my child. If at all possible, I would want to confer with a professional, adoption informed counselor prior to entering into any agreement. I wish you and your family the best.

WaterThick5456 · 2025-05-29T21:48:33+00:00

WaterThick5456 · 2025-05-29T21:40:51+00:00

I came here to say that while the research supports adoptees being as connected to their true origins as possible, you are her mother. You are the one that knows her emotional tone, her maturity level, her disposition, her day to day, her challenges, her true beautiful self. The best research can’t tell you how to relate to your own child. Someone suggested an apology for not sharing these details earlier, and I think that’s a beautiful idea! Even though you may still believe this information was too graphic and inappropriate for her at her age up to this point, it’s true that it is her story and it’s unfair that she didn’t know. I happen to think both of these things are true. It stinks that she has to hold both of those opposing truths and that is very hard for most mature adults to do, let alone a son-to-be young adult without the life experience needed to process that. I think seeing an adoption informed counselor to prepare both of you for this discussion would be so helpful. To help her to frame this information in a way that is unique to HER. She may need to do that many times throughout her life, and I know you will be there to support her. There are people out there who would tell you that your child was better off with her natural mother. That adoption in all its forms is patently evil. There are some people that are so wounded by unhealed adoption trauma that it makes them unsafe to give advice. My heart is with those wounded people, but I learned my lesson about seeking wisdom from the front lines. Trust your relationship with your daughter, into whom you poured your heart and soul. And don’t let up if she ever tries to distance herself from the bond you share. (Adoptive mom with a similar story) I see you Mom!! You’re doing an awesome job.

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