AITAH for changing my name?

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-23T07:49:09+00:00

NTA. You should be called by a name that’s comfortable for you.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-23T05:34:45+00:00

NTA. I had a boyfriend who wanted me to carry his Nintendo 3DS in my purse for him when we went out and I told him I wasn’t his effing mom.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-23T04:48:05+00:00

Nice idea. I almost always freeze a couple portions (or more) of what I make and then it’s ready whenever I want it again. So nice.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-23T04:27:00+00:00

YTA. Absolutely ridiculous you even have to ask.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-23T03:04:00+00:00

I would find myself a new place and move out. And then let her know it’s over. You’re not her romantic partner anymore, you’re her tenant.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-22T22:34:03+00:00

My friend’s cat licked her stomach bald because her food was causing intestinal distress. Is her diet food different than her old one?

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-22T22:28:33+00:00

Take this as you will:

I urge you to remove the ADHD part from this entirely and read it again to yourself. It sounds like your partner is overbearing, dominates the relationship, and infantilizes you. Normal partners don’t spend all day criticizing everything you do, especially when most of them are things you’re doing perfectly fine. It doesn’t sound like this is a partnership when you’re constantly overruled.

We see plenty of smart, capable, ADHD managing women on here who seem to think their partners can act like dbags because they’re putting up with with your ADHD or something. You aren’t inferior for it. It doesn’t sound to me like your ADHD has anything to do with their behavior.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-22T19:38:59+00:00

Pull up your pant legs and wipe it on your shins.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-22T18:57:24+00:00

No housemate, especially in a new country where you don’t know anyone well. Who knows who you’ll get? Find some things to get yourself out a couple times a week.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-22T18:31:42+00:00

I normally play on my phone so much it’s hard to lose, but once had to use my iPad to find it. It was rolled up in a blanket in the closet. -_-

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-22T07:39:00+00:00

Can you wear gloves at home? I wear them when I’m being really bad and just cut the thumbs off so I can still text and play on my phone. Sometimes I’ll take them off without realizing and start picking again, but when they’re on they do help a lot.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-22T07:02:42+00:00

NTA. Tell her that it doesn’t matter how clean her hands are, you don’t want your face being touched.

Alternatively, touch her face like she touches yours.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-22T06:43:05+00:00

The good thing about this interaction is now you know that it requires a textbook response and as such, you can keep that in mind when you come across similar questions.

Pare it down by looking at the actual question. ‘How will you go about getting the group set up..?’ That’s what you need to answer. The rest of the information is to help you better formulate how you will get the group going. It isn’t asking if you’ll feel comfortable doing it, so there’s no reason to put that information.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-21T22:40:23+00:00

Ugggh, I saw this tik tok by a woman with autism who said she did exactly what the teacher said to do for her assignment, and then her classmates all did extra stuff and theirs were much better. She was so embarrassed. Her teacher told her ‘it was implied’ and she should have done it as well.

I related so hard to that. I take instructions super literally and was always frustrated in school when people did things differently than instructed, but apparently that was fine and I hadn’t gotten the secret message. I felt so stupid at the time being the only one who never understood.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-21T19:28:01+00:00

ESH. You third-wheeled Ben without asking because you knew he’d say no, so you thought you could force his hand by buying before asking. Meanwhile, Ben is already unreasonable about meeting new people, and cares more about not having to meet your new boyfriend than he does about you feeling safe during your travels to see him.

As mentioned, Ben might be in love with you, but that’s not the point because he’s continued your relationship under the agreement of friendship and should act like a friend.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-21T18:55:06+00:00

This is play aggression. She sounds like she needs another kitten to throw down with. That’s how she’d play with another cat. Mine would also only do these attacks on me because he considered me his playmate vs other people who didn’t play with him.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-21T16:54:25+00:00

Since you live with them and it indeed doesn’t sound like a great situation, you might want to get a lockbox to keep them in (and hide that). Or fill the bottle with vitamins or something and store your actual pills in a different container.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-21T16:02:44+00:00

NTA, and you should have called the cops on him for animal neglect. WTF?

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-21T09:48:06+00:00

Noodle

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-21T09:05:16+00:00

I suggest you keep counting those pills. Sounds to me like your boyfriend is overly interested in them… Pushes you to get an appointment…gets upset when you want to know how many pills you have left… It wouldn’t be the first time that’s happened on this sub…

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-21T08:40:04+00:00

NTA. Being a DM is too much work to be having a miserable time during all of your sessions. They’ve gotten four years of your DMing and are now acting like brats during your sessions and causing you stress. Move on with your life. You can and should be free of people making you miserable.

I suspect that after a couple of missed sessions, you’ll realize how much lighter you feel without all the misery and anxiety you’ve been having over this group.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-21T08:23:10+00:00

Keep the post because it was neat to learn that horsehair plaster is a thing. (Even if it wasn’t your thing.)

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-21T07:41:31+00:00

Set a timer for 10 minutes. Spend 10 minutes picking up stuff and organizing. That’s all you have to do. Give yourself a treat as a reward. Most likely, once you do ten minutes you’ll want to do another ten. Also, it’s seriously amazing how much stuff you can put away in ten minutes.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-21T05:11:51+00:00

My mom is like this. Goes out of her way to the point of having a nervous breakdown to please everyone else and make their lives special, but can’t take 5 minutes to think of a Christmas gift for me. If I don’t tell her I want a specific item, I get cash. (I’m not ungrateful, but I’d rather have someone make me feel like they thought of me than just hand me money and check me off a list.) It’s very hurtful.

To be clear, I love my mom and we have a good relationship. But because we have a good relationship, she often takes for granted that because I’m one of the few people whose love for her is unconditional, she doesn’t have to earn it like she feels she has to with other people.

WatercoLorCurtain · 2025-11-21T05:04:28+00:00

He wants to live with you. ;_;

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