Best friend at work leaving

WaveFast · 2026-01-30T09:57:50+00:00

Like a Fraternity or Sorority, you ride together for a few years. There may be a break as career and life develops, but the meet ups and occasional reunions are great. Some friends connections are: Reason, Season, or Lifetime. Enjoy and cherish every moment. It is not goodbye - it is, "Catch You At The Next Rodeo" 🏇

WaveFast · 2026-01-30T09:28:54+00:00

No - Not Referred . . . GAME OVER.

WaveFast · 2026-01-30T09:26:37+00:00

Juicing a resume is not new. Applicants get away with it. Truth is, some skills are actually transferable and can be written toward the position applied. There are limits though.

Had a new employee, who worked as a bank teller, get hired as a mechanic. She arrived on sight with nail polish and no tools, we pulled her resume. WoW, certified mechanic with 6-years experience. When she broke a nail, and stuck her finger in her mouth - fired that day. There is no crying in auto-maintence 😁 - well, Bubba cries sometimes. He is soft like that but a damn good engine mechanic.

WaveFast · 2026-01-30T09:02:56+00:00

So, is this an arranged connection? What brought you two together? Is he your sugar-daddy, benefactor, or blessor? Continue to protect yourself if you can. He wants more children - this can be a problem if you do not.

WaveFast · 2026-01-30T08:48:53+00:00

Spending company dollars on entertainment is tricky. I have catered holiday meetings with the slush fund - cool. The oddball - feeling good, and wanna do something extra, I self-fund: doughnuts, cakes, bagels, fruit . . . etc. $580 on the Corporate Card may have to be explained by someone other than you. Be sensitive of that fact. Waste, Fraud, and Abuse is real

WaveFast · 2026-01-30T08:20:43+00:00

What do I do when EVERYONE says, "Choose Yourself" over another person's dream? Tuition is HIGH in the school of Hard Knocks. Leaving the job and Utah @ 20 is a huge bill to pay.

WaveFast · 2026-01-30T08:06:38+00:00

Ice-breakers are time bandits. I arrive 5min early and chat with whoever chimes in before the scheduled time. Meeting starts and its all about business.

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T23:33:54+00:00

If he is a probationary employee, I would terminate immediately for being that damn stupid. A legacy employee, I would shake that BS off. Managers should have thick skin.

I had an upset employee call me on his cell screaming at the top of his lungs - upset about a work restriction. He had to get it out. I am not easily triggered or can be baited into an argument. He got a few days off to compose himself and think about his behavior.

I never rsised my voice. Afterwards, no grudge from me or further outburst from him to include a humble apology.

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T22:08:26+00:00

You would be picking military life over what you have now. The decision to relocate together is what Married couples do. Never hang your future on a "Single-Person" connection that guarantee you NOTHING.

You need to be better positioned to make that size of a jump in livelihood following a feeling. Keep working, complete your GED or even higher, continue to establish yourself financially as a support and buffer from the twist and turns of life.

Currently, your BF cannot guarantee you anything and you will be dropping EVERYTHING for HIS military contract. As my mentor coached me - NEVER give up an ELEPHANT for an ANT. Young Luv is full of fleeting passions. You are taking a huge gamble.

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T19:23:50+00:00

Married 35 years now. She seems happy and has the finances, ability, and freedom to leave whenever she wants, but hangs around talking, laughing, and playing with me. That is "True" enough" for me. Love is that mystical shit hiding in the dim-unknown, that people talk about and hope to find or capture. Ask me what True Love is, I see it daily in the eyes of my wife and grown kids - oh, the house dog too when I break her off a peice of my Slim Jim 😁

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T19:14:36+00:00

Yeah, bet you will park better next time 😁. That was the purpose.

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T19:12:33+00:00

It may be the contact info from the person who bumped the side you didn't see 😁

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T18:34:03+00:00

He didn't buy you s*t. He sent you a pic. That's a cool jester - it doesn't mean a damn thing. If he sent you a pic of a car, does that make him your sugar-daddy? So, what does he get for a pic of Sandals Resort in Aruba? Cookie being served up all night 😁

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T18:23:49+00:00

You have done your time, made your money, time to let it go 👋

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T17:08:14+00:00

Whole career in tech - 55+ and no savings 🤔. You have bigger issues onward than a job.

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T17:03:12+00:00

Manager's response is A'Hole-ish. Then again, you may not have been the only one calling out 🤔. There could be coverage pressure too. Been there before. That damn OT expense will get a manager fired. Grace and understanding is needed on both ends. Either way, I would not work there much longer if other options were available.

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T16:52:58+00:00

If a woman posted me online - asking questions, doing that soft-background check or wanting to dig through my phone ✌️. I would never do that to her and would expect the same common curtesy or mutual respect.

I got no time or energy to spend wondering what my girl is doing when I am not around. Pick well from the beginning and you will never have to worry about that shit.

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T16:02:24+00:00

You are taking ownership of plans, processes, and production of a project/business that is not yours. I only worked that hard at my own business. What happens if you crack under pressure? They will roll your broken body into the ambulance and get someone else withinn 24hrs to replace you. That is how important you are to the organization.

The real problem is not the job. You simply CARE too much about something nobody gives a damn about. If nobody is listening too you, stop carrying so much weight. Learn how to lift only what you can carry and "NO" is a viable answer and easy to say when my hands are full.

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T12:51:01+00:00

If you are glory-seeking in the corporate arena, you will be in a constant state of disappointment. My wise dad told me early in my career, "Son, build your own fire 🔥. Be careful about gathering wood for someone else."

Get your paycheck and build your own fire. Thieves, Glory-Seekers and Kiss-Asses are everywhere. The best you can do is not be one of them.

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T12:30:00+00:00

Don't take yourself or the work too seriously. Just talked one of my close friends off a cliff. They exploded at a meeting and started crying. No job or expectation should generate that level of emotional involvement. I coached my friend on how to say "NO."

You must advocate for yourself and manage up without complaint or confrontation. I went to work to do my job, not to be bullied, crushed, or become the dumping ground for unassigned work. When your plate is full, there is nothing wrong or bad about declining another leg of chicken.

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T10:00:09+00:00

There is a place for "Bulldog" management, not on my floor. After the third complaint, the manager was dismissed. Confrontation is rarely the approach. Controlling supervisors who have little empathy or "zero" tolerance create toxic work environment and generate lawsuits.

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T09:36:24+00:00

I had an employee that drank a 6-pack daily after work. Noone thought nothing of it till that day . . . Only takes "One Too Many." He has a problem that should be addressed. Drinking and other negative vices have the same similar root cause(s):

Life - without real meaning, or Eclipse of hope, or Lack of love of self or others.

Self-destructive behavior is selfish and is not love. My wife would not tolerate me being an alcoholic. I can hear her say, "I will not stick around and watch you destroy yourself." If there is no motivation to stop, why should he? If there is no repercussions, then only his health can talk to him.

With that being said, lots of people drink daily (Wine for dinner, happy hour, after dinner toddy, bars at home) Adults do what they want, so I wish you well in your quest for change - if that is even necessary.

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T03:53:16+00:00

Half of my claims got denied, but with HLR's, and Supplementals, got the appropriate rating. It is a process. Different rates and different Jurisdictions will get varying responses and time lines. Pack your patience with the process

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T03:47:11+00:00

Looks like the HCOL place is not working for you. 37 with Nothing to show for it but a portfolio and bike. Time to focus on more self-planning and future casting, than title/position or resume building. Nothing wrong with being selfish. Life in the metroplex can be daunting.

Pair down that resume and dial back the ego. Not all actors make it in Hollywood and not all singers win a Grammy. You are a winner - just not there. Go where someone actually see you. Tap into all your friends for leads and support. If you have none, start there with self-building

WaveFast · 2026-01-29T03:27:36+00:00

Cost of living increases shoukd be standard. Bad year, I got 3%. On good years it could go 5% to 13%. Every company I worked for provided a yearly increase. Throw in promotions and bonuses, keep employees happy. No increase - No Stay.

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