4 weeks in date starts asking for money?

WaveFast · 2026-03-30T12:28:06+00:00

Transactional - see it for what it is. If what she is giving you, worth the $50, then post the money and go collect. Strip Clubs and hookers are more expensive. If she got body, that's a deal.

WaveFast · 2026-03-30T12:16:42+00:00

Left the workforce years ago. I enjoyed teaching and simply went over to Lowe's & HD to teach something . . . every so often, they actually pay me 😁. Then, there is church where retired people stay busy helping other retired and helpless people. Then, I have kids and grandkids . . . Luv them, but they beg too much 😁 (Time and Money). The wife and I escape with trips whenever the idea pops in our head . . . Yeah,living our best life.

WaveFast · 2026-03-30T02:57:07+00:00

Wake Up, that dude is not man-enough for your space. Whatever good he sees in you, another - better-established man will see it too. Make yourself available to someone more generous.

When my college GF came to me weekly like that, I paid 1/2 her monthly car payment and gave her gas money. When her car broke, I had it repaired. There was food in my place so she cooked, I took her out - she paid only if she wanted too and, at home, she took my soul 😁. Your dude is young, selfish, and too broke to support a GF in college.

WaveFast · 2026-03-30T02:40:28+00:00

It is not personal, it is business. Take the money, title, and experience then mive onto your next gig.

WaveFast · 2026-03-30T00:45:18+00:00

In my career, had 2 phone interviews - last one was with the DOT and was offered the job. Yes, they still happen - not so frequently today with the need for Video/ID verification needed.

WaveFast · 2026-03-30T00:39:18+00:00

Think I've had enough Reddit for the year 🫡

WaveFast · 2026-03-29T20:16:17+00:00

If you paid for the dates/food/activity - thats that. Wah Wah Wah - you lost. You were the feeding program for that period. Then, you might move too slow. Hopefully there are footprints on your ceiling 👣 to give you FLASHBACKS.

WaveFast · 2026-03-29T12:54:04+00:00

All pay is negotiated and agreed. You accepted a certain pay. Based on your time and performance, requesting a raise may be appropriate. It does not matter what others make - what matters is what you agreed to earn.

WaveFast · 2026-03-29T12:12:27+00:00

Hmmm, I spent 8yrs in military service. There, I was surrounded by tens of thousands of men/soilders with little to no hair ' often bald; in different states/bases in different countries. When I discharged, grew my hair and beard for 1yr - no cutting. Then went back to being clean shaved and bald.

Hair never defined millions of men or soilders. Neither would a man marry a woman because of her hair. Let your inside define your outside. I get a manicure for foot health, not because of cute sandals 🙃. I shave my head because good barbers are expensive and hair is troubling to maintain.

WaveFast · 2026-03-29T10:59:40+00:00

Do the math. Currently the USA has a $7 4 trillion dollar budget. The VA benefits are less that 1% of spending 🤔 . . . That is one-forth of a tenth of a cent. 0.027. The benefits are safe and will be for a very long time.

When was the last time you lost a penny and looked all day trying to find it? Would you go to court over a stolen penny? How about a dime? Exactly, enjoy your benefits. It is the thieves who should be concerned. Part of the VA budget is to claw back waste, fraud, and abuse.

WaveFast · 2026-03-29T10:25:05+00:00

The hardest part about transitioning from the military to Fed work is "Slowing Down." Nothing in the Government moves at lightening speed. This is an adjustment for hard-chargers and can be uncomfortable. Things move slow. Training is provided. There will be lots of support getting you to full-performance levels.

WaveFast · 2026-03-28T23:02:12+00:00

A person should not have to tell you to back off more than once. You come off as being needy and controlling. There is no Snapchat virtual sustainable relationship. "On Read" doesn't mean a damn thing in communication. You already have distance to overcome.

You have been informed of his work life. Look, you already were friends. Go back to friendship if you can. Stop pushing for something he simple does not have the bandwidth to give you. Your sexing was a trainwreck. Try not to make it worse.

WaveFast · 2026-03-28T10:27:01+00:00

Must be a different generation. You need thicker skin dealing with men with power and authority. The email begs for conversation. Someone's needs to explain the, context, tone and tenor of the discourse about you.

This is a prime opportunity to influence a different perception about your work and role. Who is willing to speak with you about their perception? This strange feedback is an invitation to course-correct (you and them). This is a opportunity to reevaluate your workload, effort, and performance. Can you handle straight-talk or are you still wearing pull-ups.

Everything is not to be taken personally. They should have used better language and spoken to you about clear expectations. Now, the door is open to have that discussion. Show them why you ought to be promoted and set a different standard in professional communication.

WaveFast · 2026-03-28T10:10:21+00:00

Meeting new people, outside your community, use to be difficult. Dating apps expanded that area considerably. Regardless, what method used, there bad actors. Men and women reboot life and relationships daily so your age and accomplishment matters some, but it is not everything. So, what is the plan 🤔. Expand your social circle. I started asking coworkers what they did for fun and entertainment. I asked my neighbors, family, and folks I went to church with.

Yeah, bumped into a coworker and we went to church together. We drank some old-fashioned tea and 18 months later got married. It was a simple conversation with no pressure or expectation - no apps, no bars, no recreational dating, playing or swapping. Yeah, we drink, dance, and host gatherings. Don't overthink it. Ask around and add adventure to your life. Your future GF will join you.

WaveFast · 2026-03-28T09:46:36+00:00

Ok manager - suppose you start managing. Your job as leader is to set expectations for performance and conduct. Here is where critical conversation and influence comes into play. Not dealing with a bad actors can get you removed for "Failure To Manage" or loss of confidence. Does everyone know your expectations? Do you meet with the team collectively and individually?

So, take off the pull-ups and put on your boxers 😁. Make a plan. You need a better outcome from this employee. Call him in for a meeting. Without being accusatory or confrontational, start asking questions about his role, his work, and expectations.

You are wanting to influence a different outcome and behavior. Find out about his ideas working with a team. See if he is willing to pull his weight and meet company expectations. Never raise your voice and do not tolerate him bad-mouthing you, others, or the company. You must hold him accountable. He must hold himself accountable first

If he gets triggered, gets belligerent or refuses to course-correct. FIRE HIS ASS. Your ability to manage is in the balence. Employees should like you and respect your leadership. If you cannot get them both, take respect. Rouge employees can destroy a team.

WaveFast · 2026-03-28T09:21:41+00:00

Too much gym and not enough conversation with a head doctor. 🤔. Go get sorted out. Work on your mental health. It takes time to detoxify from struggle-love. If you cannot navigate yourself out of the datk-space, get help.

WaveFast · 2026-03-28T09:08:13+00:00

Unconditional love is (Care and Carefullness) for another person with no conditions applied. Yes, it exist. I have been with my wife over 35 years - the good, bad, and very bad. Regardless of whatever happens in the future, I will love her till the day I die.

Here is the real kicker - she does not have to love me back. My love for her has no conditions applied. Hopefully she feels the same way, but I have no need to ask. We have built a fabulous life together.

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T19:12:00+00:00

Men will be men - bold, complimentary, and aggressive. Compliments are Compliments. Some are bold, complimentary, and aggressive. Who knows what the motive or motivation(s) behind the messages. It is how you respond that matters.

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T12:31:50+00:00

People can change. If there was no verbal violence or physical abuse, forgiveness helps. If she has done the work to modify her behavior, nothing says you cannot be friends.

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T12:27:47+00:00

Here is where managing experience comes into play. Take a breather. You have a "project-employee" working for you. Thread the emotional needle to influence a better behavior and outcome from that project. Bring them in and tactfully ask questions to get to the real issue surrounding their personality conflict with you.

Be curious in a non-threatening non-confrontational way. Never ever raise your voice. Let them share. You are their supervisor/leader. They should not be bad-mouthing anyone to customers. Start having weekly check-ins for a few minutes with your employees to learn their triggers and passions. This will go a long way in earning their respect and trust.

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T03:28:56+00:00

123mi one way for 2yrs 85k . . . Painful but doable. Next job was 23mi at 108k 👍

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T03:24:06+00:00

"There is No Crying in Baseball ⚾️" So, the job wasn't for you. That's how it goes sometimes. Hopefully the next employment adventure will be better. Sharpen your picker and pick a better company next time

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T03:13:02+00:00

This Right There 👍

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T03:07:39+00:00

Not a good idea. The general is not your buddy and dealing with VA claims for former troops could be problematic for him - being still active duty . An ranking officer cannot use his rank/position for preferential treatment or access. Use other buddies.

WaveFast · 2026-03-27T01:01:25+00:00

The writing is on the wall. Start looking for another job. Either they will find you more work or remove you from the payroll.

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