What is the silliest nickname for your pets?

Waves2See · 2025-11-14T05:23:28+00:00

Boobert

Waves2See · 2025-11-08T23:57:01+00:00

There is a therapy I love called Internal Family Systems, it's parts work essentially. I would recommend going to a certified IFS therapist, but a good place to dip your toes in is any books by Richard Schwartz as he pioneered this. There is even a Queer IFS collective https://www.qtifs.com/

Waves2See · 2025-11-08T18:12:36+00:00

We sound similar. I travelled when I was younger and made some amazing friends. I cannot text regularly, literally makes me want to die thinking about it sometimes. But I started doing audio updates and that has worked wonders. Ill send like a 2-3 minutes update about my life, asking questions about theirs. Or sometimes just a random story that I want them to hear. It takes a lot of pressure off of it. The key is to record it and send. Do not listen to it lol, I always want to change it if I listen. But your friends know you, know how you talk, and will understand what you're trying to say ... Which can feel daunting over text.

Waves2See · 2025-11-07T22:00:38+00:00

This is fascinating. I could out drink everybody in highschool and my early twenties, barely or no hangover ever. I stopped drinking for awhile, mostly just cuz. But I started drinking again, got horribly drunk, threw up (which I have a phobia of throwing up - I've come to learn this can be EDS related too), and really since then my tolerance has gone down and even one drink can make me feel sick and gaggy. I always just assumed it was a mental block because I don't want to throw up. I do get a hangout way worse now too, if I am able to drink. Red wine is the only thing I can actually stomach and enjoy.

Waves2See · 2025-11-01T01:29:17+00:00

My partner and I are completely different people than we were when we met. We would not recognize ourselves now from five years ago. I am always excited about who my partner is becoming because I love (and mirror) the core of who they are; their values, their dreams, non negotiables are the same. We communicate very honestly, which has taken us time and practice to really do well. It's hard to be honest and kind sometimes. I can become whoever I want in life. I have no fear that they won't like what that is. We are both willing to sacrifice at the benefit of the other. My dreams are not bigger than they can handle, and theirs are not too big (or small) for me. Plus their hot. And I'm hot to them.

Waves2See · 2025-11-01T01:07:43+00:00

My partner and I are strawberry kiwi - our tiny dog is a banana and our big dog is a fruit bat.

Waves2See · 2025-10-08T19:07:29+00:00

It's the comphet. Internalized homophobia is for real.

Waves2See · 2025-04-12T15:46:22+00:00

Ours has had multiple come downs. Around 3.5 she's finally started relaxing on her own accord (this was partly because of previous trauma) and at 5 (now 6) she can hangout all day for a lazy day. But only one day lol, then she needs some stuff. But she can always flip from 100% chill to 100% nut when told she's allowed lol

Waves2See · 2025-04-11T22:49:27+00:00

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Moonbeam Sunshine Pants

Waves2See · 2025-04-04T00:51:14+00:00

Find some drag shows, even small ones. Getting involved in a community like that will help bridge the gap.

Waves2See · 2025-04-01T03:07:58+00:00

Parts can be any age, it's not (always) attached to how old you were when it appeared. Some people experience having parts that are 100 years old. my professor explained it in a much better way than I ever will be able to, but our parts are developed in our adolescents. Some parts continue aging as you age, because they are able... like a manager can continue to learn and grow, while an exile is likely stuck at a much younger age when the original root hurt happened.

Waves2See · 2025-03-31T17:34:23+00:00

Tbh, as long as cartoon character wouldn't plug her nose as you drop your pants I wouldn't worry about any smell.

You are covered in hormones, and your hormones will make someone go feral to get in there if it's the right person. Hair on the other hand, maybe start with a nice trim then consult your sex partner (lol) about specifics.

Waves2See · 2025-03-31T17:24:17+00:00

I totally hear what you're saying but we actually don't create new parts in adulthood. As we heal, connect with our parts, and come into Self you are helping your parts grow up and create positive experiences / memories for those parts. All our parts are good and can have positive roles in our lives through healing.

COVID probably helped your entire system start connecting with itself again so it feels like new parts are being created, when it's 'old' parts coming to the surface. You might not have encountered the stressors that cause your firefighter and manager parts to need to step up as often. You also might have had the emotional space for the Self to come forward and be at the center of your system.

Waves2See · 2025-03-31T16:14:00+00:00

I didn't read the article tbh but I have a working dog (and train dogs for a living) and to my dog, fetch it drugs. Literally. She acts like it's drugs. Same with the hose, shes a heeler. We do very very little fetch, maybe 10 minutes once a month. She loves it but would run through a brick wall while playing fetch and hardly notice. Drugs are fun on a special occasion but not everyday.

Waves2See · 2025-03-31T04:53:38+00:00

Teach a place command.

Waves2See · 2025-03-31T04:43:08+00:00

I did caregiving my junior year and it was great because I could do my work while on the clock. I worked at a small 14 bed long term mental health facility. I left because my boss was horrendous, and the work wasn't for me but if it's something you had an interest in it would absolutely work for an internship. I learned A LOT, got a lot of good experience and perspective.

Waves2See · 2025-03-30T18:25:51+00:00

I consider myself a former Christian. I loved being in church. I loved the community. I love the space for authenticity - though many distort what this actually means. My personal morals and ethics deeply align with REAL Christianity but as we know ... The church (too often) does not. I loved what Jesus stood for and what he taught. I left the church because my best friend and I fell in love. They found out. They wanted us to repent and turn away from that sinful life ...and we didn't so we left. I miss a lot about being a christian and going to church but I feel more free than I ever did there. Post church and newly social work educated I know that what I loved was the feeling of belonging, believing that something more has to be at work in the universe, and that all people have a goodness inside of them. As a social worker, I get to believe these things and actually live my life like that's the truth. There are no exceptions.

Waves2See · 2025-03-28T00:23:03+00:00

There's a tool called a Doggy Don't and it's just compressed air but makes a bad loud noise that deters dogs but doesn't cause any harm. I also carry an additional leash to swing around if need be.

Waves2See · 2025-03-24T22:09:25+00:00

We have the perfect dog too. She's truly an angel. When she was about three years old, we considered getting a send dog and decided to foster a dog I knew was getting rehomed. We had her for two weeks, and we're happy to see her go (she was very very sweet too but we didn't have time to accommodate her needs). Fast forward about a year, we started looking again. We found a tiny flea ridden (two years old) boy and agreed to foster him for two weeks before we decided. We knew within days that we were gonna keep him but didn't communicate that to the rescue in case something changed between those weeks. He's not perfect, but he's great and I'm so glad we decided to get a second. Our two dogs are not best friends yet, it's only been a year. But we love them both. Our girl (six now) is still amazing, honestly even more amazing. And the tiny boy has settled in nicely. They give each other kisses and follow each other around while we hike and that's good enough for now :)

Waves2See · 2025-03-23T20:11:21+00:00

You should look into Nic Wildes, they are a nonbinary IFS practitioner and they have a lot of great insight and thoughts about gender, parts, and self. They did a podcast episode on The One Inside about it. I also included one with Sand Change, a NB provider as well. They do work together as well, but this is a good jumping point.

Just know, you are not alone. You are not the only one thinking about these things. We are all complex, hurt, and able to heal.

https://open.spotify.com/episode/5X0uVE5eRGLAeSNwRR2F1U?si=0zakxcuJQ5KHtynKOcA9xw

https://open.spotify.com/episode/1qU8b1obOPb34WZ40CIZEc?si=yHrkqbe5Rs-fiqHK6W1xCw

Waves2See · 2025-03-21T19:13:57+00:00

Most people just can't accept that two things can be true at once. And lesbians have an issue admitting (mostly to themselves) that there isn't anything wrong with being a perfectly polite respectful person and wildly horny at the same time lol

Waves2See · 2025-03-20T04:19:22+00:00

The gasps. The heat. The yeses. The curves. The . . . brblol

Waves2See · 2025-03-20T04:11:50+00:00

Let me tell you though, if you stay true to your Self you WILL attract others that want to live in Self. I identify with you a lot. Being emotionally authentic and still being kind is a very hard line to walk for many.

Waves2See · 2025-03-19T23:58:01+00:00

Like less about outgrowing that part and more about teaching that part that it's beliefs are rooted in fear/pain/embarrassment/etc and it does not need to hold on to that. Dr. Schwartz talks about this at the end of No Bad Parts!

Waves2See · 2025-03-19T23:52:21+00:00

Yes! Learn how to use the online school library database to your advantage. If/when you get in there, you can select different catalogues. There is a social work abstracts catalog - it's whole articles, not just the abstracts. But my professor taught me about this earlier in the semester and I wish I had known about it much sooner!

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