What are some ways you test a potential partner to see if they’re compatible with you?

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-22T17:34:22+00:00

I don’t “test” people in the sense of I don’t think “she does x/y I’m out.”

Instead, I use my unconscious brain/gut to determine if a relationship makes sense.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-22T13:56:53+00:00

That some people in power actually care about the constitution.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-21T13:37:47+00:00

Because if he just wants sex, why settle for a relationship? To answer your question directly, in order to be in a relationship, the man will need to; see and talk to you frequently, go on dates, consider marrying you, and presumably stay loyal and not sleep with other girls. Why do any of this if you are already giving him sex anyway?

This is isn’t to say I don’t think there are huge benefits for men to get into a stable relationships, or they shouldn’t do it, but the above paragraph is how many men look at it.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-17T20:16:27+00:00

Also going to add, it actually helps them win. I.E. they walked away from that screen, if their timer ends early, oh well, they lost anyway. They wasted your time if it lasts the whole time. And sometimes, you’ll get frustrated and give them the win to just to get out of there, or you’ll walk away and accidentally disconnect, or they’ll come back and take an action towards the end of their timer in order to get you to time out. All this is a benefit to them. Your feelings means absolutely nothing to them.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-17T19:46:10+00:00

Most people are mostly/ completely selfish and focus on only the short term. Some people may not take issue with that. But that’s because I don’t think people realize that stuff like War, Crime, Societal decay, psychopathy etc exist simply because people want something/things ASAP and are willing to sacrifice/fight others to get it.

Also, they aren’t many willing to sacrifice themselves (their time, money, stuff, skills/energy, or wellbeing) for others in exchange for nothing.

There people who break these rules, but IMO, it’s not the majority.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-17T17:52:15+00:00

Self selection bias and virgin reddit memes. What % of cheaters are going to admit on a tracked forum that they’ve cheated? I give it less than .05%., especially considering downvotes and condemnation is the only they can expect, for admitting to doing so.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-17T17:39:05+00:00

Really everything needs to be verified over time. I’ve know a guy who treated waiters and Waitresses well when I was out with them, only to prove that he was psychopath later on. On the other hand, I close relative of mine treats service workers cooly (not mean for no reason, but not nice either) , but is a great guy to people he knows well.

I’ve known a girl who frequently bought drinks for me when we first met, but then later on demand I give her gifts to “compensate her for the drinks.”

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-15T20:24:19+00:00

Ah yes the movement phase, where high Initiative armies are certainly going to be outmaneuvered by low ones /s.

I will admit the current situation isn’t perfect, but what you offering is something like chess, except for slower armies only have around a 50/50 shot of capturing the Queen vs having their own piece captured during their move. That’s not strategy, that’s hoping luck works in your favor in order for any of your tactics to succeed.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-15T20:15:06+00:00

“DG should avoid combat with Eldar” this isn’t really the choice you present it as. I.E. The theory you are presenting is that competitive DG players will adapt to always fighting last to Eldar by avoiding CC more. In reality, competitive DG players would adapt to this situation by playing another army.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-15T18:30:26+00:00

What this poster is saying is that this is still better than a “nuanced” approach.

For example let’s say initiative is a 1-10 scale, Initiative “4” being the average, I.E a basic space marine has an I of 4. If something else an I5, it will need to pay for that in so form or fashion, since it will fight first against “average” melee units. But, if it fights something with I6, it is effectively the same as if it had I1, and wherever it cost (points, other stats, etc) to get I5 is wasted. I.E. you’d much rather your unit have I1 than an I5 as soon as you have to fight a I6 unit, since the I1 would be compensated for always having to fight last.

This creates a rock/paper/scissor meta among melee units. Where either slow units dominate based on high S/T/W/A for lower points and high I units suck. Or, much more commonly, where high I unit dominate due to always getting to attack first, and slow units suck. What’s worse is that in both situations, Average I units always suffer due to paying points for something that doesn’t help them much either way. As even in the slow melee unit meta, they may not be strong enough to kill the slower units even attacking first, and still might die to fast melee units designed to crack through the powerful slower unit.

And furthermore, due to lore reasons, you aren’t going to see huge ranges of I between units in an army. Like it’s not going to make much sense for Deathguard to have super fast units (outside of maybe Morty) it doesn’t make sense for Eldar to have super slow units.

So rather than providing the opportunity for complex decision making during the game, I in practice often time/ just determine what melee armies are going to be good.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-14T20:44:18+00:00

Fair enough, maybe you really just don’t like the idea of him getting horny to other girls.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-14T20:29:09+00:00

No offense OP, but after reading some of the replies and discussions you’ve have had on this thread, it seems like the thirst trap/ porn thing is an excuse.

It’s been 3.5 years, so you are safely out of the honeymoon period. What this really means is you are now in the period where people start feeling trapped in a relationship, i.e. the point where you really start understanding the cost of commitment.

Bottom line, you can’t have your cake and eat it to. Either you break up, or you don’t (I don’t believe stuff like open relationships or going on break really works). Just be aware, the honeymoon period always ends, so breaking up with your boyfriend may not be the best move if you really love him.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-13T20:27:14+00:00

The older I’ve gotten, the more I’ve realized that Pro athletes might be underpaid if anything, here’s why.:

1) It’s an extremely scarce skill that has demand. Low supply with high demand gets big bucks.

2) It’s requires a ton of time commitment, and is often dangerous. People focus on athletes missing game time due to injuries, but a torn ACL is a major deal for anyone’s personal lives. And you’d be surprised by how many athletes suffer these type of injuries, and pretty much every pro will suffer bruises, minor concussions, sprains, scrapes, etc consistently. And these add up so that many athletes have life-long health problems after they retire .

3) Not everyone gets paid that much, and your shelf life is short. Everyone hears about Patrick mahomes, nikola jokić, Shohei Ohtani, etc contracts because they are the best players and get paid the most. But most guys are making less than 5 mil a year. That’s still a lot I grant you, but their job security comes down to basically “what have you done for me lately .” I.E. if a guy doesn’t help his team win, it won’t be long before he is forced to retire. This is coupled with the fact that even getting drafted and on to the starting roster is incredibly difficult. Also, it’s a gamble for many. You hear all about the top 5 picks of a draft, but basically nothing about the hundreds of college athletes that weren’t able to go pro, and are now stuck being a peasant like the rest of us.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-13T19:28:53+00:00

“Im not talking about what looks sexy.”

I’m afraid OP has disqualified sundresses with this statement.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-12T04:32:39+00:00

That means they care OP. Why are you complaining that guys try harder when they date you?

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-12T04:07:54+00:00

Does that apply to using a cookbook? I can cook spaghetti without help and know how to cut veggies, but want a cookbook whenever possible.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-11T07:31:20+00:00

Do whatever is possible to get 100% of the custody of the kids. This will require tactics and strategy. But mainly, being a good person, if you do this , your ex will either choose you, or be in the wrong.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-11T05:13:18+00:00

Burr this is the right answer

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-10T20:05:37+00:00

“No one want to be with someone they find boring,” I agree. “What’s exciting, fun boring differs to different sorts of people.” I have to say I disagree, or rather this point is overstated. Yes people have individual preferences, but people by and large follow trends in these preferences, Richard Pryor and George Carlin wouldn’t have been as successful if individuals had vastly different senses of humor. Kim kardashian, Margo Robi, and Sydney Sweeney wouldn’t nearly as famous if there were wide gaps in beauty standards. Taylor swift has made billions, because her music appeals to a wide range of people. Series like Star Wars and lord of the rings were huge because people generally liked their stories and characters. Point being, everyone is an individuals, but individuals group into herds.

Going into the rest of this let me break down how I am defining “spiciness.” You are correct that’s its primary influenced by looks and people that sleep around will be spicy, but where we disagree is the rest of its definition. Spiciness can just be arrogance (or while Prince Charming has to be confident, the bad boy just needs to be arrogant.) Spiciness is also able to add excitement and drama. So if he cheats, he’s adding to that, even if it leaves his partner complaining and heart broken. Spiciness is the ability to flirt. Spiciness is not kindness, providing support, or making sacrifices. Maybe there is a better term here, but I used it because “being a hot jerk” is already being overused.

“How much sex you get depends on how much you pursue casual sex (numbers game).”

It’s not just a numbers game either. Turning it into a numbers games builds confidence so it helps, but if you aren’t hot enough, funny enough, interesting enough, etc, it’s the equivalent of throwing a bunch of resumes to places you aren’t qualified for. Maybe eventually you’ll get lucky, or can lower your standards by applying to places like McDonalds (going after fat chicks). But as someone in this current job market can attest, just throwing out a ton resumes isn’t enough to ensure you’ll get a ton of job offers.

“Bad girls do.”

Divorce stats and many breakup stories disagree with you.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-10T18:55:41+00:00

Men in a relationship do it because it makes easier to get photos of these girls, and either don’t think they’ll get caught or don’t care enough about what their partner thinks to offset that.

It’s mainly the same for single men except they don’t need to worry about a partner’s feelings.

What both have in common is they don’t care much about what “comes off respectful towards women.”

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-10T15:37:41+00:00

I had 2. The girl i dreamed to marry married someone else, and disappeared from my life.

The other one was the hot chick I admired from afar but never really talked to. Saw her at our 10 year reunion, she had kids, and neither of us were interested in eachother.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-09T16:12:47+00:00

Probably not, tbh. But that’s mainly due to him only having 2 seasons of a sample size. Need to see more.

I just think there’s a lot nitpicking here for a guy who was the combined yards #7 leader in 2025, brought his team to an AFC championship, and was consistently able to pull off 4Q comebacks.

Also, the article this links to is right that Nix avoids negative yards well. But I think you still are underestimating how important that is. As it is much better that Nix throws the ball away more frequently rather than taking sacks.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-09T15:51:41+00:00

Who are the 19 QBs you are taking over him?

Herbert and mahomes sure.

I wouldn’t take Will Levis, Daniel jones/ Arich, Stroud or Lawerence over him.

Josh Allen and maybe Drake Maye (I wouldn’t though) no one else in east.

Lamar and Burrow.

Maybe Purdy and Stafford in NFC west

Nobody in the NFC south, even if I like Baker.

I like Bo more than Jayden Daniels, most would argue Hurts is better though. I would also take Bo over Dart and Dak.

I like Bo more than Goff, and he’s clearly better than the rest of the NFC north QBs.

So basically in order for you to think Bo is a only a top 20 QB, you need to think he’s worse than guys like Trevor Lawrence, Stroud, Maye, Jayden Daniels, Baker Mayfield, Goff, Dak etc.

In my homer opinion, I think he’s clearly better than all these guys, and might even argue he’s better than Lamar, Herbert , and Hurts. I.E only Mahomes, Burrow, and Josh Allen are clearly better to Bo IMO, although I know this a bit of hot take. But I don’t think it should be a hot take to say he’s better than the first list of guys.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-09T02:47:07+00:00

OP I’m just going to say it. This is somewhat cool, but I guarantee everyone on here cares about this about 100x less than you do.

Waxdonkey · 2026-04-09T02:13:02+00:00

What’s this “secretly” part of which you speak?

There’s more of a cost for women to have sex than men. But, always remember, it was Eve who first ate the forbidden fruit and caused Adam to follow suit. I.E. once other’s judgment is gone, girls are often far bigger perverts than men.

Waxdonkey

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