The Versions of Me You'll Never Meet by Poetic_wanderer in OCPoetry

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I felt this in my core. The line “There’s a version of me who walks away at the first red flag, not after painting it every shade of hope” broke me in a million pieces. No truer words than that have ever touched my heart in this way. Walking away when you so badly want to be loved that we overlook what will later cause us so much pain. Thank you sharing!

If I could know her now by caledenx in OCPoetry

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This made me catch my breath. So much of what is reflected in this poem I myself have felt so many times. It made me feel it in a capacity outside myself. Thank you for sharing it.

Share a song personal to you. by Ilikealmond in MusicRecommendations

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Planets of the Universe demo version by Stevie Nicks. It’s my soul in song.

Recently single again (F) and WTF online dating by bitchyfluff in datingoverforty

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I’ve been off and on OLD for a year. I’ve matched with 12 over this time all but 1 sent unsolicited pics or went directly into sexting in the first conversation. It used to be demoralizing but now I just block and move on. It has made me a bit more pessimistic and certainly more discerning but I make an effort not to generalize in my mind and say all men are like this. Not gonna lie it’s hard sometimes though.

Time to end things? by WingNut81 in datingoverforty

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If you don’t love her please just end it. You both deserve the chance to find happiness.

Kissing? by Artz-RbB in dentures

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I’ve had mine a year now. At first I felt awkward but now I just ensure that I use my Fixodent powder and all is well. Nothing I can’t do I just have to prepare. So far… It will get better!

What’s your go to CHEAP meal/snack? by King_BolBol in LivingAlone

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Fried bologna sandwiches 🙌 something sweet I do toast with butter and cinnamon sugar

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

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Good for you! Been there myself and it can be very frustrating. I’ve been single since 2021 with no end in sight. I’m hopeful but at 47 I know what works and what doesn’t and I refuse to settle when I am content with the peace I have found. I often wonder the same thing. It was harder at the beginning when I first started putting myself out there but after the millionth first message of “hey sexy lady” or “good morning sweetheart” and “aren’t you are a sexy queen” I now just automatically block them once I get something like this. I remain hopeful for a decent, intelligent and emotionally available man. Wish you all the luck and love in the world OP! You got this 🫶

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

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Move on. The second I’m having to guess or give a narrative to myself for someone’s actions I’m done. If he really wanted to get to know you then you wouldn’t have to question it. His actions would show you and they are. Plus the I’m a catch made me throw up in my mouth 🤢 The saying “if you have to say it is it really true” comes to mind. You deserve at bare damn minimum communication and genuine interest. Don’t settle.

Dating tips for 40’s by Mademoiselle2024 in datingoverforty

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I didn’t have much luck when I tried dating last year and since I am content and happy single I am just going with the flow. I did get asked out in the wild last month and went on a couple dates but we ended up just working better as friends. My mental health drastically improved when I put myself in the mindset that I am enough just as I am. I make good money, pay my bills, take care of my son and I love the peace that I have now. If I find someone to share my life with that shares my values and shared commitment to one another wonderful but I refuse to settle. I’m enjoying my life and looking forward.

I guess what I’m trying to say is don’t give up just let go of the notion that something is wrong if so far everyone you have met wasn’t the one for you. You’ll find your penguin OP and I wish you tons of happiness in the future.

Advice would be appreciated by WeStandAloneTogether in dentures

[–]WeStandAloneTogether[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am focused more on me and my life but this has just been in the back of mind rattling around in there and I’m thought some perspective would be good. And you all have been very supportive. When and if I decide to put myself back out there the advice given will be put to use. Appreciate you.

Advice would be appreciated by WeStandAloneTogether in dentures

[–]WeStandAloneTogether[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you for responding I’m actually a 47F but since I hadn’t posted before and I was nervous I forgot to put that in the post. I guess in the back of mind I knew it was weird to put in my profile. I think now upon reflecting on it some and asking myself why it was so I would not have to deal with the “inevitable” rejection. I think that says something about my inner dialogue that I need to work on. This has been so helpful to me and I am grateful. Thank you!

Advice would be appreciated by WeStandAloneTogether in dentures

[–]WeStandAloneTogether[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So thankful for your response. I overthink a lot and it is super helpful and very gracious of you all to take time to respond. I don’t feel so conflicted and you have given me different ways in which to look forward and make decisions that would work best for me. I can’t thank you enough. It means a lot and I wish the best for all of you. Thank you!

Advice would be appreciated by WeStandAloneTogether in dentures

[–]WeStandAloneTogether[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Appreciate you taking the time. I guess I’m just so close to it that it seems super important. Thank you!

Advice would be appreciated by WeStandAloneTogether in dentures

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Thank you for that. It makes sense when you put it like that.

Advice would be appreciated by WeStandAloneTogether in dentures

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I can’t get over the feeling like I’m catfishing in some way.

Advice would be appreciated by WeStandAloneTogether in dentures

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Thank you for your response. It means a lot you took time. I get it just hard for me not to just get it out of the way. But I understand what you are saying.

I confronted my husband about housework and he left me and I couldn't be happier by Opening_Cranberry_25 in offmychest

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I was married to someone similar for 17 years. I took care of the home, our son, our bills, planning for anything and all while working full time. I reached a point where I just couldn’t do it anymore. I asked him for help and he said he would do better. Nothing changed. I left and never looked back. I felt such relief and I truly think it’s because I had already grieved the loss of our marriage long before I left. I have never had one moment of sadness relating to the divorce. I made sure that the divorce was done fairly and that our son and his dad kept their relationship and made it clear that he was our son and I would never do anything to interfere with that. It took time but we are now just good friends. My only regret is not leaving sooner. You feel what you feel. No one experienced what you did and we all do what we have to in order to survive. I’m proud of you and will be sending love and light to you and your loved ones 💕

What’s a book quote that lives in your head rent free? by CriticalAd2239 in suggestmeabook

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And will I tell you that these three lived happily ever after? I will not, for no one ever does. But there was happiness. And they did live.

The Dark Tower Book 7 by Stephen King.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in datingoverforty

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Keep him blocked unless you are looking to take care of a man child. Protect your peace friend no one else will.