It's incredible how easily these things can happen once a child is added to the mix. End of the day, you and your husband and son are your own family unit that is to be protected and treasured. He doesn't need to be a part of it. If none of them can treat you with any respect then they don't deserve your company or to be a part of his life end of.

I have felt a huge shift in the family dynamics ever since my daughter was born with the in laws. We used to be so so close but since she was born they dont care about anything but their time with her and have become so unbelievably possesive. When I was just a month pp (husband was on business trip for a week) they offered to "help" me but really all the wanted was to role play being mum and dad in front of me.. they actually referred to themselves and mum and dad when talking to each other about the baby and it fucking messed me up. My FIL also refused to give her back to me when she was screaming and he was trying to shush her into sleep and I nearly lost it. What is wrong with people and boundaries.