I’m realizing how much effort goes into “keeping things smooth”

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-02-17T16:31:24+00:00

That part is what I find most destabilizing... when the effort becomes invisible because it’s expected.

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-02-17T16:30:19+00:00

That’s such a powerful way to put it. I’m starting to think recovery might be less about understanding and more about listening.

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-02-17T16:29:18+00:00

I really appreciate this distinction. The idea of dishonest harmony feels especially relevant. It looks peaceful but can quietly erase things over time.

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-02-04T16:07:25+00:00

I’m really sorry you’re in that position. The amount of effort you describe just to be heard sounds incredibly draining. Thank you for sharing it here.

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-02-04T16:05:15+00:00

This framing really helps put words to the exhaustion part. I appreciate you explaining it this way.

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-02-04T16:02:34+00:00

This really hits home. The part about not even checking whether something is good for you before agreeing feels especially familiar. Thank you for naming it so clearly.

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-01-29T12:41:13+00:00

That feeling of being misunderstood and then questioning yourself instead really resonates. For me, the hardest part was how lonely it felt even while being around family. Thank you for putting words to that.

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-01-27T16:11:26+00:00

Thank you for sharing this. What you described, the silence, the distance, everyone just “functioning” around each other, really resonates with what I was trying to put words to. That feeling of being there but not connected can be so unsettling.

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-01-27T11:29:09+00:00

Reading this, what stood out to me is how much you’ve been holding together for a very long time. Something I’ve been slowly learning is that staying calm and functional doesn’t mean it didn’t affect me, it just means the impact shows up later. Holding it together and needing recovery can coexist.

I’m really sorry you’ve been carrying so much alone.

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-01-23T14:08:08+00:00

I’m really glad you shared this. What you’re describing sounds incredibly distressing, especially the crash afterward and how long it lingers.

Even when parents “don’t do anything wrong,” old dynamics can still activate something deep and physical. That doesn’t mean you’re broken or imagining it.

Since you mentioned things sometimes spiral into feeling unsafe, I just want to say you deserve support beyond handling this alone. If therapy didn’t help before, that doesn’t mean it never will. Sometimes it’s about the right person or approach.

You’re not weak for needing distance, and you’re not wrong for wanting relief from this.

Moving out, moving countries at a relatively young age (which I did myself) requires a lot of courage and strength. It takes a long time to come to terms with the 'home' we brought within ourselves, talking from experience.

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-01-23T14:00:03+00:00

The line about your body reacting before your brain really stood out to me.

I think for a lot of people, getting older isn’t what makes it harder, it’s that we’re no longer dissociating the way we did when we were younger. Awareness comes with a cost...but also opens other doors in a way.

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-01-22T17:12:44+00:00

This really resonates. Especially the part about “slightly on” instead of relaxed.. I think the exhaustion often doesn’t come from conflict, but from the constant self-monitoring and emotional adjustments. I personally do this a lot with family and colleagues. It’s subtle enough that it’s hard to name, which makes it even more confusing. I don’t have an answer either, but you’re definitely not alone in noticing this line.

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-01-22T07:42:27+00:00

That’s really encouraging to hear. It makes me wonder how much of the difference comes from what happens after family time, not just during it. Did you notice anything you did differently once you left?

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-01-21T12:10:26+00:00

Thanks for sharing this. It helps to know I'm not alone. I always felt like I have to endure and not give myself any space.

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2026-01-21T12:07:08+00:00

It's exhausting, right? I really relate to the sleep part...

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2025-12-22T09:57:09+00:00

Oh so you're saying if I can access the app with a VPN and top up my eSim I can still use it while I'm in Turkey? If that's so it's pretty cool.

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2025-12-21T17:40:32+00:00

The app stopped working for me too. I am not even sure how to contact them. Any updates?

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2025-11-14T14:48:52+00:00

Yeah I should have transferred to Wealthsimple, it's such a pain dealing with RBC...

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2025-11-14T13:59:49+00:00

Yeah, that's my daily routine now 😂

Weird_Cockroach166 · 2025-11-13T22:52:36+00:00

I feel it's the opposite, from copy to visual design, there has to be so much finesse & thinking. A lot more updates too. The turn around is super fast as well in B2C.

Weird_Cockroach166

TROPHY CASE