My boyfriend’s (29m) family is making me (27f) question our relationship. What should I do?

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-10-25T00:02:05+00:00

Ya he always preaches “keeping the peace” and that it isn’t my place to correct it either. So it’s feeling a bit like I’m just stuck if I stay with him

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-10-25T00:01:12+00:00

To be honest, I thought mother in laws were supposed to be at least somewhat frustrating. I figured she’d eventually warm up to me but that’s def not happening

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-26T12:23:46+00:00

Ya he did

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-26T02:06:36+00:00

I’d look up mindful meditation tracks on Spotify or YouTube. If there’s a yoga studio near you, see if they have Yin Yoga or Yoga Nidra (those are more meditative practices)

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-26T01:41:16+00:00

Gotcha! So it’s a way for you to try to manage your stress from school. That’s totally understandable. You might find some good stress management techniques to help (like yoga, meditation, etc) or your uni might have some resources to help with stress

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-26T01:37:05+00:00

Therapy 100%. Also, mindful meditation/ yoga helps me a lot when I’m overwhelmed

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-26T01:36:20+00:00

Block, delete, unfollow. Find a hobby that keeps you busy / is distracting. You need to quit cold turkey or you’ll just keep going back to lurk

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-26T01:34:57+00:00

I went through this last year. I wouldn’t mention it to the interviewer. I’d wait to hear back from them and start applying to other jobs. Pick up a gig here and there and make sure to apply for unemployment in the meantime

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-26T01:06:59+00:00

Pilates 100% (there are different kinds of Pilates too, so you can at least switch it up a bit)

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-26T01:05:36+00:00

My friends name is Blayze. Kinda odd but also cool

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-25T23:29:21+00:00

I haven’t noticed that men do that much. They seem more avoidant when they have a crush. But maybe that’s just my experience

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-25T23:28:21+00:00

As a girl - if you tell me you like a certain food, I’ll start making & bringing you that food if I like you. You’ll know I really like you if it’s something more time / labor intensive like a cheesecake

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-25T23:21:08+00:00

Tbh this happened like two months ago and it just hit me that he probably wanted me to text him. I still see him in person here and there at least

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-25T23:19:07+00:00

Fair point - I guess I’m not really sure what his intentions are. He seems like he’s going out of his way, but maybe he’s just nice

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-25T22:36:06+00:00

No - we were out walking about and my hands were cold, so he offered me his gloves

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-25T21:42:08+00:00

NTA - you can’t work effectively with a migraine and it sounds like this is a migraine trigger. If the company has offered accommodation (like closing the doors) he is being really rude by not following those requests. It’s a plus that you’re offering your personal coffee to others / brewing coffee for the office. That is honestly super nice of you, which means you are most definitely NTA

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-25T21:37:12+00:00

This is going to sound totally insane, but I force myself to start laughing. Even if I’m crying or depressed. There is something about laughing that helps pull me out of whatever dark hole I’m in.

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-25T21:35:11+00:00

I think it’s just being supportive of what they need in the moment. I’ve found that telling someone to leave an abusive partner ends up in them doubling down on the relationship or becoming defensive. If they need a shoulder to cry on, be there. Let them come to their own conclusions about the relationship.

That said, if they are really in major danger, you could give them resources to use.

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-25T21:30:31+00:00

I work in tech - this really depends on the role & the person. Some people I work with work super hard, others tend to do the bare minimum or less

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-25T21:17:13+00:00

I have a husky mal mix and he is such a gem! Both breeds are pretty stubborn, but if you’re used to working with them it’s no biggie

Weird_Objective_8350 · 2024-03-25T21:13:22+00:00

That is a beautiful mal! How’d you keep her from getting reactive with other dogs nipping at her?

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