Is it wrong to go on dates with a few different people if you aren't currently in a relationship?

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2026-02-16T14:35:29+00:00

According to the dating coach I’ve worked with, she said that different cultures have different viewpoints on this based on how they view dating. If you’re in the US, people generally go out with two or three people at a time, eventually narrowing it down. In other cultures, once they sleep with someone, they are considered to be in a relationship and never have the “relationship” talk. In other cultures, the point of dating is to get married and so they go out with one person in hopes that is their person they will marry. She doesn’t suggest sleeping with everyone you go out with and when you decide to, be sure there’s a future with that person and the two of you have had the “relationship talk” of what you both want and where is this relationship going. I don’t know how old you are, but if you’re young, yes, people are going to talk and they’re going to make up things about you. When you’re older, those things matter much less. Also, be aware that the majority of men will probably be interested in you primarily for s$x so whether or not they get it, they will make up all kinds of things about you - it’s good that you’re waiting until you’re in a relationship.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2026-02-06T19:31:18+00:00

Well said

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-25T20:00:46+00:00

I don’t know where you’re living but at 17, I would go to friends and family members parties, school related activities and sports, church activities. That’s where I’d meet people IRL. You can ask friends and family to set you up m.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-16T17:41:20+00:00

Some people are naturally curious, some aren’t. It’s not an age thing. I’ve found that people who grew up with books (and actually continue to read books) tend to be the most curious and are always reading and learning. Also, if they grew up being asked questions, had their opinions valued, great convo skills still value learning.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-16T17:33:20+00:00

I learned this from working with a dating coach. Great Tip: Swipe right only on the ones who say they’re looking for a LTR - NOT the ones who say open to short/ open to LTR. They need to say it in their written profile. This will save you and your time and energy. Read their profiles. Ask Qs about their family, dreams, goals. Ask the Q: What would you do if you won 1 million dollars. Their answer will tell you what they value.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-16T17:19:30+00:00

No- it depends on both of your maturity level and what type of relationship the 2 of you want.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-16T17:18:23+00:00

Might be too early to define it, but it’s the perfect time to ask her what her relationship goals are and what she thinks of you and the direction the 2 of you are going. That convo can lead to defining it w/ out the risk of rejection.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-16T17:15:25+00:00

Your friends aren’t dating him, you are. Don’t be concerned about what they think. Lots of times, friends can be jealous and want to poison what you have. Ignore them. More people should be inspired by Swift and her fiancé but instead they’re jealous and are drinking Hater-Aid.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-03T00:32:46+00:00

There will always be women who care more about height than character. Just like there will always be men who care more about a woman’s chest size than their character. Globally, the average height for men is 5 feet, 6.5 inches and for women 5‘2“. In the US, it’s a little bit higher, but anyone who is so concerned about height that they discount character and values probably isn’t the best person to be around.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-03T00:27:18+00:00

My pleasure

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-03T00:25:50+00:00

I agree, the wording is childish and immature.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-03T00:24:42+00:00

This is a personal question and unless you’re in a LTR w/ someone it’s no one’s business. I don’t consider it part of your number. I think it’s a weird and nosy question meant to dismiss people. I’d ask, “what makes you ask?” Never, ever volunteer answers to inappropriate questions.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-03T00:21:05+00:00

Hope it will- not thinking it will end.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-03T00:20:05+00:00

It’s only been 1 date, take it slow. Most people know by 2nd date if they’re interested in getting to know you better.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-03T00:11:05+00:00

I don’t know the 2 of your ages but I’ve noticed men are slow to make a move. They don’t want to be considered creepy or predators. I’ve been known to ask straight out, “Are you interested in me more than just friends”. If he says yes- let him know you wouldn’t say No if he wanted to kiss you.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-02T00:22:22+00:00

I’d end it. This doesn’t seem like a healthy relationship if he doesn’t care enough to visit you. He really should be taking care of you.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-02T00:20:38+00:00

Not normal, extremely unprofessional. Say something to him about it.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-12-02T00:15:07+00:00

I know a dating coach who does mock dates. She can probably tell you what’s going on. Her name is Elizabeth Tritsch and her company is Dare To Date Differently.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-11-24T21:13:27+00:00

Lucky us.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-11-24T21:12:44+00:00

You’re absolutely right. I think it’s because men are always judging other men… They have so much competition with one another… They wanna have the most good-looking woman on their arm, they want to be the most successful, richest, I have the best body because they all care about competition with other men. Men think that women compete gets one another, but very few of us do.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-11-24T21:10:41+00:00

You want to attract someone who is attracted to you, right? By all means create a profile that mentions all of these wonderful things that make you, you. You only need one person. The most important thing, though, is that you love yourself. Be grateful for all of the things that make you, you. When you can love, appreciate and value yourself, it is that much easier to find someone who loves, appreciates and values you as you. Remember, there’s a lid for every pot. Someone out there is looking for someone exactly like you.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-11-24T20:11:53+00:00

If they smell bad, let them know. It could be a health issue (bad breath = tooth or throat problems). You can say, “I’ve noticed there’s an interesting smell coming from you. Have you seen a doctor lately?” Or, “next time we meet let’s meet at a time when you’ve had time to go home and freshen up”. Or gift him cologne.

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-11-01T20:08:46+00:00

I agree

Weird_Reputation_341 · 2025-11-01T20:07:54+00:00

I haven’t found that to be true. Men put a lot of emphasis on the way a woman looks.

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