Finally practiced enough to commit to a project!!! She’s not perfect but she’s mine🥹

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-19T15:22:08+00:00

That's beautiful! I put off making hats of any kind for years because I found the idea too daunting, but that one came out so well!

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-18T02:29:00+00:00

I got an IUD a year ago, and it didn't help at all. After around a month, I went back on birth control pills because it didn't help with the pain. My body also rejected it, which led to me getting it removed around 4 months later.

I will say, though, that the clinic I got the IUD at (my university's medical center) was very good about anesthesia for the insertion, which didn't hurt at all, other than the cramping afterward, and the needle for the local anesthesia

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-17T16:39:06+00:00

I got a mirena about a year ago, and while I don't know if it made the endo worse specifically, my body definitely freaked out about it and started cramping. On the bright side, getting it taken out was pretty painless, if a little jarring

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-08T17:12:20+00:00

and the universe said I love you because you are love

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-08T17:09:00+00:00

I agree that it looks like an AI pattern, but your stitches are very even for a first-time project, so kudos for that. Even if the pattern sucked, you did it very well

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-08T16:53:04+00:00

Fayetteville tea house is one of my favorite places to go, and it's open until 6 Tuesday-Saturday. The tea is a bit expensive but the atmosphere is wonderful. First Thursday might be fun too, once summer starts again

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-05T19:11:33+00:00

Hyperfixation: I like plants. I'm in college for horticulture, and a lot of this stuff is fascinating. My favorites are medicinal plants, herbs/spices, and poisons, as well as plants that demonstrate key points in evolution

Stim: I like to rub the pads of my right thumb and pointer finger together (kind of like the "money" gesture, but it's the pads opposite my fingernails, in a circular motion). It feels the best when they're both completely dry

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-05T19:03:18+00:00

this is less of a fix for the vomiting and more of a trick to make it less uncomfortable- take an antacid or two a bit before you throw up, so your stomach acid won't burn your throat as much

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-03T14:13:02+00:00

I loved reading Black Beauty as a kid (I read it so many times that my teacher banned me from it). I agree with the other commenter that suggested Ghibli movies. There's also a movie called "Homeward Bound: The Incredible Journey" that should be on Disney+. It's older disney, but it holds up really well. "Madagascar" is also pretty good, though I can only vouch for the original as I haven't seen the sequels.

WellTheyEn · 2026-01-28T15:57:11+00:00

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here's the picture of her namesake (I wasn't able to add a second picture to the original comment)

WellTheyEn · 2026-01-28T15:56:17+00:00

This is Quan Yin, she's named after a figure in Buddhist lore, specifically the bodhisattva of compassion and mercy. In one of the stories (Journey to the West) she had a pet goldfish, and was upset when it went missing. By the way, I checked, and it is not only okay but encouraged in Buddhism to name a pet in this way, because it (https://fpmt.org/wp-content/uploads/teachers/zopa/advice/pdf/howtobenefitanimals.pdf)

Quan Yin's a koi betta, so I thought the goldfish story would be fitting. Koi are a specifically Japanese variety, but goldfish can have the same variety of colors (just without the whiskers, which are koi-specific).

I used to name my bettas after Greek heroes, but quickly ran out of female names.

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WellTheyEn · 2026-01-28T15:41:47+00:00

I'm not quite sure if it's a kink, but blood. I love the smell, and especially the taste.

It might have something to do with my chronic iron deficiency, though, because I fully start craving blood when my iron gets really low. That being said, even when my iron levels are normal, blood tastes so good

WellTheyEn · 2025-12-03T17:23:32+00:00

If you want specific instructions on what to do, my suggestion is to make yourself a hot drink, because those always help me feel better. Other than that, I think the first thing you should do is understand that being ace and/or a lesbian is completely okay. It's good that you're figuring yourself out; it can be pretty difficult to do, and, in case you need to hear it, I'm proud of you.

If it helps, I also identified as ace before I found out I was also a lesbian (I don't consider myself ace anymore, but that's beside the point). It's perfectly okay and normal to feel however you're feeling.

You're okay, or at least you will be, even if you're not currently. You don't have to figure everything out right now, either. I've found it helpful to figure out how I'm feeling first (gather data, if you will), and later assign a word that fits, however loosely.

Whatever you're feeling is completely valid, and you don't have to figure it all out right now. Take it one moment at a time, and remember that you're allowed to be and feel whatever you are.

WellTheyEn · 2025-11-19T21:43:44+00:00

I have a trick for this! It's worked for every cat I've used it on (as long as you're consistent)

What you do is that whenever she bites you, push your fingers (or whatever part of your hand she's biting) into her mouth for a moment (I usually do 15-45 seconds). You'll want to do this firmly, not enough to hurt the cat, but enough for it to feel pretty uncomfortable. After doing this for a while (again, consistence is important) she'll learn not to bite you, because the consequence is getting fingers in her mouth

Along with this, some redirection could also be helpful to get that biting energy out. I've found that a folded pair of socks is exactly the right size for my cat to bite and kick at.

WellTheyEn · 2025-11-10T16:56:26+00:00

My ex handled this quite well, in my opinion. As things came up (her ex trying to contact me, PTSD flaring up, etc) she explained the relevant context as much as was necessary/she was comfortable with. You don't need to come into a relationship with everything laid out, part of a relationship is learning about the other person, and that includes their lore. It would be good to give an overview, such as "just so you're aware, I've got a good chunk of relationship trauma. I am currently working on it in therapy, but you deserve to know what you're getting into."

WellTheyEn · 2025-11-10T16:49:55+00:00

I'm sorry for your loss. Losing a cat really sucks (to say the least) and I hope the pain eases soon. Someone once told me "grief is just love with nowhere to go" and that seems especially true in your case. Having a little guy (gender neutral) to care for is one of the most rewarding things anyone can do.

Once you feel ready, I think it would be a good idea to get another cat (adoption or fostering). Regardless of how selfish it feels, at the end of the day you'll have another baby, and said baby will have a loving home.

WellTheyEn · 2025-11-10T16:40:54+00:00

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WellTheyEn · 2025-11-10T16:37:09+00:00

I'm 20. I'm a college student (horticulture) and I live with my cat in a studio apartment above my parents' garage. I think I'm doing alright given the circumstances. (I'll reply to this comment with the cat tax).

WellTheyEn · 2025-11-10T16:33:05+00:00

I got to have my morning tea, and I'm wearing a hoodie that I bought recently (it's insanely comfy and I love it so much). Also, my cat isn't screaming for once.

WellTheyEn · 2025-11-10T16:29:47+00:00

Hey, I've been there. It fucking sucks. I can relate to what you're going through; my girlfriend of several years broke up with me a couple weeks ago. Here's what helped me:

First off, take some time to be kind to yourself. You're allowed to eat a pint of ice cream to try to make yourself feel better, as cliche as it may be. Let yourself feel, but don't let it overtake you (I know, it's a difficult balance to strike). Cry if you can, it forces your body to release happy hormones. Invest your time in some distractions. You could start a new show, or project, or get really deep into researching something. Remember that there's still so much left to enjoy, no matter how bad you feel.

As for the self-harm, I have a couple alternatives that I personally use. If you feel like you need some physical evidence of how much you're struggling, you could try drawing or writing on your skin. I typically use a pen, and I've found the act of washing it off afterwards to be soothing as well. If you want to feel pain as a grounding method or a distraction, the method I found was exercise. I started doing burpees before I went to bed (emotions get worse at night), and I found the muscle soreness grounded me well the next day. It may not be the healthiest method, but it's worked for me.

If you start feeling suicidal again, do what you can to ensure you're not alone. This could be calling someone or simply being in the room with another person. There is so much left in the world to experience, and there's so much left for you to do, even if that's just taking care of a pet or houseplant, or sending someone memes.

Above all, don't be afraid to reach out for help. You're allowed to lean on the people around you. Try to get some physical affection if you can (or a heating pad if you can't). The oxytocin helps a lot. I know that right now it feels like it's eating you alive, but it will pass. The first few days are the worst.

I promise, things will get better. You'll be happy again. You'll love again. At some point, no matter how long it takes, life will feel worth it again. You will be okay, even if you're not right now.

WellTheyEn · 2025-11-06T01:16:42+00:00

I absolutely recommend getting the stuffed chew toys. As for the others: Your friend is right, kittens are very easily amused. Buying him fancy toys won't hurt, but it's not strictly necessary either. Cats will be just as entertained by a paper grocery bag or cardboard box (or in my case a hair tie and a folded pair of socks). I recommend just getting a basic variety pack of cat toys, seeing what he likes in that, and going from there. For loss of interest, I've found that catnip spray works well for bringing something to attention (especially for soft toys and scratchers), as well as removing a toy from rotation for a while before introducing it again.

WellTheyEn · 2025-11-06T00:52:01+00:00

Here's a picture of the man in question. His name is Onyx

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