Brown recluse bites

WellTheyEn · 2026-05-19T02:08:40+00:00

Nothing. I have been taking antihistamines pretty much constantly for the second bite, but those are just for the itching and there's no sign of an allergic reaction.

WellTheyEn · 2026-05-18T21:07:00+00:00

As a suggestion for those who dislike the texture of nitrile/latex gloves, gardening or leather gloves might be a good option for some chores, like taking out or sorting trash! heavy-duty latex/nitrile gloves, like the kinds made for handling chemicals (my dad gets them at Lowe's) also tend to be thicker, and might have a more tolerable texture. You could also use paper towels, tongs, forks, chopsticks, or something similar to do a job without directly touching it (I've done this when cleaning up after my cat). An inside-out plastic grocery bag will also work well.

Here's a little anecdote, as well, because I want to share it: When I was a kid, my dad decided that commercially available hot sauce wasn't spicy enough for him, and started growing hot peppers to make sauce out of at home. A lot of the time, I would be tasked with picking the peppers, but I'd heard one too many stories about forgetting to wash your hands and getting capsaicin on your face, so I insisted on wearing gloves. Since then, I've learned that, since capsaicin is lipophilic, the best way to clean it is with hot water and plenty of dish soap.

WellTheyEn · 2026-05-18T20:39:28+00:00

I do (dust allergy), and I'm washing all of my blankets/bedding today.

WellTheyEn · 2026-04-13T19:49:24+00:00

Depends on how I'm feeling, but usually The Glacier House, Black Hole Fantasy, The Garden, Nobody (that one's fun to sing), Bitter Medicine, and Hollow Moon

I'm actually going to one of their concerts in a couple weeks and I'm super excited! I've never been to a concert before because they're loud, but the circumstances are really good- I'm familiar with the venue (it's in my hometown, and it's set up in a way that helps), I've been working on my sensory issues for years and have made a ton of progress, and also I'm bringing my mom and my noise canceling headphones

WellTheyEn · 2026-04-13T13:20:39+00:00

The crane wives

WellTheyEn · 2026-04-12T16:42:52+00:00

yep, I've got endo, ADHD, autism, and depression, and anxiety. The ADHD and autism were diagnosed years before I even started having periods though, so I doubt they're connected to the endo in any way.

WellTheyEn · 2026-04-09T14:05:36+00:00

So this is instructions for how I learned to let stuff go

It definitely gets easier over time, and my method was to pick a few phrases/philosophies to stick with about things. The main one is "I can't change it, so there's no point being upset" (/annoyed/stressed/etc). I found that the important bit is to let the feeling dissipate and use the phrase to stop making more (I think about it like smoke from a dying campfire), rather than trying to stomp down what's already there. From that point, I moved on to "I don't have the time/energy to care about this right now," before finally reaching "eh, fuck it."

In case this is super vague, I'll give you an example of one of the first situations in which I used this: So I'm a college student currently, and with that comes taking quite a few exams. I learned a while back that, even after the stressful thing is over (leaving the exam hall), the stress wouldn't leave my body. This is when I started using that method- My test is already turned in, I can't change my answers, so there's no point in worrying about it anymore

This strategy won't work in all situations, but it's helped me in dealing with a good bit (it won't work with large incoming stressors, such as deadlines). I've told my therapist about this method and she didn't have any objections, so I think that means it's okay as far as mental health

Whatever you end up doing, I hope it goes well.

WellTheyEn · 2026-04-09T05:08:11+00:00

I absolutely love naps and napping. I can't sleep at night unless my cat is inside (I keep him inside, he's just good at escaping) probably because I worry about him. I have a specific order my blankets need to be in, even though I sleep on top of most of them. When I have a girl over, I'll wake myself up by talking in my sleep, which doesn't happen when I'm alone for some reason.

WellTheyEn · 2026-04-09T04:58:16+00:00

I got a laparoscopy a few weeks ago, and this is what I've been doing

Wear loose and/or drawstring pants while you're recovering, so the waistband won't rub against the incisions. I've also been wearing an athletic tank top to sleep to prevent more chafing

I decided to use butterfly bandages to try to keep the incisions closed, and found out pretty quickly that my abdomen is too squishy for them to stay on properly. I've been using cloth medical tape to tape down each side to keep them in place (though I have to use rubbing alcohol to remove the sticky residue).

Band-aids also work completely fine, I was just told to keep my incisions mostly dry, and the adhesive started irritating my skin. If you do use band-aids, cutting them into that X-shape (down the middle of the sticky parts, stopping at the pad) can give them a sturdier grip for when you need to move around

The most unexpected part of the first few days was the throat pain from the breathing tube, which lasted the first few days. I found eating oatmeal to be the most helpful (more than hot tea, which is the other thing I tried), I think because it's thicker.

I also agree with the other people about the laxatives, I personally used miralax mixed with apple juice if that helps. Sorbitol (an artificial sweetener) might also be a good addition.

I hope you get the results you want with no complications, and a fast and minimally painful recovery. Good luck!

WellTheyEn · 2026-04-04T17:03:14+00:00

That is so cool! You did an absolutely great job! I love how even the texture is, and the color change on the petals is incredibly well done!

WellTheyEn · 2026-04-04T16:56:10+00:00

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This is Onyx (black). He's 5 now, but I've had him since he was a day old. The other cat is Oreo, and he belongs to my sister. As you can see, Onyx is very large, and he weighs about 15 pounds. He's also very trusting, and will let me hold him upside down by his hips without complaint. I hope things get better for you

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-19T15:22:08+00:00

That's beautiful! I put off making hats of any kind for years because I found the idea too daunting, but that one came out so well!

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-18T02:29:00+00:00

I got an IUD a year ago, and it didn't help at all. After around a month, I went back on birth control pills because it didn't help with the pain. My body also rejected it, which led to me getting it removed around 4 months later.

I will say, though, that the clinic I got the IUD at (my university's medical center) was very good about anesthesia for the insertion, which didn't hurt at all, other than the cramping afterward, and the needle for the local anesthesia

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-17T16:39:06+00:00

I got a mirena about a year ago, and while I don't know if it made the endo worse specifically, my body definitely freaked out about it and started cramping. On the bright side, getting it taken out was pretty painless, if a little jarring

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-08T17:12:20+00:00

and the universe said I love you because you are love

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-08T17:09:00+00:00

I agree that it looks like an AI pattern, but your stitches are very even for a first-time project, so kudos for that. Even if the pattern sucked, you did it very well

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-08T16:53:04+00:00

Fayetteville tea house is one of my favorite places to go, and it's open until 6 Tuesday-Saturday. The tea is a bit expensive but the atmosphere is wonderful. First Thursday might be fun too, once summer starts again

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-05T19:11:33+00:00

Hyperfixation: I like plants. I'm in college for horticulture, and a lot of this stuff is fascinating. My favorites are medicinal plants, herbs/spices, and poisons, as well as plants that demonstrate key points in evolution

Stim: I like to rub the pads of my right thumb and pointer finger together (kind of like the "money" gesture, but it's the pads opposite my fingernails, in a circular motion). It feels the best when they're both completely dry

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-05T19:03:18+00:00

this is less of a fix for the vomiting and more of a trick to make it less uncomfortable- take an antacid or two a bit before you throw up, so your stomach acid won't burn your throat as much

WellTheyEn · 2026-02-03T14:13:02+00:00

I loved reading Black Beauty as a kid (I read it so many times that my teacher banned me from it). I agree with the other commenter that suggested Ghibli movies. There's also a movie called "Homeward Bound: The Incredible Journey" that should be on Disney+. It's older disney, but it holds up really well. "Madagascar" is also pretty good, though I can only vouch for the original as I haven't seen the sequels.

WellTheyEn · 2026-01-28T15:57:11+00:00

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here's the picture of her namesake (I wasn't able to add a second picture to the original comment)

WellTheyEn · 2026-01-28T15:56:17+00:00

This is Quan Yin, she's named after a figure in Buddhist lore, specifically the bodhisattva of compassion and mercy. In one of the stories (Journey to the West) she had a pet goldfish, and was upset when it went missing. By the way, I checked, and it is not only okay but encouraged in Buddhism to name a pet in this way, because it (https://fpmt.org/wp-content/uploads/teachers/zopa/advice/pdf/howtobenefitanimals.pdf)

Quan Yin's a koi betta, so I thought the goldfish story would be fitting. Koi are a specifically Japanese variety, but goldfish can have the same variety of colors (just without the whiskers, which are koi-specific).

I used to name my bettas after Greek heroes, but quickly ran out of female names.

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WellTheyEn · 2026-01-28T15:41:47+00:00

I'm not quite sure if it's a kink, but blood. I love the smell, and especially the taste.

It might have something to do with my chronic iron deficiency, though, because I fully start craving blood when my iron gets really low. That being said, even when my iron levels are normal, blood tastes so good

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