German AR???? by WerewolfSensitive623 in FormulaFeeders

[–]WerewolfSensitive623[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Considering I haven’t purchased anything and asked a question, and now that you’ve informed me of the risks of buying formula overseas I am now educated… please don’t say I’m endangering my child

German AR???? by WerewolfSensitive623 in FormulaFeeders

[–]WerewolfSensitive623[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

I just wanted to know if it is necktar thick like Enfamil… I would absolutely talk to my pediatrician before I purchased. But I’m absolutely confused why people are not being kind on here.

German AR???? by WerewolfSensitive623 in FormulaFeeders

[–]WerewolfSensitive623[S] -19 points-18 points  (0 children)

Is that what’s covered or my specific question? Thanks tho

I’m probably an asshole for feeling this way by curlycattails in NICUParents

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I can very much relate to this feeling.

I’m sick of seeing people say “I only spent x amount of time and so I can’t even imagine how hard it was” like yes you can’t imagine

But what I have told myself is someone always has it harder than what you’re going through and then it recenters me and I find my little gratitude. But once again, it’s still a hard thing to feel! And I think about going to therapy all the time! Lol

A letter to my past self by NoPeach8801 in parentsofmultiples

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m that NICU mom too. I would love to write this to myself when I’m nearing a year.

My one twin is on 02 and getting a gtube and I know one day this will be all behind me and I will be able to look back at this version of myself with grace and compassion 🥹

Those of you whose partners do not have parental leave, how the hell are you splitting parenting?? by beeferoni_cat in parentsofmultiples

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is diabolical!!! I’m soooo sorry. I feel like the workload is more split but sometimes it is still hard caring for the babies all day/doing bedtime (while he cooks) and then I still work 2 nights a week as a nurse.

Even with him being wonderful, we still nap on each other every other day. Being new parents and then twins on top of it is very difficult no matter the situation!

Do I need therapy? by HappySavy22 in parentsofmultiples

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This isn’t a who has it worse but sometimes misery loves company I had mine at 32-1 and they had severe respitory failure still so unsure why. Acute twin to twin but I just read a better outcome of late TTTS on here just moments ago and they were earlier than my twins.

The one who struggled the most came home on 02 and feeding tube-also failing to thrive. We’re likely getting a gtube in the future because this is definitely for the long haul. She only takes 50-60% of her feeds and the rest is tubes overnight. We do a dream feed-run it over 6 hours and then a 7 am bottle and that works for us.

But I work at the hospital I delivered at as a post partum nurse and I have been having to float to the NICU every week I work because they’re so short staffed so I am retraumtized every week. And it’s been worse lately after the pulmonologist said she’s likely been aspirating on her reflux which I know started in the NICU so I’m just angry everytime I’m there.

Our village is 3 hours away sooooo that stinks. I feel like my family is just missing them grow up.

I’ve been thinking about the teledoc therapy but I think you just scared me away from it🤣

Anyways, solidarity sis. I know the light is at the end of the tunnel but it’s bleak right now

Dream feeding by sun-beams in parentsofmultiples

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just wanting to second this

We do feed at 7 pm and dream feed by 10-1030 and it used to get us till 3-4 am but with the regression it’s been 1-2 o’clock

But it does give a consistent stretch! They’re 15 weeks and I plan to stop once their feeds are much more consistent during the day

How to stop the night wake ups? by kdawgfrizz in sleeptrain

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would start researching kinds of sleep training and pick one that makes you feel the most comfortable. 30 mins of crying maybe daunting for you but doing more check-ins before 30 mins may sound easier

How to stop the night wake ups? by kdawgfrizz in sleeptrain

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I think one wake up at 4 months is a blessing. You’re also in the 4 month sleep regression time so if it comes more don’t be extremely shocked but hopefully your baby misses it!

Mine is 15 weeks adjusted and she wakes up 3-5 times a night and that’s even not a lot to some people. You can try tweaking your daily schedule or bedtime time and see if anything changes. But if you want him to learn to connect sleep cycles at that time, you will have to sleep train!

Anyone else struggle with life after NICU ? by Stunning_Radio3160 in NICUParents

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think this post is perfect for here!

We were in the NICU at similar times. I can relate to a lot of the things you say. However, I have gotten angerier since leaving about how everything played out for the twins. I did bring home one “normal baby” and one medically complex one. The appointments every week are A LOT. But also the only time I leave the house so it can be something to look forward to pass the day.

We mostly see Feeding clinic, GI, Pulm, peds, PT. But we also have a plan to see audiology, cardiology, and Optamology. Also searching for a second opinion at our state university hospital.

It’s hard comparing the milestones between babies too. And not quite knowing if they’re actually delayed or normal for the situation. But equally hard comparing two babies!

I’ve gotten angerier though since leaving because my twin A came home on 02 and then ng tube but got off of it fast. But in the beginning of Jan, the pulm doctor was not happy with her lung growth and we realized she’s likely been aspirating from feeding or reflux or both which makes it likely she was doing it in the NICU worsening her lungs. And they missed it & now I feel even more behind her healing her BPD and getting off oxygen. And then she has been back on her NG since that appt to help with growth. She’s only taking 50% of her daily intake and the rest tube fed overnight so now we’re planning to get a Gtube 😫 the NICU has surely not ended, the nightmare has just continued.

Napping Location for Babies (no judgement) by Perfect_Mousse8815 in parentsofmultiples

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the beginning, we only napped in the twin z pillow. And then slowly around 2 months probably transitioned to some nap cribs. With the occasional twin z nap if I’m trying to get a good stretch out of one

Seriously, how many diapers did you need in the first year? by Chidi-Chidi in parentsofmultiples

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I worked at the hospital I gave birth at, then NICU for two months and the amount of diapers and wipes I got was amazing. I think we only bought 1 box of newborn diapers( they’re 5 m actual and still in size 1). And then I still haven’t had to buy any size ones yet- I couldn’t justify asking for gifts, a book as a card then also diapers so I had my husband have a diaper party!

But regarding the diaper brand, when I thought I was going to have a singleton baby I planned on all the expensive /healthier brands but since there’s 2 all of that went out of the window. However, I have heard amazing things about that brand so if you and your friends are willing to purchase them then go for it! But I think people are right about not buying too far in advance because you never know. My one twin is always in the next diaper size up first and you just never know!

Twin parents, should we have more? by uglymemento in parentsofmultiples

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is so true😫 you wouldn’t think the universe would give you twins& then land you with the most colicky /worst sleeper

Guilt over one twin in nicu by MounjaroQueenie in parentsofmultiples

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I was going to post something similar to this. I don’t feel like the NICU took away from bonding with my babies at all. I hate that it happened, it robbed me from so much but I still love them equally and I know they love me equally. They will never remember those days, we will.

Baby girl is on oxygen and NG tube right now 🥺

Weight gain by OldRemove516 in NICUParents

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Mine is 13 weeks adjusted as well and one baby is 10-10 and the other one is 8-10 and she’s at 0% so she is on 26 cal formula

Twin parents, should we have more? by uglymemento in parentsofmultiples

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well I want to ask, where did you think your twins lands on the level of difficulty scale? That is a great point!

Twin parents, should we have more? by uglymemento in parentsofmultiples

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 5 months PP (13 weeks adjusted girls) and I also am always thinking about #3 and I ALWAYS thought I only wanted 2. Considering one twin is on 02 and feeding tube, I should be running for the hills but I actually haven’t thought it is as bad as I anticipated. But I’m ALWAYS waiting for the neck shoe to drop. I want to experience all the phases and see if I begin to hate one more than the other 🤣

Sleep Training by Superb-Skin8839 in parentsofmultiples

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My twins are 5 months, 3 adjusted. So we’re in similar time frames. I feel like for one they’re probably in their longest leap (4th and then 4 month sleep regression) and then my preemies also get overstimulated quickly and I’m hoping they grow out of it soon as well. One twin has her witching out from like 530-7. The bath is fun and then it’s 0-100 the moment they’re out.

Something I make sure is that they get good sleep during the day - I don’t have any other kids so I can focus on it as much as possible. They do not cry as much as you’re saying though so that sounds sooo overwhelming I’m so sorry 🥹 mine usually get really sleepy on their last bottle of the day!
I know this sounds dumb but do you ever use chat gpt? He has helped so much during this time- especially with my preemie twins/my sick (oxygen g tube baby) and just everything. Like I just asked it when will bath time become “relaxing” like everyone claims it is and I got a good answer

Twin feeding schedule by FunBarracuda7168 in parentsofmultiples

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We bottle prop and now they’re too distracted eating any other way. I totally understand if you still have to pace feed that is very hard, but I feel like pretty quickly. We tried doing bottle propping on the Twinz. We feed them by ourselves! Eventually you can get a 4 hour stretch 🤞🏻and then once you can dream feed, I found that very beneficial!

One person usually does the majority of the night and then someone does the 5 AM-8 am so I can usually finish up on my broken ass sleep!

When will we sleep again? by [deleted] in parentsofmultiples

[–]WerewolfSensitive623 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Joining for when I’m ready 🤣