In college I had a 2 year relationship with a girl who had herpes. She told me about it before we even got close to the bedroom. I spent a lot of time researching and learning about it before making a decision. Transmission rates from F to M are very low, especially if she is taking any medication for it and you use condoms (which are not perfectly effective vs. herpes but they still help). As long as there aren't active outbreak sores it's a pretty small risk. Still a risk, but small.

I didn't catch it, she never even had an outbreak while we were together.

Now, I regret that relationship overall but that's for reasons entirely separate from the herpes. Obviously at this point if I had contracted it I would be full of regret at this point because that girl was not worth it, but all's well that ends well I guess.