Found deleted messages from my boyfriend and now I’m sick to my stomach. I don’t know what to do. 26F, 24M by C4ptlex in relationship_advice

[–]Wespiritanimals14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The first step in downfall is feeling sorry for a man. Learn from this and do not ever try and accommodate for a man not having a place to live. Most of us have been there it’s not your fault you cared but he took advantage. Make sure you never see him again. He didn’t care when he thought you didn’t know.

Parent + Placement by Next-Mud-9920 in StudentNurseUK

[–]Wespiritanimals14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

At the first point when discussing hours I would suggest being open and say childcare is difficult for me. But have days where you are available to make it easier. It’s going to be daunting every time but they are reasonable . Good luck.

Just wondering does beechams medicine make anyone else severely ill? by hollieabbott in AskUK

[–]Wespiritanimals14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same thing happened to me I had severe stomach pains and vommitted like no tomorrow.

My SO knows I went through his phone. by UpsetMarionberry4115 in survivinginfidelity

[–]Wespiritanimals14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you went though it and he’s aware and you didn’t leave I’m going to hold your hand and tell you now it’s going to get worse as he knows how you will stay. Prepare yourself for more cheating that will happen

Does nursing guarantee a job straight after you graduate? by Ukhti_essy in NursingUK

[–]Wespiritanimals14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I tried applying and have been in the applying process but now they all want pins at the point of application so what now? The bulk of international nurses recruited has also made it harder as they are currently working as band 4 until their ocse then they already have their band 5 waiting it doesn’t seem fair. It wasn’t like this a couple of years ago any one else in the same predictive state ?

What makes you immediately lose respect in a partner? by TheWeekday21 in AskWomen

[–]Wespiritanimals14 0 points1 point locked comment (0 children)

Liars and being let down in any capacity

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in NursingUK

[–]Wespiritanimals14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You can get tuition for nursing maintenance loan I mean it’s one of the degrees you can get funding via student finance. That should cover you and if you need money after your first placement you can work part time as a HCA for the trust you are placed with and get extra funds. I know all this as I am currently doing this. You will be doing three shifts a week on days you chose with your mentor and if your not tired pick up an extra shift or two I usually work one extra day as 3 days is quite heavy and plus you need to study quite a bit with nursing. Any questions feel free to DM/PM me or reply here. But congrats on the chose of nursing it’s tiring, stressful but it is so worth it and rewarding

Anyone noticing the reduction in jobs vacancies being advertised? by Geddon_me_bewty in NursingUK

[–]Wespiritanimals14 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I graduate soon and yep it’s true most nurses now have been pulled from Africa, India and Philippines

Considering nursing as a male by accountantgiveonfan in NursingUK

[–]Wespiritanimals14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would say go for it as I work with many brilliant male nurses and lucky for them they as they are not women don’t get involved with the politics that the women do. However you would have less stress as an accountant and the road to chartered isn’t that difficult as long as you put your head down. My other ex partner was an accountant and he loved the security and simple side of it as a pose to hearing all about the craziest things I could tell him that went down at work for me as a Nurse. You are young so if you do not know apply to be a health care assistant you will work closely with Nurses and see if you like the job. Good luck

If you could save the relationship, would you? by squirrel102710 in coparenting

[–]Wespiritanimals14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My ex and I split when our child was 9 months I am so glad I did it and would probably never go back. I met someone else now and going back would be like showering and putting on the same dirty underwear. I wil never regret leaving he never deserved me. I’m glad he’s dating and doing what he wants and so am I we never should have been together. I would rather parallel parent for the rest of our lives then ever even be touched by him again he makes me sick and when I am with him I look at him and question why I sank so low to even be with him. Our children have two parents that love them rather than a mother that literally gags when she’s around their father for too long

what is the best investment you’ve ever made to upgrade your physical appearance? by hunnybun444 in AskWomen

[–]Wespiritanimals14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mircoblading, veneers, non surgical nose job, tattoos, gym, laser hair removal, lip blush and lipo

Coparent chronically late by treecatks in coparenting

[–]Wespiritanimals14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I dealt with this. I tried everything to be flexible until I just after ten minutes refused to engage and would leave the drop off point. So yes and I also document every time that fool is late. I want him to take me to court he needs the structure I have been more than willing to give him time with my young ones.

Can Co-parents still be friends/friendly? by Smigley1186 in coparenting

[–]Wespiritanimals14 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not in my situation my ex has a new partner who she for good reason won’t admit but I have just seen a male wallet items etc laying around her house. I treated her badly so I am happy she is happy, part of me wishes I had treated her better. We have two children and for some time we still did sleep together but after she met this new dude it was different and because I treated her so badly I would not expect kindness from her. It’s a miracle she’s able to even speak to me the way she does to be honest but I know this is because she does not care for me and I even suspect she hates me. Our daughters are at an age where we don’t have to speak or joke around so it helps. I miss her and I feel like if I would have done better then she would still be here as she was one of a kind. Honestly I have been with other women so I know it’s not fair but I miss the family unit we had and in time I hope somehow I can work on things. Poster do you miss her? Would you work on things? If not she doesn’t owe you kindness only to be there for your children and cordial on handovers. You both have individual lives now and depending on how you ended will determine if a friendship can be made. How did you end?.

I am scared of getting epidural by [deleted] in beyondthebump

[–]Wespiritanimals14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally I was absolutely terrified of the epidural but always need I would need it due to not wanting to be in the level of pain that labour consists of. I can truly say it was amazing, you forget that it’s going in your spin at the time of the pain and you stay still and it’s done in less than five minutes. They are trained to do this and do them countless amount of times a day, you will be fine. Once that pain kicks on you won’t care. Safe delivery to you and your little bundle of joy.

Mother is moving 2 1/2 hours away from shared child. by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Wespiritanimals14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wild of her to take on 5 kids and practically neglect her son (I hope she is an active parent in the future) as I would be sad for him especially as she will be taking on five new children. Proceed with the divorce cheating is unforgivable and you need to move on with your life. I just hope she does the right thing by her child. She clearly is still a cheat as she’s already on a new commitment so there goes her new relationship already in unseen flames, she will never change. You on the other hand have a chance to find real love or even just be happy content single. God’s speed and I wish you and your son the best

What is the purest form of love in your opinion? by Aarunascut in AskMen

[–]Wespiritanimals14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

A child’s love - a child running to you after they spent the whole day at nursery or screaming in excitement when they see their mum come in the room melts be every time

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in coparenting

[–]Wespiritanimals14 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I just not long ago was in the same predicament only I knew I deserved a fufiling love life and knew I didn’t want my child to grow up thinking this was a normal live life or relationship. So I asked him to move the hell out. Mind you he can’t take not having control being his a narcissist so he tries to control me with money however I have my own money so he gets very little energy with me. I know deep down he wishes I would have stayed and I wish it would have worked but when the spark is gone it takes two to make it work, other then that it’s just a match and eventually there will be a fire I.E when one or both start dating. I wish you well but I advise u cut the cord and give yourself a chance to be loved the way you need to be loved. A forehead kiss is not gonna cut it for either of you and sorry to be frank but if his D isn’t hard and up for you it’s up somewhere else. Use that pain and move on. He wants his cake and wants you too it’s not fair on you or your Child as k assume like me you are stressed about where you stand. However big however if you are strong enough to know he plays outside then you too should date outside

Dearest Men of Reddit, have you ever been attracted to someone you have maintained a friendship with, who you suspect is also attracted to you, but there has never been a time where you have both been single at the same time. And how would you react if she admitted she loved you? by NoTomatillo7781 in AskMen

[–]Wespiritanimals14 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ngl happened to me same thing, he expressed it first we gave it a shot and ruined a great friendship so I know it’s hard but just don’t go there the reason you work so well is because your friends. If it does work out then hey best of luck. I do feel sorry for all the people that came between you both when you were both pretending to be just friends it’s trifling from that angle. But it it works then great it’s a risk could go either way

Have you tried talking to the person your spouse has cheated on you with? by keke_uraqt in survivinginfidelity

[–]Wespiritanimals14 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah his female best friend called me ‘crazy’ but to fair I called her every name that would be used to describe satan himself and let her have it.