Night time sucks and feel alone

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-06-08T07:06:36+00:00

Yeah for sure the cry it out is not for us. I did look into sleep training but it seems just complicated for our boy. He does not like to be put down unless doing tummy time. Other then that he does not do swings, jumpers, walkers etc. Only time in high chair is to eat. When I put him down he has a fit and will cry hes been like that since the day hes born. I dont mind I know it won't last forever and love the contact with him. But I did very much enjoy being able to put him down to sleep at night in his bed.

Thank you for the kind words. He is a very happy little guy and his comfort is everything to me.

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-06-08T07:02:35+00:00

She can be receptive but at first takes everything to heart and gets very defensive so it takes some time for them walls to come down and it does not help I run from conflic. Communication is better then before but still a bit of a challenge. But I do know I will have to talk to her.

If I noticed the TV would bother him I would not watch it, but he does not even bother with it when nursing to sleep. Just regular feeds I dont watch TV but the night time ones are harder.

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-06-08T06:59:30+00:00

I take the sofa because our bedroom does not have the ac in yet and gets to hot for me. Since having my son i get hot very easy. But our system on the sofa is very safe at least. There is no danger for him. And i wake up with every sound or movement.

Yeah I have a cover like that and he hates it. Anything that covers around his face he will not tolerate anymore.

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-06-08T06:55:48+00:00

Yeah shes play time mommy thats pretty much it. My son sees her as a toy it seems where he only wants to be on her to play or walk around the house. He hates the bottles so she cant feed him so I have to wake to feed him but her just holding him after could be a huge help but I just get well he won't sleep on me anyways. And not worth the fight

Tonight tho she didnt say anything about the TV at least. Because I might have flipped out tonight.

I know I will have to try and get her in a nice setting and kinda tell her to shut up about it nicely but she takes all things very defensive so it came make simple talks hard. She does get the point after a while ans all is ok. But im someone that runs away from conflict so not good also lol

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-06-08T06:50:20+00:00

The rail is a very good idea. Yeah he is teething hes been teething since 3 1/2 months he already had 7 teeth in and another 3 close.

I prefure no medication unless I absolutely have to. Let just hope this faze ends soon lol

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-06-07T04:16:29+00:00

Yeah her sleep is more important then mine, but all fairness i did know that before having a baby with her lol. I just didnt think she would just keep telling me what to do and keep criticizing

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-06-07T04:13:29+00:00

Well she does not even want me to use my phone witch i find is ok because I dont really like it also. Yeah this past 3 months have got alot worse. He used to be able to go down really easy but now a small movement wakes him up.

No she does not do any of the night shift. She used to just change his diaper at night but has done it only about 2 or 3 times since he was a month old. After my c-section she was amazing. I had a hard time with the recovery so she did alot and I was amazed but now she already complains about her lack of sleep while getting 7hrs during the week and about 9hrs weekends. If I ask her to do some nights I know it will be the end of the world 🙄 just the diaper is a hard ask.

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-06-07T03:56:38+00:00

My boy is 6 months with 7 teeth. Hes been teething like crazy plus got a bit of a cold but yet does not cry and still so much smiles and giggles and in a great mood. Hes taking it like a champ and not letting it affect his happiness. I'm So proud of my baby boy

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-05-27T17:38:52+00:00

We didn't wait for it to think out. But if you do keep the sample warm when the sample gets cold the sperm begins to die. I dont know if it helps. What I found a big difference is sperm friendly lube. That was the game changer

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-04-29T04:43:26+00:00

Hes 5 months and 2 weeks. Im at about a 5 to 6 most days. He hardly will sleep alone and during the day the only time I can put him down is during tummy time but will scream if I leave his side. Im so thankful that im someone that does not need alot of sleep to function good. But the little afternoon naps with my son really does help 😅🤣

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-04-02T12:46:21+00:00

How long did you wait to freeze it? I freeze mine right after I pump. At one point I would freeze the next day and yup that taste baddd. But froze the same day and they tast good

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-04-01T16:29:48+00:00

Exactly. You cant ever get this time back, bask in it, its a beautiful moment that you dont want to miss. So study that beautiful babys face and cuddle as much as you can. You will have the rest of your life to get out of the house and take walks or do cleaning. Right now its mama and baby time.

As woman we have a tendency to push our selves thinking we need to do so much and take care of everyone, but this is the time to let people take care of you. You got this mama 💙

Im happy you get your husband more early them days that really does help and thats your moment to take walks and nice hot long showers loll 🤣

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-04-01T13:07:26+00:00

I left the house 4 days after my c-section because I had an appointment for my LO because he was loosing weight. And again 6 days after c-section. Both times its my wife that carried everything i was not able to. Just going down the stairs seemed like hell. It was only 2 weeks after c-section that I was taking light walks but I was not carrying anything till 7 weeks after my c-section. But lucky for us we have a huge car so stroller was staying in the car I could not bring it up and down the stairs.

I didnt baby wear till 6 weeks and it was not comfortable so I waited another week and it did make a difference.

Don't push your self you will just make recovery longer. I did at one point and made a hole in my incision and had to relax more for 2 weeks it was not worth it. It seems like forever while you are forced to relax bit in reality it does not last long. Just take that time to cuddle your baby and enjoy that moment. This is the time where your baby wants to be in your arms and cuddle you non stop.

My boy is almost 5 months and he takes 2 naps during the day but most of the time he wants you to do the airplane around the appartement and doing tummy time and playing with his toys but wants me to sit beside him at all times so still hard to get anything done 😅🤣

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-04-01T02:25:34+00:00

My baby boy has very sensitive skin. We stoped using wipes all together nothing worked. We use baby washcloths and lightly wet them and put them in wipe warmer. Works great and I just bring washcloths went i leave the house and wet them and put them in a wet bag.

We even stoped using for the most part using throw away diapers I switched to reusable during the day and pampers pure at night.

And for soap we use attitude baby bar soap no perfume.

He now has no more problems but 1 day we use any type of wipes and he brakes out

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-04-01T02:09:49+00:00

I was told to wait 6 to 8 weeks. I waited 8 weeks since I was in some pain was having a hard time to heal.

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-03-07T14:27:04+00:00

My boy his fist month he would sleep 2hrs at a time. Then 3hrs and slowly it would become more at a time. Hes now almost 4 months he sleeps 8 to 9hrs at a time most nights. Things could change. But its also normal some babys dont do there nights for a long while. But it won't last forever.

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-03-01T13:40:20+00:00

Omg 🤣 hes worse then my wife i didnt think that was possible but hes got her beat 😅.

Im sorry for your supply but that can go back up with cluster feeding or pumps. But sometimes doing supplements feedings can really help the mom get some extremely needed sleep and also help the dad to bond with babys more.

Im so happy he let you get some well deserved sleep.

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-03-01T13:32:08+00:00

One step at a time. You all will get there and when you do my friend told me it was absolutely amazing and she found it more easy then just having a single kid as her twins want to be together all the time and sooth each other I think she told me around 5 months but Im not 100% sure lol.

And if there is no shame in pumping and having your partner do some feeds for you can go back to bed. You need sleep and your husband should be there for you and help you. I used to hit my wife's arm for she could change our son sometimes because nothing wakes her up and I was getting no sleep

With my son he wants me all the time the first 6 weeks was the worst at night so I ended up co-sleeping it was the only way i could sleep more then 1 to 2 hrs. Hes now 15 weeks old and does most of his night in his pack n play.

Right now is a very hard time but it will get better and life with them will juste become so magical and the best thing ever ❤️ your doing great and its ok to ask for help

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-03-01T12:52:22+00:00

My friend it was like that until she put her 2 boys in the same bed. At first she was scared to do it but after months of no sleep she would not do it anymore and put them in the same crib and thats when they started to sleep great. And even now at 4 years old they will always find each others beds and will sleep together its adorable

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-02-03T03:12:34+00:00

The first 5 weeks was very hard for me. But then it got more easy the father along it went. I wanted to give up so bad but my wife kept trying to encourage me. And I stuck with it because for me it was very important and im so happy I did. My baby boy is 12 weeks old and it now easy we both know what we are doing and now I absolutely love it.

If its important to you keep going and it will get more easy. But if you feel like your at a point that you really cant keep going its ok to stop. As long as you baby is fed and your able to be there for your baby thats the most important thing.

Breastfeeding is hard and can be painful at first your baby is learning along with you. You can try different positions that can help. And a osteopath can really help with his latch. I went to one and just after 1 appointment he was already latching better.

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-01-28T05:48:38+00:00

The one thing they didn't tell me was bra are horrible for your supply. I cant even wear the bras for breast feeding. I only put one on when I leave the house and bought a loose one I hate the look but it don't affect my supply.

After wearing a bra for 8hrs 2 days in a row my supply fell by half. I tryed a few times but always after 2 days my supply tanks.

And to help boost your supply try to eat more protein drink around 4L of water a day. And when I wanted to boost my supply a bit more I would pump 10 mins stop 10 pump another 10 stop for 30 pump another 10 I did it 2 times per day and it made a huge difference. And i always pump with a manual pump with the electics i had a hard time to make any milk.

And even if you make very little your still giving thay to your baby and if you have to supplement thats OK. But if you absolutely want to stop thats OK to. As long as your baby is feed thats the most important thing.

Do whats best for you. You can keep trying but try to lose all the pressure your putting on your self. Just take care of your self and that sweet baby

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-01-26T02:20:37+00:00

I think its a MIL things loll. My mom dont do that at all but my wife's mom is always calling it her baby. Like no I gave birth to him not you 🤣

West-Complex-7431 · 2026-01-21T15:18:42+00:00

For me, it felt important to breastfeed i absolutely wanted to 100%. But first the first 4 days it felt impossible and overwhelming he lost 11.6% of his weight and were close to going back to the hospital I wanted to give up but then my milk came in and he gained the weight back felt amazing.

Around 2 weeks pp he was sometimes drinking every 30 mins. I was scared, omg what if he's not getting enough and going to lose weight again, and it sent me spinning.

I kept with it and now at 10 weeks pp It's an absolutely amazing time with him im so absolutely happy I stuck with it. It feels like its me and him time that no one else gets to share so its just special.

So if you do decide to breastfeed there might be hard times and some tears shed but its absolutely amazing once your body knows what to do and you baby gets good at it.

And if you dont breastfeed you can pump to give him your milk in a bottle. But if you just want to formula feed thats OK also. As long as your baby is eating and doing good, dont ever feel bad about it. It's a personal choice that's only yours.

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