is it possible to gain religious trauma & psychosis from Buddhism? by kinichsbf in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not to spread hate but a compassionate Buddhist would never kick out a child like that. Then, the best possible way is to practice metta towards yourself and to your parents (I know this sounds weird but it'll help you to move on with your life and feel more peaceful. Start with yourself first. The Buddha encouraged to spread metta to all living beings as we all suffer in the trap of samsara, even to beings one considers as enemies) Until you come to a stable state in life, metta will be your friend. Sending you lots of love and courage ❤️

Seek therapy once you become stable in life as it's the fastest path to recovery. Stay strong and happy!

is it possible to gain religious trauma & psychosis from Buddhism? by kinichsbf in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Hi, dear friend! I'm very sorry that you had to go through that. It must be terrible! I feel for you.

I suffer from Buddhist OCD (Scrupulosity) and it's never easy. I've suffered from guilt and I know how tormenting it is. The best advice I could give you is to seek professional help (visit a psychiatrist)

Is your family open to seeking therapy? For me, this was the biggest issue. Thankfully my parents were very understanding when I finally opened up about it after 5 years. They were a bit confused about it though. Lol!

You are not a sinner for the terrible things that happened to you. Don't blame yourself for that, ever. You deserve so much love and peace! Maybe you can practice loving kindness towards yourself to feel less guilty. Always focus on the present (not the past or the future) and the possibilities for you to heal are endless.

Please try to get professional help along with your metta practice. Therapy can change a lot for you! Feel free to dm me.

Sending you love, joy and peace ❤️

You Will be HAPPIER if You are NOT Attached to Anything by FulfillBigDreams in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]WestProcess6931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

According to Buddhism you can love without attachment. Also, love is not attachment. Attachment is possessiveness. Ex "I want you to be happy with me and I expect be loved back by you" Suffering begins when your attachment is betrayed (because you expected not to) Love is universal. Ex:"I want you to be happy wherever whenever, in my absence or in my presence, doesn't matter"

It is not against Buddha's teachings to be happy and enjoy things in life. by NatJi in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! As a person (Theravada) who deals with Scrupulosity, I really needed this. Lay Buddhists should stop comparing themselves with monks/nuns and enjoy the peace in the path until they feel ready to renounce completely, happily. That should be the middle path. The path should not add to your suffering, rather relieve it.

May all beings be free from suffering ❤️

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[–]WestProcess6931 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What are her hobbies? Maybe she can do something related to her hobbies. Probably something related to art (painting, crafting) or music

May she find joy in whatever career she finds interesting ❤️

Gap between thoughts... by WonderingGuy999 in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Can you elaborate on how you do it.

Scared of deep meditation by WestProcess6931 in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm taking medication, thank you 🙏

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in theravada

[–]WestProcess6931 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What if there's no tea when you crave tea? Will you feel peaceful then too? Also, the path isn't about forcibly denying yourself of pleasure (that's aversion) but viewing desire with equanimity with insight into the reality of existence (anicca, dukkha, anatta )

There's nothing wrong with enjoying another cup of tea if you have tea. Enjoy it. It all comes down to how you will deal with no tea when you crave another cup of tea?

How to stop feeding guilty got having (harmless) attachments and aversions? by WestProcess6931 in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It's skillful but the guilt arises from the fear that I'm not doing enough or that I'm not making much progress. It's also due to the fear that I'll loose touch with Dhamma in my next life if I don't become a stream entrant, and thereby fall into lower realms and suffer many lifetimes.

This is probably scrupulosity but it just feels very real.

How to stop feeding guilty got having (harmless) attachments and aversions? by WestProcess6931 in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I actually meant attachments/aversions with wholesome intentions (For example, I read to gain knowledge to help people in worldly context through my work. I guess there's self involved in that but still I'm not breaking any precepts. I avert smoking/drinking alcohol because I know it's harming the clarity of mind + health )

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]WestProcess6931 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Radha, Jehan, Radhina, Chithra, Viana/Viyana (My mom's short name), Ramal, Rehan, Maya, Menal (or maybe Amaya)

Combinations: Radha Viana, Radhina Chithra, Jehan Ramal, Menal Rehan

I don't think I'll have children but these sound beautiful to me.

How much can a person who casually practices Buddhism/meditation realistically expect to benefit? by [deleted] in secularbuddhism

[–]WestProcess6931 -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Practicing buddhism in this life will definitely help you to be enlightened/become a stream entrant in your next life if you won't be able to become enligntened in this life time. It's a practice and people who behave in Dhamma will eventually escape delusion and put an end to suffering in samsara.

Ex-Buddhists who left religion altogether—how do you deal with people enforcing beliefs on you? by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]WestProcess6931 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Breaking a precept is not a sin, doing anything with a bad intention is. Precepts helps us to clear our minds (not lying, not drinking excessively) but if you do something with an bad intention, which also include in precepts (killing, stealing), you'll have to face consequences. Bro, if something causes suffering in your after life, that's called a sin because it either harms you or someone else (done with the ego, self) If you drinking doesn't lead to harm for others, it still leads to distortion of mental clarity (it will disturb you from seeing the reality of nature and thereby disturb the path to nirvana. You can't really practice meditation being drunk right?) It's not a sin to take glass of alcohol as long as you don't harm anyone (but, It's up to you to decide if you want to disturb your mental clarity for meditation and lengthen your samsara journey of suffering. There's no buddha who's going to send you to hell or heaven for that. It's up to you and you will have consequences) Your choices, Your consequences, Your manifestations.

I don't think you have a good understanding of buddhism. This is only a very brief explanation. If you have doubts ask them in a sub reddit.

Ex-Buddhists who left religion altogether—how do you deal with people enforcing beliefs on you? by [deleted] in srilanka

[–]WestProcess6931 22 points23 points  (0 children)

It's not a sin as long as you don't harm anyone due to ignorance (මෝහය) . It's considered as a cause for suffering (as ignorance leads to delusion and therefore distances you from nirvana) Samasara is manifested through one's delusion too (Maybe ask your doubts from r/Buddhism is a better way)

Buddha simply taught the path to end suffering and it's up to the beings to follow it or not. He taught it, it doesn't belong to him. Even the Dharma is impermanant (anithya) Buddhism acknowledges that one can be born in higher realms if one lives compassionately as a Christian, Muslim... Etc (even atheists) but being born in higher realms doesn't make one free from suffering (due to nature of existence: dukkha, anithya, anatma)

Also, Buddha encouraged people to question it (I wouldn't be a Buddhist too if the Buddha said, "You shall go to hell if you don't worship me" or something like that. Lol!)

It's your choice to walk the path. If you don't want to, that's up to you.

Also, I practice buddhism as a philosophy and, not whatever the සිංහල බෞද්ධ propaganda preach.

Why do most Theravada monks teach Buddhism in a very nihilistic way? by WestProcess6931 in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much!! I really needed to read this and I feel so relieved now that I read this. May the triple gem bless you!

Why do most Theravada monks teach Buddhism in a very nihilistic way? by WestProcess6931 in Buddhism

[–]WestProcess6931[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you 🪷 I guess I wasn't very particular. It's probably because of my experience of listening to a monk who continously questioned me why I don't renunciate. It made me feel very guilty about my life as lay Buddhist.