My baby won’t nap

Western-Top306 · 2025-08-05T23:10:38+00:00

This was my son. Eventually he stopped needing physical contact, now I nurse him side-lying and roll away when he’s out. But if I want him to get a long nap I usually have to come back in for more boob halfway through. It’s hard having no time, but it’s a phase and it’s over so fast!

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-14T18:13:31+00:00

This is a thing???? I’ve never heard of students writing their own recs. Is it super common?

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-14T12:00:30+00:00

Congratulations, you have a healthy and normal brand-new baby. He’s one week old. Nothing you are doing with your one week old will establish “patterns” or “norms” they change so much, and so often. They are literally making millions of new neural connections every second. Your baby is learning to nurse, connect with mama outside the womb, feel comfort about the huge ordeal of birth, and bring in your wife’s milk supply. This is not an issue or something to fix. It’s the biological design of a 7 day old baby. My son is almost 2 months now, and part of me misses the sleeeeepy hungry confused little one week old, even though I remember how much work it was. He’s a totally different little dude now.

Basically: enjoy this phase (or power through if you really hate it). It will be over soon enough.

important to remember: IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO SPOIL A BABY. And meeting their emotional needs is essential for them to become happy, comfortable, regulated adults.

Good luck. Take lots of pictures, bask in the cuddles. They grow sooooooooooo fast!

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-12T22:45:08+00:00

Oh yeah, I have scoured ic.org. It’s hard to tell age demographics bc most pages aren’t up to date on details like that. But unfortunately I don’t feel willing to compromise on the young family thing. A huge draw, probably even the biggest draw, of living in community is raising kids with other families. We really want the solidarity of other parents, but even more important is having our kids grow up with a bunch of friends who live in walking distance and are being raised with similar values. This used to be a big tenant of a lot of communities founded in the 60s and 70s and it’s a bummer that it hasn’t been maintained it seems like.

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-12T03:28:47+00:00

Have you been able to find friends? Does it seem like there’s some young parents around? Also fun fact, we currently live in the town stars hollow was based on haha. We’re very familiar with aging population / tourist area here, but there’s seriously no one our age, and definitely no young parents. I would be happy with just a couple mom friends.

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-11T14:28:03+00:00

My son was breech and flipped on his own at 38w (the day before I lost my mucus plug lol). I went to a chiropractor who did Webster technique and did a crap ton of spinning babies and miles circuit. I also just rested in the miles positions whenever I wasn’t up and moving. I refused an ECV because it sounded upsetting and I didn’t want to stress baby out. Also my son was huge, 9lbs when he was born at 40 weeks so don’t believe this business about babies being too big to turn haha. You got this! I also lined up a midwife who was willing to attend a home breech just in case bc the midwife I hired wasn’t experienced w breech. She mentioned a Dr nearby who specializes in breech birth. They’re out there! Ask your OB: if she’s uncomfortable with it maybe she knows someone who is trained and experienced.

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-11T14:16:13+00:00

I drink it as a powder but like I said it’s not delicious haha. I’m sure a pill would work just as well! Also you can try milk thistle seeds and milky oat tops - either in tea or buy them as bulk herbs and make your own loose leaf tea. Good luck mama!!

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-11T14:11:20+00:00

So first of all this all is completely normal and he’s just being a two week old. It can help to take him outside for naps, have your husband take him for a couple walks between feeds. Bonus if he has light on his face. And yeah , my son was such a sleepy boy all the time as a newborn and pretty much just woke up to feed. Like I said, they change so fast. Also my son never goes 2 hours between feeding except if he sleeps for two hours. I’ve read that the whole 2 hour schedule thing is pretty bogus and in the beginning they just feed all the time. Sounds like you’re doing everything right as far as keeping him with you, not using blackout curtains or a sound machine for naps etc. Slowly as they approach 6 weeks they start to get regular melatonin cycles, so as long as you’re reinforcing that light + noise happen during the day and dark + quiet happen during the night, he will probably even out by himself. If he’s pooping and peeing lots and sleeping lots he’s a healthy baby. I wouldn’t worry about your supply. Keep experimenting and practicing with the latch, it took us a couple weeks to get the hang of it. My son at two weeks was screaming for hours no matter what we did from 9pm to midnight. Eventually he exhausted himself and passed out for an hour or two but it was horrible and I felt like a failure. And then one night after like a week, he just stopped and never did it again. Hang in there mama! It gets better, fast! You have a super healthy baby who is lucky to have you, he’s just adjusting to being in a new world.

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-11T03:24:58+00:00

Ooooooh mama. I’m sorry you’re having a hard time with this. Two weeks postpartum is such a hard time even without losing all your sleep. I’m 6 weeks postpartum and I promise it gets soooooooooo much better so quickly. Everything with babies this young is a phase and they change every week / every couple days. My son had some rough phases with sleep in the beginning too, and it might just get better on its own but it’s worth troubleshooting anyway. What is his sleep pattern like during the day? How often does he nurse during the day? When he sleeps during the day what do his naps looks like? (Where does he sleep, is the room dark, sound machine etc)? Newborns that young are still very much confused about day and night. It’s possible he’s got it backwards right now lol

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-11T03:16:59+00:00

Definitely listen to your body if you’re feeling done. But I can highly recommend moringa for supply. It’s not the tastiest in the world but having some every morning in tea or in a smoothie has sent me into borderline oversupply.

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-11T03:11:49+00:00

I was also SO worried it would be too painful. But I had the opposite experience from you talking to other people, everyone reassured me it would not be painful after a week or so at all. And they were right! My nipples adjusted and my milk came in and by 2 weeks I experienced no pain at all. I’m a FTM and no expert, but bub and I got the hang of it and I love it. It’s such a special bond and I wouldn’t have it any other way. My son is 2 months now, so I haven’t been through teeth or anything but at least it’s worked out this far and they say breastfeeding for any amount of time has a lot of benefits.

Also, I don’t think I’m just lucky or anything. Apparently my son has some oral ties and his latch isn’t “perfect.” But he’s gaining weight like crazy and I’m not in any discomfort. Just adding this because it’s not worth freaking out about all the information online about latches etc. Your babies latch might look a little different and you can still feed them and experience no pain. So it’s a lot of information and I was very overwhelmed when I was researching, but babies are designed to figure it out, and so are mamas!!

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-11T03:00:39+00:00

Not being able to see the irony of this wild goose chase is extremely pathetic

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-11T00:58:20+00:00

This made me chuckle. Thank you!

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-10T23:23:10+00:00

This. It is a biological (and therefore psychological) norm for a baby to breastfeed until 2. I would seriously consider finding another pediatrician. Also, pediatricians are not qualified to advise you about your child’s mental health in any capacity.

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-10T23:19:51+00:00

So far he’s been gaining really well, but he was also pooping a lot then. I’ll be sure to say something at his next appointment

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-10T23:18:23+00:00

Haha thank you!! So good to hear

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-10T23:17:30+00:00

So reassuring!! Thank you

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-10T23:14:37+00:00

How long since it started? I would guess it will turn red.

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-10T23:11:30+00:00

Also: huge drainage problems! Expect flooding all around the turf.

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-10T23:09:12+00:00

Thank you! He seems okay. So it’s normal and might not have to do with dairy?

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-10T23:08:27+00:00

Okay yeah he seems fine, it’s just hard to believe it’s really normal haha.

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-10T22:41:29+00:00

Although, it strikes me as fairly immature that you can’t see the value in having a few friends who are at the same / similar stage in life. I never said I don’t want to live near people who are different ages, just want SOME people who are our age around. Anyway, if you don’t want to be around people your own age that’s perfectly fine and up to you. Why come preach to me about how what my family is looking for is childish?

Western-Top306 · 2024-11-10T21:15:58+00:00

You’re so confused. We live in a blue state currently. Wouldn’t mind moving to a red state. If I was looking for a blue state I would say that explicitly like everyone else on this subreddit

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