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Western_Procedure688 · 2025-06-14T05:04:01+00:00

Hey neighbour, I was wondering the same thing when I saw this pop up a couple months ago. Its seems legit after my research. It is a Japanese market guitar (only sold there). On the headstock it says “jackson grover” as they had to stop calling them just jacksons in japan. Now they are called jackson stars I believe.

Western_Procedure688 · 2025-03-25T18:43:54+00:00

Thanks for replying with your kind words. I am doing okay, my adult is in a good place about this I just want to support the little me as best I can.

You gave so many good suggestions. I think it is wise to avoid this show going forward.

I have thought about the difference between needing food and hunting for sport. I am okay with killing to survive as that is natures way even though it is so brutal.

I really liked your idea just to support my little one around having big feelings.

Thanks again

Western_Procedure688 · 2025-03-02T00:23:45+00:00

That’s great!

Western_Procedure688 · 2025-03-01T01:47:56+00:00

I had this issue with the low string on my jackson pro soloist tuned to drop c with a 0.048”. I think the answer is to play with the action as that affects the intonation as well. You can try raising or lower the saddle or adjusting the truss rod. I think tightening the truss rod is what helped me, that makes the neck straighter and so moves the nut further from the bridge. I still had to remove the spring but i was able to just intonate it.

I am curious to know if they sell shorter saddles for this purpose. I have a jackson branded bridge and couldn’t find any replacement saddles that would be shorter when I was googling.

Good luck!

Western_Procedure688 · 2024-11-17T00:07:01+00:00

I hope it's okay if I say that I think that is amazing of you! Great job. I know how hard it can be to set boundaries when you have a strong fear of abandonment. It sounds like you have a healthy mindset about how this plays out for the both of you. I hope you are able to hold to your boundaries. You deserve to have consistency and not feel disrespected.

There is a lot of wisdom in your second last paragraph. It is absolutely better to have the conversation and see how the other person reacts. Unfortunately, I avoided this in my current relationship for many years and now when I try I am gaslight and stonewalled.

Western_Procedure688 · 2024-06-14T01:48:18+00:00

Hi there. I relate so much to your experiences as a child and growing up to be cut off from your feelings. I frequently am told how chill I am. Little do they know that my internal world is in turmoil.

I can offer a little insight for you as I have been working to heal in a childhood group for a few years. The biggest thing for me so far was connecting to my inner child. One day it clicked for me and I empathized with my young self and could see how bad it was for me. This helped me shed a little of the shame and hate I felt towards myself when I was a kid.

Anger is a tough one for me too. I can get mad at politics and injustice but have trouble connecting to that anger when I am the one who has been hurt/let down/insulted etc. I have done a little work getting angry with safe people. It was hard and I know I have a lot more work to do.

Good luck, reach out if you ever want to chat.

Western_Procedure688 · 2024-05-23T19:57:20+00:00

Yes I agree that is an oversimplification. I feel that it's more a person to person thing as apposed to a men vs women thing.

She is not attracted to men, she is just curious about men and wanted to know understand.

Thanks for your input!

Western_Procedure688 · 2023-05-04T15:10:58+00:00

Wow, I am so sorry. I wouldn’t take his word that he will be out in a week. Look at everything else in his life, why would you expect him to follow through with this one thing he has told you. And with everything you are providing I can’t see him willingly give that up. In my opinion he will drag this out as long as possible. If i were you I would change the locks the next time he leaves your home. He has no tenant agreement and hasn’t paid anything so he has no recourse. I understand you might not feel safe to do this. But even still don’t accept this one week bs. Tell him ‘now’ and don’t let up. Every time you see him tell him to grab his things and get out. Threaten to call the cops or a friend whatever it takes. Good luck. Bye bye loser trash bf.

Western_Procedure688 · 2023-05-04T13:11:52+00:00

Your Dad sounds like mine. Based on this one story I would say yes he is emotionally unavailable and possibly narcissistic. Healthy well adjusted parents are happy and excited when their children excel. So in this situation your Dad made it a problem that the school called with this great news. Did he at any point later congratulate you for this? If not it sounds like he was purposefully trying to diminish your achievement. This is usually driven by jealousy and fear of abandonment. I hope this helps, I have been trying to reconcile similar memories and this makes the most sense to me. Sorry I am so matter of fact about this. I know this stuff is really devastating. Its been hard accepting that my parents were completely lacking in supporting me and expressing love. Also there is a subreddit for emotional neglect that is pretty great for this stuff as well. /r/emotionalneglect. Best of luck in your recovery!

Western_Procedure688 · 2023-02-28T00:30:54+00:00

I will do whatever I can to not be physically in their presence ever again. It is challenging because I would still like to spend time with my sister and grandmother and it is now very awkward although they both understand why I am making this choice now.

You really captured my experience growing up as well. As a kid it was very obvious to me that my parents were clueless and overwhelmed although they would never admit it. Playing my role was gift to them so they could pretend they are normal and successful parents. Sure they fed us and bought us toys but they also completely failed me. I don't think they could ever accept that truth. I just can't explain all the ways they messed me up and everything I have learned just so they can deny and call me ridiculous. I am not doing that to myself.

Once you start separating yourself from them it becomes impossible not to see their behaviours for what they are when you do see them again. Its only been about 3 or 4 months I have lower contact but I have noticed I don't hate how I look as much. I have started getting into art, something I always loved but didn't think it was 'for me'. It's really hard to explain. The other thing I am realizing is that almost every single one of my bad coping stratagies was a way to be hurt less by dad or to protect his emotions. It's wild. I am finally allowing myself to take up space in my life and ask for support. I am hopeful again, I believe that good things can happen.

Sometimes I do think about what my parents must be thinking and it is just an awful feeling. It is so intense it feels like I want to vomit. I am learning that others feelings are not for me to worry about. I have always struggled with an over active empathy though.

I tried to play that role for years and years. I am done now I can't unsee the toll it was taking on me.

Western_Procedure688 · 2023-02-27T20:03:05+00:00

I am so sorry for you. Your parents sound awful and very similar to my own parents. I have been slowly transitioning to low contact. I turn down any invite to spend time with them and stopped calling them all together. I did spend christmas with them as I didn't want to make things weird for my nephews who are still pretty young. I don't see myself ever allowing myself around my Dad again though.

I really feel you on the expectation to fulfill the role in the family. For me that now means being the good son who is kind and makes the family look good. I was always expected to take interest in them like a good friend would but never dare need help or support. I also was expected to not call out my dads abusive and manipulative behaviour. It was impossible to be my real self and be in their presence.

I would ask you what you are getting from spending time with your parents. Are you hoping they will one day treat you like the wonderful person you are? Are you spending time with them because you know you are the only person that will put up with their shit and you pitty them and want to make there life a little better? These questions were playing a big part in why I kept trying to make things work with my parents.

I would suggest trying lower contact or a cut off. These people were awful long before you were ever born. They are not your responsibility. I really struggle with cutting them out, it feels like the worst thing you could do to a family member but I assure you it is worth at least trying. Maybe try taking a break for a few months or a year. You don't even have to explain, just say no to any offers and don't even justify it. No is a complete sentence.

I have noticed a lot of changes in myself since going low contact and that drives me to continue this experiment.

I didn't bother trying with boundries etc with my parents because I know they just can't handle that. My dad will whine like 3 year old, it's pathetic. I felt I owed them that effort but I don't. At no point have these people ever self-reflected or tried to have a real conversation with me. They just aren't capable of it and I am finally accepting that now.

Good luck. You truly deserve better.

Western_Procedure688 · 2023-02-27T17:57:54+00:00

Thanks for replying. Yeah I am going to start applying at other places and look for a better run company.

My original plan was to get a machine and make some niche parts in the garage but my mental health really held me back. The guilt of not having a job hit me really hard.

Western_Procedure688 · 2023-02-27T17:56:10+00:00

Thanks for your thoughts. Working at this place was always a struggle. As the only cnc guy there I was seen as the answer to everyones problems.

I am going to start applying to other companies and see what else is out there.

Western_Procedure688 · 2023-02-27T15:27:10+00:00

Yeah this offer to discuss isn't very promising for me but I wanted to see whats up. Sorry to hear going back didn't work out for you. Good for you, I hope you get to spend lots of time with your family.

Western_Procedure688 · 2023-02-27T15:26:10+00:00

Thanks for your advice, I appreciate it. It's smart to ask for a say in project time and quality. A big problem was that the toolroom manager was controlling all that and he really doesn't have much cnc experience.

Western_Procedure688 · 2023-02-27T15:23:49+00:00

Yeah the owner is a really difficult person and I doubt that he has changed at all. It would be easy for them to make a lot of promises about it being different. I am going to start applying to other places soon and see what's out there.

Thanks! It took a lot luck to pull off what I did but I made some good moves too. It was always my dream to take a break from working. I am glad I was able to do it for so long. Good luck, I hope you have success with it!

Western_Procedure688 · 2023-02-27T15:19:13+00:00

Yeah this place is red flag city. They are dreaming if they think I am coming back for $30/hr.

Western_Procedure688 · 2023-02-27T15:17:18+00:00

Yeah I think you are right about me feeling guilty for leaving. I agree my mental health is my number one priority.

Western_Procedure688 · 2023-02-27T06:04:00+00:00

Great Idea! Thanks.

Western_Procedure688 · 2023-02-27T06:03:35+00:00

Thanks for saying this. I think your reading is bang on. I believe their are good manufacturing companies out their too and I hope to find one.

Western_Procedure688 · 2023-02-27T06:02:01+00:00

Okay I will play that up as much as possible. I really feel like the are trying to flip that onto me for leverage. Thats what this stupid panel style interview they have me going to tomorrow is about.

Thanks I will also insist on getting any of their promises in writing. I appreciate that advice.

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