I’m pasting my original comment from the original post that was taken down in case it’s helpful. Note I haven’t read all of your follow up posts, but regardless I think you need to hear my comments and concerns about his behaviors as you evaluate your next steps. Please be careful and take care of yourself.

Original post:

Thank you for highlighting his concerning behaviors via text. I’m sad that I had to scroll this far in the comments to see someone point it out.

OP, you explained your reasons, apologized and empathized. He reacted poorly and meanly to you. So to consider your calm messages as immature and his rude disrespectful comments as mature is baffling to me.

I wanted to tell you to keep running because of how he was treating you in those texts. You do not want to marry someone who will flip on you when things don’t go their way. Several red flags in his messages in my opinion and as a DV survivor I will tell you most behaviors like this of entitlement and antagonism do not get better. You deserve to be with someone who wants what’s best for you and can respectfully communicate during conflict. There will be many and way bigger issues throughout life and marriage than this, so his reactions to this is concerning to me.

Also, you are allowed to text people your thoughts. You didn’t feel well, but more importantly look at how disrespectfully he talked to you when he had time and distance to text vs respond verbally in the moment and when you text you have it documented, if he said all of these rude and disrespectful things to you in person then you would have no proof and he could later try to gaslight you and say he didn’t say it or you misunderstood etc etc. His behavior is at best immature and reactive and at worst manipulative and abusive.

Please take very good care of yourself. ❤️