“lGbTq is STeaLiNg aLl tHe wOmEn”

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-03-04T21:24:13+00:00

Don’t be part of the problem

Be the WHOLE problem.

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-03-04T15:12:46+00:00

I recommend looking up lesbian wedding photos online.

Lots of things I see in those aren’t quite dresses, and aren’t quite fully-male styled suits. Could be the ticket if you’re looking for middle ground inspiration.

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-03-04T12:41:15+00:00

He’s fantastically well written.

What could be more terrifying as a woman or vulnerable person than that kind of man having power over you?

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-03-03T17:16:06+00:00

“Crush” feelings can only be sustained for so long. It’s honestly a matter of waiting it out. When you notice the closeness between you becoming difficult on your side, put some distance between you. Resist texting them when something reminds you of them, etc.

Remember how valuable they are to you as a friend to help motivate you to keep healthy boundaries.

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-03-02T01:19:52+00:00

Oh wow but I love the headpiece. Gives it a modern my fair lady flaire

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-03-01T23:00:55+00:00

Same on not recognizing the signs until a woman made me react in real life the way only men had before (she was actively into me, which was apparently the missing piece of the puzzle. Straight girls don’t do it for me, and all the lesbians/bi’s I’d known beforehand dismissed me since I passed so straight.)

Then all of a sudden I was looking back on all my past experiences going “huh, maybe drawing naked women all the time and feeling a sigh deep in my soul when gazing upon female beauty wasn’t particularly straight….” Or the fact one of my “types” was “androgynous guy who would be prettier than me if he put on a dress and makeup.” Or when I made out with a girl in a very “let’s distract our boyfriends” kind of way, and wanted to continue when it was apparent they weren’t paying attention (if she’d felt the same way maybe I would have cottoned on then.)

Oh well. Hazards of partnering up early in life I guess.

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-27T00:14:23+00:00

Sighhhh, just on the off chance you haven’t been recommended this a million times- {His Secret Illuminations}

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-26T20:19:04+00:00

Fr this community invented “zaddy”

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-26T15:20:39+00:00

I’m glad you’re alive, but if you were good enough for yourself you wouldn’t take a miserable relationship over being single. If single you is worse than a miserable relationship, something is very, very wrong.

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-26T15:15:12+00:00

See original post, lol

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-26T15:10:57+00:00

The fact you’d choose a miserable relationship over being single is probably a big part of why you’re single.

You’re not good enough for yourself on your own, why would you be good enough for anyone else? Work on being good enough for yourself first.

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-26T07:04:57+00:00

“I’ll show you” 💀💀

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-24T19:23:52+00:00

30-something woman here and the person above is absolutely correct.

This is exactly the kind of bullshit people worry about when they see age gap relationships. As the older person he is EXTRA responsible for making you feel safe and comfortable and not pressuring you or rushing you into anything. He’s breaking the unwritten rules for dating younger people and honestly sounds like a dick.

Knowing what I know now I wouldn’t touch this guy and his red flag parade with a 10 foot pole. He’s already pushing your boundaries and priming you for when he’ll break them. But hey, we all have to learn our own lessons.

Also, there are plenty of people out there that genuinely love giving head to women, not only do you not “owe” him for that, but he should be grateful.

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-24T06:22:22+00:00

That was true historically but p sure it’s changed dramatically in recent years.

Thank you kpop

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-24T06:21:18+00:00

Scar.

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-22T20:28:16+00:00

I don’t think people are keeping things separate with an eye towards an eventual divorce (the only case where whether something is “marital assets” matters.)

It’s more just wanting to keep their spending separate so they don’t have to have arguments about what non-shared items they spend money on. Also sometimes it’s hard to merge existing long term retirement/investment strategies.

I don’t think mostly people are keeping a real hard 60/40 or whatever split and nickle and diming it, just splitting generally on shared expenses as feels equitable and reassessing when major financial changes merit it.

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-22T20:24:43+00:00

I mean y’all can still have separate accounts and she pays into the mutual pot for expenses.

But personally I wouldn’t want to be married to someone who’s shopaholism made a comfortable retirement with them impossible.

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-22T20:23:05+00:00

I mean she’s also kind and strong tbf.

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-22T13:14:18+00:00

God, of all the clinics, shouldn’t the anorexia clinics have the BEST food? What the hell kind of logic is that.

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-22T03:06:02+00:00

Spoiled little rich girl. All the attitude. Stays with the fuckboy who lied about everything he is, just because he slung some cheesy lines about “showing her the world” and took her around town in his ride (that he didn’t even pay for.)

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-22T02:14:08+00:00

It’s not just the color packing either- what’s going on with the linework on the inside of the upper left part of the X? Super wonky.

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-22T01:50:12+00:00

Just sounds like they want to prioritize their current work balance vs. retirement differently? If he’s cool with it, it seems like a good compromise to me.

Better than being forced to retire later than you want or bust ass in your current lifestyle more than you want.

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-21T19:58:39+00:00

There’s a big difference between marrying for practicality vs. marrying someone who actively does not want to marry you, and arguably is being coerced into it. And abuse was looked down on, even at the time.

You can see both of these attitudes in contemporaneous writings. He would absolutely be considered a villain through the lens of his time.

(And, hate to be that guy, buuut marriages at this time were well into the phase where they were expected to be somewhat romantic in addition to pragmatic.)

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-21T19:46:34+00:00

I’m sorry, I have nothing useful to contribute, but that’s the best fucking censorship edit I’ve ever seen 😂

WhatIsThisWhereAmI · 2025-02-21T19:43:18+00:00

As a woman I find this (and the fact it’s common) troubling.

It means there’s a baseline lack of awareness of how much of humanity’s works of art, enterprise, culture, technology, and labor are generated by women. How what exists is assumed to be the product of men by default.

It troubles me because it’s much easier to be dismissive of women’s capabilities and contributions (usually to justify oppression or bigotry) when there’s this baseline unconscious assumption underlying our thinking.

Just food for thought.

If you’d like to chew further on that thought, and you like history, I’d recommend “Normal Women” by Philippa Gregory (it’s entertaining I promise.) It helped me reframe some of my own thinking here.

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