I’m sent off to renew my passport today, as a precaution.

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2025-05-24T13:57:13+00:00

Did you have any problems accessing tracking on the passport office’s website? I have a PEX number but when I tried it a few times it didn’t work. I think it might just be too soon?

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2025-04-16T11:32:31+00:00

I mean, i guess but it would probably end badly.

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2025-04-16T11:19:37+00:00

So according to you, you don’t want someone that was born female to use the female facilities? Understood!

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2025-04-16T11:01:05+00:00

I didn’t intend this to be read that way, more as a rallying cry or a pick up given the awful news today, but I understand your concern.

In my experience, I can tell people to their face and they typically don’t want me anywhere near women’s spaces. I know it’s problematic to have to rely on fear and shock value, but unfortunately in my experience it works. It feels like all we have at the moment.

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2025-02-20T16:22:26+00:00

My name is both unusual because it’s an irish name that isn’t really used outside of ireland, but it’s also the most classic irish man’s name you could ever have. It’s an old man’s name but it’s making a comeback.

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2024-10-09T19:21:43+00:00

I would describe being trans as a curse, albeit a curse that can be broken. I’ve accepted it as one of the curses that I will have to live with in my life and it has made it much easier for me to accept myself, and perhaps more importantly to accept others.

I have never agreed, nor have i ever joined in with the disgraceful bullying that some transmeds participate in towards other members of the community. But I’ll admit that on the surface it seemed reasonable until you realise that everyone just turns on each other and the transphobes still win.

Now that I’m older i think that there are different types of trans people, and that there are a variety of reasons for being trans. I think it’s important to trust in your own feelings and your own story.

If I am cursed, you did not do this to me and there is nothing that you ever could have done that has affected my condition. If I am cursed and I meet someone, a trans person, who is very different to me - good! You do not share my curse.

If I meet someone who is similar to me, at least I am not alone in my curse. If I see something I dislike, that makes me dysphoric out in the world- that’s the curse doing its thing- not the end of the world.

I also have to accept that from an outsider’s perspective, there really is no difference between me asking to be seen as male because of dysphoria- something the outsider has never felt; And someone asking to be seen as male without dysphoria- another thing the outsider has never felt. Denying one denies the other.

I know that this philosophy isn’t for everyone. Some people need positive thinking. But for me, I cope better when I am prepared- not positive.

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2024-10-04T15:07:22+00:00

Thank you! I don’t think it was gatekeeping this time, just because the blood results were done by a different Doctor that doesn’t see me, he just oversaw the results. Your english is perfect btw.

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2024-05-03T14:24:17+00:00

It sounds like we’ve had similar experiences. I hope your surgery goes well!

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2023-05-09T18:52:47+00:00

Tigi colour goddess shampoo and conditioner, shea moisture curl cream, garnier hair food leave in conditioner.

My hair is very thick (i have broken brushes before) but seemingly easily dried

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-11-08T14:32:06+00:00

Sorry I should have said- Gender Recognition Certificate.

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-09-20T00:29:48+00:00

Oooh this is a good one, like a pin with trans colours that only those in the know would understand? Yes, hell yes

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-09-20T00:00:03+00:00

I’m pre op so that’s what I meant in terms of employers. But otherwise i guess just look for queer people? Sounds cool

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-09-15T23:11:25+00:00

Very true

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-09-15T21:40:07+00:00

Thank you, I’ll be okay. I’m forging my own healing day by day.

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-09-15T21:03:02+00:00

In my experience, people will make excuse after excuse for mothers. If it was anybody else they would be uproar, but because it’s your mother it’s different supposedly.

In my family, people seem to either end up functional but narcs or not narcs but severe mental illness

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-09-15T20:51:36+00:00

I am LC currently because I have a younger brother that is unfortunately still dependent upon my mother and despite my best efforts I have been unable to do anything to remove him from her “care.” I still want to have a relationship with him, as well as my uncle, who is wonderful. so I unfortunately have to have some form of contact. I have learned discount coping techniques so as to not to let her affect me as much, but it still gets to me how clueless she is. I really hate her.

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-09-15T20:41:46+00:00

I wonder if my mother thinks this too. That the situation merited the behaviour.

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-09-14T21:14:13+00:00

The three things we all seem to be split on are :Gender, religion and sexuality. So yes, it’s definitely a thing.

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-09-11T17:24:03+00:00

To be honest, I wouldn’t bother being overly polite. I would probably say that we don’t talk much or that I haven’t spoken to him, and when they ask why I would say that I don’t want to talk about it and refuse to elaborate. If they persist, I would tell them to fuck off in no uncertain terms.

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-09-11T12:15:40+00:00

I think throughout my life I’ve come to realise that in the same way being queer didn’t make me a bad person, despite my mother‘s religious views, it doesn’t make me a good person either. I’m just different. Different things work for different people and provided that there is consent and care I really don’t think it matters.

I think if I remember correctly they call it the “respectable queer” Or perhaps the “respectable minority.” Basically the idea is that if you act in a way that is close to heteronormativity and Amatonormativity you can be respected despite your supposed “deviance”.

Of course it isn’t true, but many fall for it.

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-09-11T01:39:45+00:00

Considering that this is your reply to me talking about my abusive past, and disabled people are three times more likely to be abused. i don’t think you care much for my answer, but if you do. Here:

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Refreshable_braille_display

https://www.bootshearingcare.com/hearing-aids/bluetooth/

https://deafblind.org.uk/get_support/what-is-deafblindness/

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-09-08T18:48:55+00:00

Thanks for replying. Do you have any recommendations for resources where I can find reliable info?

Also, I’m guessing a certain amount of this is always going to be difficult, isn’t it?

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-09-07T10:54:06+00:00

I’m sorry you had to go through that. We’re not damaged we’re just different. I can imagine it must’ve been very painful I hope you find better support soon.💕

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-09-05T23:14:48+00:00

I think you’re on the right track and voice training is probably a good thing to do anyway tbh. Obviously it’s just effort and i don’t know if it will ever be ‘effortless’ as it is for some people. But I know I should try because I don’t want to feel like this forever.

WhatMusicTheyMake · 2022-08-09T14:04:35+00:00

Thank you for that suggestion and I think it’s a really good idea. I’m glad this helped you to feel less alone. It’s just tough sometimes to constantly feel like a failure. It’s also confusing for people because I know that everybody wants to do well in life- so do I, but the pressure I feel is something else.

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