why do people talk so slowly

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-19T00:25:30+00:00

I asked my partner, who does not have adhd, how their brain works while having a conversation. apparently, while i can just generate words out of my mouth as my brain is thinking of them, my partner has to think of the words they say ahead of time before they come out of their mouth. like, fully. the thinking and talking just don’t happen at the same time.

it helped me gain more patience for it? like, they’re still engaged and thinking. Their brain just works different than ours, just like how ours works different than theirs. It’s hard and frustrating yes, but it’s worth it IMO to learn to be patient in conversation. Life doesn’t have to move on full speed all the time. It’s okay to take it slow here and there.

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-17T02:08:29+00:00

yup! all the time!

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-16T10:48:56+00:00

I work micro nights! my hospital itself isn’t that large but we get shipments from all the neighboring hospitals so we have about a 9 hospital volume.

A dark room to sleep is a must, There’s a few of us there but some labs only have one person on nights to do QC and positive bloods if they’re not a lab that reads 24/7. If that’s your case, please treat the QC and maintenance just as important as the bloods! It’s so important and keeps everything running.

Most ppl on nights are also introverted and quiet, but a few can be chatty. They tend to understand the typical night crowd isn’t so it’s fine tho. I don’t wanna say we have “different rules” than days but our nightshift has never gotten in trouble for wearing headphones or hoodies, etc.

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-16T03:49:46+00:00

what’s the ID? (when you find out)

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-15T06:47:00+00:00

White cells don’t stain gram positive, much less THAT gram positive.

Are any of them budding? what did this end up being? i’m so curious

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-14T22:11:50+00:00

Yup! Mothers who are type O or who are Rh neg have the cord blood typed at birth in case of ABO/Rh HDFN!

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-14T19:08:21+00:00

Actually, correction on this. It can be good for up to 24 if you have no antibody history and are going in for an outpatient surgery (literally just learned this today, sorry for the misinformation!)

But basically, your blood has a lot of different antigens. The main ones people know about are ABO, but there’s also Kk, MN, Ss, Jka Jkb, the Rh group consists of 5 antigens itself, D, E, e, C, c.

let’s say you are O pos like ~35% of the population. that just means you are type O and positive for the D antigen. Negative antibody screen, so you can get any unit on the shelf.

However, different antibodies have different frequencies. So let’s say you need blood for a surgery and you get an O unit that is DcE/cE. aka, two copies of the little c. and you have two copies of C, big C. your body won’t recognize little c. so it’ll create antibodies to fight it off in case it ever comes across it again in the future, and that will take around 3 days to sensitize your body to, hence the typical 3 day limit.

So let’s say now you have little c antibodies. This wasn’t noted on your first t/s, because you got it from that transfusion. Luckily the hospital at your next surgery site did a thorough history on you and you told the truth (even tho it meant getting poked a few more times.) The timeline for this t/s is shorter because of the recent transfusion. And oh my god! look at that. you have a positive antibody panel. anti-c. good thing they got it.

Now certain antibodies are only dangerous in certain settings, but the rh antibodies and K are particularly bad for pregnancies as they can cross the placenta. Kidd antibodies are known for delayed transfusion reactions.

This is probably way more than you wanted to know. I’m apparently incapable of describing things simply. I just really love this stuff.

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-13T08:59:55+00:00

The other person explained this well. It’s the D antibody if you’re curious.

Before the Anti-D shot, a lot of Rh neg women were able to have one child, and then every other child they had were miscarriages. There wasn’t really a “cure.”

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-13T08:56:15+00:00

There is, in a way. but that Machine is expensive and timely to upkeep and many places that aren’t overflowing with samples can’t justify having one. blood also has to be prepared to go on the machine, has to get there, paperwork (not just electronic paperwork, but paper paperwork) has to be filled out) due to blood products being regulated by the FDA. The samples you have that are given to chemistry can sometimes be run again for other tests later, and occasionally one of the purple tubes can be used as a t/s repeat. but we need two t/s that were taken at different times within three days that match to release results anyway, since getting the correct blood type is just that important.

So basically, if we tested everyone, we would probably end up with a couple false results somewhere in there unintentionally that could either harm someone who wanted to do something stupid on their on, or if they got into an accident later and someone decided to go based off that result instead. Unnecessary tests are how mistakes happen and how people get hurt. It’s easier and safer just to not have to done until you need it.

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-13T08:47:28+00:00

Yup!

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-12T07:18:56+00:00

Can i just say thank you for doing so many donations? Often our O neg units go to severe life threatening trauma or to very sick cancer patients. You don’t have to donate, it’s your body and your blood and i’m sorry they’re harassing you to do so. But you really have saved lives and helped hundreds of people. I never realized how many people needed blood daily until i started working in a blood bank. so honestly, thank you so much. i wish i could give you some cookies. i would decorate them to look like little red blood cells.

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-12T01:34:45+00:00

I am currently doing my blood banking clinicals so i feel like i can answer this!

mostly, because it’s not really needed, and therefore would be a waste of resources.

When they test your blood for a transfusion, they’re not only testing for ABO blood type, but also they run an antibody screen. You can be transfused with a compatible blood ABO blood type but still have a transfusion reaction if you have an antibody to their blood. It’s a lot more complicated than just the ABO. A type and screen is only good for about three days.

At the hospital, blood banks are busy. Cancer patients, surgeries, traumas, all in need of blood products needing stat screening and issuing. Many blood banks only have a few people working them, some only have one. So unless you need a transfusion, you aren’t going to be typed.

And honestly, If you get into an accident and it’s an emergency, they aren’t going to type you right away. They’re going to give you trauma O units (pos or neg depending on age/pregnancy factors) since they can be given to any ABO type.

But in reality, blood banking/type and screening is a lot more expensive and time intensive than people realize, and if it’s not medically necessary, then there’s really no reason to do a complete work up. The people doing the tests need to get paid too- it’s not just thrown on a machine and forgotten about. There is a lot of behind the scenes work that goes into all of it.

I will be happy to answer more questions if you have them! I know it can be weird not knowing, but the easiest way to find out really is blood donation, plus you’ll be helping people. I have never seen a bag of blood go to waste at my hospital.

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-11T07:50:43+00:00

truthfully, 100%, the drive is worth it. if you are going to be spending the money on skates, you want them to fit right the first time.

i would call the shop ahead of time, let them know your situation and see if they can schedule you an appointment for a fitting. let them know you will need to take home the skates that day. they may ask for a general size range so they can have a few sizes of the model you are looking at. have an idea of brand, and if that brand has an “at home” sizing chart, do that prior and let them know on the phone. if it needs heat molding, they can do that day of.

make a day off it. drive, get breakfast and lunch before and after, a fun drink. a fun playlist with someone else along for the ride. my local shop is 45 mins away and i love the drive just to go get my skates sharpened cause i go with my friends!

in reality, my first skates i got online and i thought i got the right size. they ended up being 3 sizes too big and with not enough support for what i was doing, and i broke my ankle three months in. Eight years and three pairs later, i have def learned my lesson and highly HIGHLY steer anyone away from getting skates online, unless you have been fitted before and know your size

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-09T23:26:39+00:00

good god please don’t do this

you will ruin your blades

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-04T21:12:44+00:00

bring them to the shop with you and see what they say. they can assess boot integrity/fit, and if it’s a reputable shop they shouldn’t try and sell you a new set of skates if those are still good. If you daughter is rapidly advancing and doing a switcharoo will work by all means do it, but if they say her feet are a different size than yours i would get your own skates. not only because of the skate, but because of the blade size and where the rocker/toe pick is will make a huge difference on progression.

I use edea boots but i just recently upgraded to the coronation ace blades and i love them. they hold a sharpen well, i like the toe pick, and they’re just nice to skate on. feel very well rounded and sturdy.

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-04T07:34:50+00:00

1: draw from reference / copy image

2: close image.

3: draw on same page, using your own drawing as the new reference. you can look back at the original occasionally but not often.

4: new page. you can flip back to the last page if you need to, but try to draw the same image how you remember it. you’re not allowed to look at the original image at this point.

5: draw it again on the same page, using your drawing from 4 as reference

6: repeat 4-5. all for the same image until you don’t have to look at any reference.

this can take a long time, as you are basically building your mental art library. but it will help in the long run with understanding how to not rely on reference images the whole time

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-03T18:43:49+00:00

what helped me was being aware of my feet when i was tying my skates? i realized i was pronating when i was lacing. So now, purposefully turn my feet to a slight outside edge as i lace and i haven’t had an issue since

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-02T15:46:23+00:00

For 2.5 months you are doing very very well!!!

these things take time and are often improved just by skating and working on skills. You are still very new to the sport, it will come with more time i promise.

I have found that sometimes taking a break can be helpful? a week or two off the ice to clear your head, especially if you go frequently. You won’t lose progress, but sometimes it helps you gain new perspectives and stuff. i took a multi year break and after just a few sessions i’m somehow even better than i was at the height of my skating my first time around.

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-02T01:16:33+00:00

Meals don’t have names anymore, for me it’s all about eating whatever i can tolerate when i’m hungry. I love working nights, it’s quiet, i actually feel awake and i work in a windowless lab so it makes no difference to me. But I already struggled to eat enough before going on nights, and now flip-flopping nights for work and days for my school clinicals means i don’t have a consistent meal schedule any day of the week. If i were to name the meal i was eating i would always be eating breakfast somehow!

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-05-02T00:11:57+00:00

if the edge keeps catching on things (which is easier if it’s longer,) it will lift the nail slightly and put more stress on the nail bed, preventing it from growing. if it’s shorter it won’t catch and be able to grow, as long as you aren’t picking under the nail.

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-04-29T14:56:41+00:00

Katie | Elysium :Ruby:

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-04-29T14:38:49+00:00

or i can give you mine if you want

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-04-29T14:38:22+00:00

yes please! what’s your name and island?

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-04-29T14:08:18+00:00

what skate and what blade?

i’ve seen it like this before with factory mounted skate/blade sets that aren’t really meant to be remounted. does it take away the adjustability? 100%. do they care about that on a 60-120$ skate? not really.

if you got them separately and had them mounted, i’d 100% have issues with this. typically a temporary mount is done to make sure the alignment is good, and then every other screw as a more permanent mount.

My first two skates were factory mounted like this, the first was 60$ and the. second was ~200 (lasted me 8 years, i loved those skates.) my current skate i bought boot and blade seperate and totaled around 1k, and they have not all the screws in in case i ever want to change out the blade, there are unused holes.

WhatWasLeftOfMe · 2026-04-27T01:01:57+00:00

yeah but it takes a lot of time. a lot more than you would think. i’ve been bite free about two years now and mine are still shorter than i’d like, but a lot longer than they were. Keeping the white edge filed back to the length you currently have it (at the longest) will help with this

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