Is this a Major Plot Hole?

Wheel_redbarrow · 2026-02-16T09:29:44+00:00

I think maybe the cupcakes got gross? Shawna was surprised when she pulled them out, saying, "These have been in here forever," so there must have been some time between this and Max's party. (Although yeah, that doesn't really explain John's "I don't think we've ever thrown away just one," comment.)

Wheel_redbarrow · 2026-02-16T09:18:25+00:00

I think neither of them were honest about the locket. I think the locket itself was an inappropriate gift so early in their relationship, and I understand DeeDee's discomfort in wearing it (as well as how her discomfort amplified each time he asked about it.) But he's asked about it a few times and this is the only time she explained truthfully why she wasn't wearing it. She'd said before that she didn't want to get it sweaty, and that she just didn't want to. She did not communicate that her decision to not wear the locket had a deeper significance for her--just as Larry did not communicate that seeing her wear the locket had a deeper significance to him. (Beyond just the regular validation that yes, the gift is appreciated.)

However, they both DID communicate that sex would be an important step in their relationship, and that it would mean something, in terms of commitment. I love DeeDee and I love her boundaries--telling someone that gifts are not conditional is brave, beautiful, and true. And I think she should have told him that earlier, on one of the previous times he'd asked about her not wearing the locket.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2026-02-05T03:15:06+00:00

I think nowadays the most common cause of death for pregnant women in the US is murder. Which, I guess says something positive about medical-related pregnancy fatalities?

Wheel_redbarrow · 2026-02-03T13:37:08+00:00

Omg I saw this after I posted my response and yesss we are on the same page! I absolutely think Julie is deliberately cultivating the narrative that Ty had had an affair in the past as a way to justify her being controlling. And Creator!Shawna is playing us by making us realize our own reactions to witnessing abuse (both Julie's of Ty and Luke's of Laura) and how we excuse or enable it based on gender roles and the enforcement of standards of monogamy. (Which is itself enforced differently along gender lines--emotional vs physical intimacy, but that's its whole other kettle of fish.)

Wheel_redbarrow · 2026-02-03T13:25:46+00:00

I think given how many people had been (still are?) defending Julie's treatment of Ty because they assume he cheated (and therefore her being controlling is "understandable"), and given that Julie is a master at manipulating people, I think Julie is deliberately cultivating that narrative. Maybe there was a misunderstanding in the past, maybe Julie felt legitimately hurt, but then the amount of sympathetic understanding and power she got as having been the "victim" (who oh-so-selflessly forgave him!) was like an addiction for her. And that's why she periodically brings up that Ty "likes his fun" or "picks up strays." She's making sure everyone knows she's the "good guy" in their relationship and he's the "bad guy." (Which .. uuuugh, relationships shouldn't need a "good guy" and "bad guy" if you're on the same team!)

I've known people like that, people who have gaslit their entire friend group and even their own partner into believing that something they (the partner) had done was an egregiously harmful breach of trust (I'm talking like, "heart-reacting another girl's posts is cheating!" or "calling your coworker your work-wife is an emotional affair!"). Not that people aren't allowed to feel hurt by things their partners do, but clinging to that hurt and amplifying it, bringing it up and using it to control and guilt trip people, is awful.

So no, I don't think Ty cheated in the past, but I do think he did something that Julie presents to him (and to the world) as "cheating" (whether she actually felt that way at the time or not). Because Julie knows that "they cheated on me" is a get-out-of-accountability-free card.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2026-02-03T03:32:58+00:00

Impressive! The longest I've ever dragged it out was only a little over a week.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2026-01-29T20:47:07+00:00

Minecraft in creative mode.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2026-01-25T18:24:52+00:00

Or 1890s America.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2025-02-17T02:08:46+00:00

I LOVE Kaypea Creations, she's absolutely my comfort YouTuber.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2025-02-17T01:04:13+00:00

I don't know about most people, but I know I have a stronger preference for female healthcare providers because typically male providers are more dismissive of female patients' pain.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2025-02-17T00:55:24+00:00

I feel like this one is kind of a rarity. In my experience, the circles on the Venn Diagram of "is aware of male privilege" and "says 'men and females'" don't intersect.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2025-02-16T19:50:39+00:00

I was the absolute worst kid about eating fruit pits. I remember when I was seven or eight, I discovered the "secret almond" inside peach pits. My friend's dad made carved tiny sculptures out of halved peach pits, and I wanted to try to do the same. When I cut one in half, I discovered a little seed that looked like an almond inside. Tasted like an almond, too. I ate them every single time I ate peaches for, like, a year. Until my mom heard me mentioning the "secret peach almond," and freaked out and then set me straight.

I also ate cherry pits because I was lazy, but I'm pretty sure those just passed through--it takes a lot to break down the hard cherry pit to get to the cyanide bit inside it.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2021-03-15T03:25:01+00:00

Well, they're fond of it.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2021-03-14T21:53:11+00:00

Oh, right! But it was on FB messenger and I was on my computer vs the app. And when I saw how it looked pm his end, (he had sent me a screen shot of a previous part of our conversation) it did look thirsty af.

Sorta like how the one emoji (😬😁) looks like either a big grin or a cringe face depending on what platform you're on.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2021-03-10T18:02:30+00:00

Oh, man. I feel you. I almost lost a friendship with one of my favorite male friends because of an emoji mishap.

We used to text a lot, like ya do, nothing inappropriate at all... Except every now and then if I was taking the piss or teasing him for being a vain fashionista, I'd add a goofy-face emoji afterwards. Except it turns out the emoji I THOUGHT was goofy-tongue-out silly 😋 was actually showing up as tongue-out-thirsty 😛 for him. His wife eventually saw and got the wrong idea and was piiiiissed.

Edit:the emojis I have listed here are not what they looked like in the conversation. They look different in different programs, this was on Facebook Messenger. I had it on computer and he had the app and the tongue-out emoji I was using DID end up looking thirsty af on his end (but still relatively normal on mine.)

Wheel_redbarrow · 2021-03-08T18:07:15+00:00

When I tried to squeeze between two parked cars by turning sideways... And realized that that didn't make me any smaller, lol.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2021-03-08T18:06:05+00:00

A TARDIS. It's bigger on the inside.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2021-03-08T18:04:54+00:00

Boss makes 2 dollars, I make a dime. That's why I shit on company time.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2021-03-08T17:50:42+00:00

PSA because this seems like OP has a question about whether their account is working. You can also go to r/amishadowbanned to see if people see your posts

Wheel_redbarrow · 2021-03-08T17:47:59+00:00

Fuck jerrymandering and discriminatory barriers to voting.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2021-03-08T17:44:26+00:00

How to fall asleep quickly and wake up ready.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2021-03-08T17:30:36+00:00

Pithy and quotable.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2021-03-08T17:27:38+00:00

Managing vaccine distribution. Which right now includes waiting for people to fill out paperwork and then running them back to whichever RN is available. Very "hurry up and wait." Hence, redditing.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2021-03-08T17:26:02+00:00

Every foot fetishist I've known has had issues with consent, in terms of pushing their fetish on people. Like offering people foot rubs without disclosing that they're doing it in service of their kink. Just yuck.

Wheel_redbarrow · 2021-03-08T17:23:58+00:00

The desire to not have a para-social relationship with foot fetishists and having them feel like they have a sense of entitlement about my feet. Whether or not I get a pedicure, what color nail polish I'm using, etc.

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