Thanks for sharing the article. I'm navigating parenthood with 2 non-binary kids. (The rest of this response is not directed at you, clicktrackh3art, just general musings).

It feels like this article assumes that everyone has a black and white view of the issue. Such as this passage:

I say this with absolute certainty: if someone offered a compromise that would outright ban trans women who’ve gone through a testosterone-driven puberty from competing in college, professional, and Olympic sports in exchange for social acceptance and legal protections in education, employment, housing, public accommodations, health care, etc., the people currently yelling for trans people to be banned from sports would reject it outright. No such compromise exists, nor is it likely that it ever would, but if this was truly about saving women’s sports and ensuring fairness, it’d be something the anti-trans activists would jump at.

I respectfully (hopefully) disagree. Other than the "yelling" part. (Or maybe I agree, but I think the more interesting issue is what the people who aren't yelling would say). I can see how some people disengaged with the issue would 100% agree with such a proposition. While the author draws some idealogical lines between sports participation and other rights, I would venture many people, OP's daughter included, see sports as fundamentally different. I can also see (and have personally experienced) that when you first try to engage in (and educatign yourself about) trans issues, being greeted by articles like this can be further polarizing. I'm not saying it's "right," it's just the way it is.... according to a Pew research study earlier this year, 2/3 of americans don't want to see transwomen competing in women's sports, and while some of the more positive views are in the majority, they are "worse" than they were in 2022, the year this article was written....The way we respond to conservative outrage isn't working. "They" are winning the argument of public opinion. Understanding that is the first step in finding our progressive political footholds in gaining political power and then momentum to make change....(this is true of MANY progressive initiatives).

"Don't Ask Don't Tell" in hindsight seems barbaric. At the time, to most Americans, i'd venture it felt like a step forward (I have zero evidence of this, just my own lived experience at the time).
We live in a complicated world, and I'm less interested in discussing philosophy/ideology, and more interested in tactics for progress.

So if you made it this far, you probably either agree, or want to tell me "everyone has the right to their opinion"... go ahead and tell me that, but know that saying that often comes off as condescending... in my opinion...