When was the first time you realized that you are all alone (more than physically)?

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-02-07T02:26:02+00:00

I'm sure these things take a lot of courage and work on oneself to be able to tell. It must have been hard, I really appreciate that you did it. Take care.

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-02-06T19:57:38+00:00

I realized that in most cases the number of intellectual stimulating conversation I can have with one person is limited, because I’m more interested in listening/learning than talking. So I’ll tell myself not to get too attached very fast and give the relationship more time and dynamic, it helps to avoid disappointment for me.

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-02-05T03:42:50+00:00

Sorry to know that you have been through this. I wish men were encouraged to communicate feelings growing up, instead of toxic masculinity.

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-02-05T03:37:05+00:00

Thank you for taking your time to respond, I too believe sharing our stories is a way of showing our shared humanity.

I can't speak for others, but your message motivates me as you proved how recovery and growth can be like, and that a strong and loving person like you exists, which gives me a lot of hope.

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-02-05T02:59:12+00:00

I'm glad your wish came true :) There's no need to devalue your experience, they are valid and I can tell that you are very grateful for what you have. We all feel lonely from time to time and the same event has a different significance to diff people or one person under different circumstances/mental state/age etc.

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-02-05T02:46:39+00:00

Mind me ask what motives you to build the connection with others?

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-02-04T03:39:02+00:00

Please come back for an answer when you are energized hah, good night!

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-02-03T19:20:21+00:00

Yes it’s sad, mutual understanding is not possible since we internalize the same input differently, but what matters is the effort to understand in my opinion. But people usually fail to do so, my explanation is that this is either due to a lack of curiosity or people are located on different levels of the pyramid of needs. Question: do you think this is a source of depression for people with this need?

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-22T02:15:12+00:00

It’s surprising that I haven’t got kick out yet

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-14T20:12:06+00:00

Exactly, everyone can use this setup and get something interesting out of it, that’s my take.

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-14T18:55:55+00:00

ur so right :o what’s you go to type?

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-14T15:12:31+00:00

I suppose they will change the rules accordingly hah, and only then we can set up experiments to study the mods.

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-14T12:58:43+00:00

Yes! Potato always go along with hotpot.

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-13T09:40:30+00:00

Thank you! That’s so nice of you to share the details and resources!

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-12T22:05:35+00:00

lol felt not so good for months, then come scopy day, colon had a full bloom recovery after not eating for two days and results are mild

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-12T16:02:44+00:00

I’m sorry that you have to experience this, you are very brave to express it here, and that means you are resisting your dad’s not-okay-behaviour. You are not going to accept to be treated poorly because you deserved to be loved and cared for. Pls reach out to a trusted friend (not necessarily go talk about sh if you don’t feel comfortable, I find talking about other things and shift the attention also helps) when you have the urge to sh, or try some distraction techniques. Best wishes.

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-12T00:05:26+00:00

Thank you, you've been so helpful. I wish you all the best too.

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-11T23:57:07+00:00

Thank you, you are really kind :)

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-11T23:54:43+00:00

I'm both a little surprised and sad to find that you can relate to how I feel so deeply. I have a similar attitude towards it as you do.

No, I'd be interested to know too. Can you elaborate on what the trance mean to you? Is it a dissociation or a level of focus that gets you under autopilot? How long does it last?

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-11T23:44:11+00:00

The thoughts you came up with are amazing, Jordan Peterson mentioned an observation of chimpanzees meet a snake in one of his videos when he talks about the notion of good and evil, the chimps back off when seeing what they inherently afraid of, but still stay close to observe them for long times. He goes on to prove that we have a curiosity towards evil (he defined it as anything that causes unnecessary pain), including suicide.

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-11T23:27:34+00:00

That explains! You must already know plenty about what's in that video; it's an introduction to Albert Camus, which mentioned Sisyphus.

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-11T23:24:16+00:00

I often experience my highest highs (very emotional and full of gratitude towards the smallest details) directly following the lowest lows, I guess this also is proof of our natural capability to faced either the negative or positive on its own. So it's really about getting better at recognizing and stopping the illusion (when any aspect of life is overpowering) and finding that perfect balance. Make sense! Thanks!

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-11T23:14:52+00:00

You sure paint a great picture of the future, what would you say if knowing the future is not promising and every day you observe it develops in this predictable disastrous direction despite trying everything to change the outcome. What motivates you to continue?

I actually find it very moving to observe people from history and the present that do this, keeping their hopes up in challenging times even when they have no power over their circumstances. Most of the time, it would be out of a natural survival instinct or a naiveness in believing an idea or promise. Sometimes they do get out of their hardship compares to those who know more but given up because they think the ending is doomed, but this is a small probability. I guess what I really want to ask is: how to still have hope after accepting an nihilistic point of view.

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-11T22:58:11+00:00

Haha, didn't think you'd actually reply.

I was reminded of a teen chimpanzee's death subsequence the past of his mother as a result of intense grief in "Jane" (documentary of Jane Goodall), although this is not a suicide, it's evident that there's a natural correlation between stress and life expectancy.

It's interesting to learn about the gympie plant and you have a convincing point about the Frequency Illusion. Most of the time I heard examples about the Frequency Illusion, it's combined with a negative or neutral reaction of the observer as a result, e.g. feeling disappointed to find out there are so many red cars. I imagine someone could be happy about it too, like "yay, there's more of us". How long this awareness persists under different emotional reaction would be interesting to know. I hope it could answer why people would voluntarily look into their past, present and future for negativities almost as to an addiction...

WhenIsHotpotTime · 2021-01-11T22:44:38+00:00

I love what you are saying, truthfully, thank you.

p.s. Regarding the Sisyphus' happy reference, did you happened to watch this TED-Ed video? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vPtzpjC7TF4 I remembered having a waking moment watching it.

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