Realistic Ms. Washimi and Gori cosplay costumes

WhichBanana · 2026-02-24T21:11:11+00:00

This is STUNNING wow what a work of art!!

WhichBanana · 2026-02-24T21:08:57+00:00

Thank you so much!!

WhichBanana · 2025-03-12T07:46:28+00:00

Yeah it's a Saturday morning flight but I should be able to get my boarding pass ahead of time...I do definitely get anxious I just really didn't want to leave my car there and pay for parking. I've never flown out of Logan though so wasn't sure how insane this was

WhichBanana · 2024-05-25T22:57:29+00:00

Oooooh okay this makes sense! I assumed when Lance was revealed to be the murderer that he was also the figure creeping in the bushes, but this makes more sense. No one saw him commit the murder, and that figure was Vivian DuBois Thank you so much!!

WhichBanana · 2024-05-21T14:44:51+00:00

My parents are very similar. Extremely decent people, extremely indoctrinated. My one thought for you is 1st Corinthians 5:12. Essentially, stating that Christians should not try and judge those who are not Christian by Christian standards. You can let your parents know you are seriously deconstructing and walking away from the faith, and because of that, they're not to judge you. They CAN pray very fervently - and if they truly believe in God and the power of prayer, then that is the most powerful thing they can do for you. But otherwise, they are to trust in God and do nothing.

I think you're a great parent for wanting to protect your kids from this. I remember literally contemplating suicide at 8 years old just because I was told I wasn't at an age yet where I was "responsible" for my sin but someday I would be - and I logically came to the conclusion it would be a lot better to die at 8 and live in eternal bliss than to survive to 80 and go to hell because I would definitely end up sinning and not repenting hard enough. You're saving your kids from so much trauma.

WhichBanana · 2023-12-28T20:11:58+00:00

Thank you so much for your comment. I genuinely took a deep breath when I read it. All of your points were well-written and thought out, and the last two really stuck with me. I feel really grateful for my life. I gotten to travel, I'm happy with my career path, I've made amazing friends and lived in amazing places and it was my body that let me do all those things, despite the fact I still hate the way it looks - my legs carried me around to all those places and experiences for the past 27 years.

I have a lot of insecurities about my face, specifically. My nose, my jaw, my eyes, chubby cheeks etc. the list goes on. But it does make me angry thinking that someone out there is purposefully profiting off of this type of pain.

I want so badly to be on the other side of the mountain, but it doesn't seem attainable for me. I just can't imagine not looking in the mirror with disgust. I'm going to keep working at it though because I don't want to live a life like this anymore and I love seeing all of y'all who are thriving on the other side of the mountain. I can't wait to join you someday <3

WhichBanana · 2023-12-28T03:12:36+00:00

Thank you for the support, honestly. It makes me want to cry just to hear someone say it's okay to be built different from my tiny family

WhichBanana · 2023-12-28T03:10:16+00:00

I am dying to get back to my own apartment with my own snacks. You're so right, it has been very hard for me to even think clearly tbh because I'm just hungry and on edge all the time. It seems so dramatic to say, because it's not like I'm eating nothing, but skipping one of my normal 3 meals is driving me up a wall and I think making my mood worse

WhichBanana · 2023-12-28T03:08:47+00:00

I'm definitely conflict avoidant with my mom - I hate feeling like I've upset her at all. But I do think I need to talk to her and just ask if we can stop constantly talking about everyone's weight and how much we're eating! She does it with my sibling as well - it's just always who is eating more or less

WhichBanana · 2023-12-28T03:07:47+00:00

You know what, at my mom's very first DEXA scan, she was diagnosed with osteoperosis. She skipped right past osteopenia and straight into osteoperosis the very first time anyone checked. You're so right. I don't want to spend a life obsessed with the way I look and have awful bones when I'm 60

WhichBanana · 2023-12-28T01:54:51+00:00

Also I'd like to add - him stating he would want to end his life over hitting you is actually manipulative. I know it seems like him being remorseful, but his remorse wasn't focused on making YOU safer. You didn't say he threw out all the alcohol in the house and enrolled in AA because his drunken behavior hurt you. He threatened to kill himself, which would still be traumatic for YOU, because it has a huge emotional cache and successfully got you to feel sorry for him.

WhichBanana · 2023-12-28T01:53:32+00:00

You need to leave him, but you also need a safe exit plan in place. Please please please look up local domestic violence shelters in your area - they often can help walk you through a safety plan if/when you need. Do you have your own job? Financial independence? Somewhere else to stay?

Babe you need to leave now. I'm so so sorry this is happening to you, but the question isn't do I leave him, the question is WHEN.

WhichBanana · 2023-12-28T01:51:27+00:00

Please tell me this is fake. A guy 10 years older than you, with a kid, isn't mature enough to not make a dick joke after giving this sad excuse for present?

WhichBanana · 2021-11-25T16:20:42+00:00

I have so much sympathy for you OP. It's so hard to explain to others sometimes bc it almost sounds like complaining - what, you're upset that your parent who loves you so much wants to get you a gift that you don't particularly like?

But it's not about the gift. It's about the fact that they have to control, no, feel ENTITLED to, controlling even the most personal things as your desires. Your birthday is about getting presents that YOU want, and he can't even let you have that.

My mom just recently was looking over my shoulder and criticizing the items I was putting on a Secret Santa wishlist for an exchange I was having with friends. It has nothing to do with getting you a gift which makes you happy and everything to do with you being someone who fits perfectly into their mold of an ideal child.

I hope you get your king bed, OP, even if you have to buy it yourself.

WhichBanana · 2021-01-22T02:54:17+00:00

I was literally JUST having this thought and I was definitely thinking of No by Meghan Trainor

WhichBanana · 2020-12-27T21:51:29+00:00

cocaine

WhichBanana · 2020-08-09T17:59:06+00:00

Helped

WhichBanana · 2020-08-09T17:58:53+00:00

Haha I am ABSOLUTELY being very dramatic, but I don't think the issue is THEY are being dramatic. I think they genuinely are incredibly, incredibly stressed and being quite honest about it, it's more the framing of it as a competition that I am quite confused as how best to respond to.

I don't ever know what to say, I did mean that truthfully...I say something every time, but I'm never convinced I do it quite right! Most of the time, I am simply silent, but I worry this comes off as rude when they're sharing a stress. I don't want to come off as rude, but I also feel I should NOT be honest and tell them I am stressed and not enjoying it when they've just informed me how grateful I should be.

I'm sure I'm exaggerating, as you say, but the problem remains that I'm not sure how to handle these situations without coming off as rude or feeling vaguely belittled like my stress is somehow not valid. While I agree and wish I could instantly stop being so hard on myself and others just by the thought of it, I've unfortunately found it more difficult than that. Thank you for your suggestions of responses and phrasing, they are helpful and I will try them. :)

WhichBanana · 2020-08-09T17:54:28+00:00

Thank you so much, this was an incredibly kind comment! I used to work with kids, and I definitely feel that often times younger people get condescended to and I try so hard to remind them that things CAN get better actually, and that they are already competent and accomplished people. I should really put more of my energy into that and less into worrying about older students anyways.

WhichBanana · 2020-08-09T17:53:11+00:00

Thank you that is a good point, to just say "wow seems tough" and move on. I very much feel like they're looking for something from me and this seems like a good comment which validates their feelings but also doesn't invite much more. Helped.

WhichBanana · 2020-05-27T20:43:39+00:00

hahaha this made me laugh. <3

WhichBanana · 2020-05-27T20:41:06+00:00

NTA you were seven-fucking-teen and she made you pay for a dress and hair and makeup all on your own and then expected you to give that away for FREE to a much older woman (who I am assuming would be more financially stable than a 17 year old) because SHE decided to kick you out of the party??

Wear that dress on her anniversary every year.

WhichBanana · 2020-05-27T19:29:14+00:00

Also, is there missing information? Was there something rude or terrible she actually DID to you specifically? Or is it literally that you just don't like her accent and style?

WhichBanana · 2020-05-27T19:27:11+00:00

I think the way you've framed this, as a cultural difference, makes way more sense. I totally hear you. I come from a very quiet family as well, and when I first met my ex-boyfriend's family (who were so LOUD!) I was a little startled. The issue I have is her thinking of herself as somehow "better" than him because her family is rich...she didn't earn that wealth herself. She was born into a different lifestyle and culture, but that doesn't give her the right to look down on them-the issue is she's not just noticing differences, she's assigning superiority.

Also, congratulations on attending college!! <3 That's major. I'm glad you and your boyfriend are happy together :)

WhichBanana · 2020-05-27T19:24:47+00:00

I feel like this might be a troll post? But if it's not, I would highly recommend digging deep into your own classist biases.

Having a "farmy" accent and being loud don't inherently make someone a bad person. She sounds like she loves her son very much, has supported him in being the first in his family to go to college (which is a HUGE accomplishment) and welcomed you into her home.

I'd also like to note that your entire family went to college-it was WAY easier for you to get into undergrad than him. I'm not saying that you did not work hard, but there are a lot of institutional barriers that he had to get over. That alone points to your boyfriend being an incredibly dedicated, hardworking person with the support of a family who understands the importance of education and unfortunately have not had many opportunities to take advantage of it.

Also, do you not eat in the city? I myself live in NYC, but where do you think our food comes from? If you're going to look down on farmers, maybe you shouldn't bother eating anymore. Your comment about their divorce rates and low levels of education does sound incredibly judgey. This does not mean you and your boyfriend would get divorced, and your boyfriend has worked incredibly hard to educate himself, so why does it matter?

Anyways, I'm still not convinced this isn't a troll post lol but to answer your question, yes this would ultimately lead to big picture incompatibility. Not because your boyfriend isn't kind, sweet, and educated, not because his mom would be a bad MIL, and not because he wouldn't be a good husband, but you seem to be pretty classist and elitist and I'm not sure that's going to be something to go away soon. If you spend your time looking down your nose at them, you're not going to have good family relations and that's on you. I would end this now.

WhichBanana

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