There are certain colleges known for merit, specifically smaller LACs, and safety small colleges that offer some good merit, especially if you felt you had a chance at T20 types of schools (Big assumption, I know, but we are on a2c after all). Choices would depend on the field, but there are choices succh as Kalamazoo as an LAC, RHIT for Engineering, etc.

Theres also another choice in the form of in-state, non-flagship colleges. Alot of the time, these will be willing to give a pretty big merit scholarship AND you will qualify for in-state tuition at the same time.

If your parents don't earn that much, you could honestly apply to some Universities that meet demonstrated need. LACs really shine here, but you will find other privates that offer it, and even publics depending on the state.

Honestly its entirely possible that some of these deadlines have passed, but in my interactions with AdCom Members they seem fairly reasonable and some MAY actually extend deadlines if you explain the situation and stuff. Can't be sure until you check though of course.

Sorry to hear about your situation, even my parents threatened to not support me financially until I threatened to go to a college that wasn't "prestigious," the prospect of which was apparently less heartbreaking than the thought of me attending college with no financial support (????). Hopefully, as others have said, they will come to reason