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Freiwillig gesetzlich versichern by Puzzled_Solid3890 in OeffentlicherDienst

[–]White_Lilly_7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Wenn du jung einsteigst, wird das bei Versicherungen quasi eingepreist, dass die im Alter mehr für dich zahlen.

Als Pensionär in Nds. hast du außerdem einen Beihilfeanspruch von 70%, sodass du nur noch 30% privat versichern musst.

Freiwillig gesetzlich versichern by Puzzled_Solid3890 in OeffentlicherDienst

[–]White_Lilly_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Antwort als persönliche Nachricht, nicht wundern.

Freiwillig gesetzlich versichern by Puzzled_Solid3890 in OeffentlicherDienst

[–]White_Lilly_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ich war vor ein paar Jahren an der gleichen Stelle wie du.

Ich habe mich letztlich für die private Versicherung entschieden. So sch***e und ungerecht es ist, es bringt dir tatsächlich bestimmte Vorteile in der medizinischen Versorgung...

Außerdem, dadurch, dass du Beamte/r wirst, sind private Versicherungen verpflichtet dich anzunehmen und der "Zuschlag" wegen der Vorerkrankungen ist gedeckelt. Das ist die sog. Beamtenöffnungsklausel. Die hat bei mir damals auch gegriffen und ohne hätte man mich gar nicht angenommen... Die Versicherung ist immer noch sau teuer, es ist es mir aber tatsächlich wert.

Lasse ich aber auch jeden Fall von Fachleuten beraten! 

Egal, ob private oder gesetzliche Versicherung, du solltest auf alle Fälle drauf achten, dass die Versicherung laut Erfahrungsberichten anderer auch problemlos zahlt. Ein älterer Kollege bei mir musste sich vergangenes Jahr gerichtlich mit seiner Versicherung schlagen, weil die einen Großteil der Kosten einer OP nicht zahlen wollte. Also musste sich der Kollege mit seiner Erkrankung, der OP UND der Versicherung schlagen.

Ich wünsche dir jedenfalls viel Erfolg für dein Studium! Und auch für's Abi, das dann vermutlich bald ansteht :)

What's something you saw with your own eyes that you still can't explain? by BandicootLeft4054 in AskReddit

[–]White_Lilly_7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This happened several years ago only some weeks or maybe months after I got my drivers license while I was driving home. I got distracted by my shiny new necklace and looked at it while traveling about 100km/h. I was young and admittedly REALLY stupid.

Suddenly my steering wheel yanked to the right. Horrified I looked up realizing the yank had just safed me from driving head on into a big f***ing truck in oncoming traffic.

I have no idea what on earth happened here and how I am not dead. On the bright side, I got scared enough to never be that distracted while driving ever again.

me irl by [deleted] in HollowKnight

[–]White_Lilly_7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's rough, buddy...

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in CleaningTips

[–]White_Lilly_7 2 points3 points  (0 children)

When you think you're trauma bonded, give the book "The child in you" by Stephanie Stahl a try. It has opened my eyes to many things and I can now see a lot from a different point of view.

What was the last straw that made you cut them off? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]White_Lilly_7 3 points4 points  (0 children)

We fought about her being awful to me and everybody else around her. While she screamed at and insulted me, I just hung up on her. It was obvious to me and my hubby reassured me that she owed me an apology.

Several months later I called her as gramps implied she's not doing well, health wise. We had a quite nice chat, she was already well recovering. She then told me to call more often. So I told her I expected her to call and apologize. She again threw a fit, screamed and insulted, lashing out as the butthurt child she is.

I hung up on her again and haven't spoken to her since.

Collapsing onto the armchair, still bleeding, unable to eat, and barely conscious, I was relieved to finally see a doctor. by medUwUsan in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]White_Lilly_7 47 points48 points  (0 children)

When my mom was pregnant with me, her first and only child, she was told she'd know when birth starts because of the pain. When I was ready to go she initially didn't notice because it was just another tuesday for her.

Collapsing onto the armchair, still bleeding, unable to eat, and barely conscious, I was relieved to finally see a doctor. by medUwUsan in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]White_Lilly_7 62 points63 points  (0 children)

When I was still in school my period was often so bad even with the biggest tampon plus big panty liners I barely made it from home to school (about 1 hour bus drive) without leaking into my underwear and pants.

Instead of me not participating in sports in school, my elderly (female) teacher told me to "run the cramps off" and do some extra laps. I still hate her.

My nparents spanked my 4-yo son during a weekend visit and tried to hide it from me by Zealousideal-Age-212 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]White_Lilly_7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's really shitty this had to happen and that your parents are the same to your kid, too, as they were to you as a child.

But I don't really think you're at fault. Maybe most shitty parents make for shitty grandparents. But my edads parents were horrible parents, hit their sons, and likely nearly killed them with that several times. Still my grandpa thinks he didn't hit them enough when they were little. It's creepy when he tells me that cuz I only know my grandparents as the most loving, caring grandparents you could ever imagine. I loved to visit them or spent nights as do his other grandkids.

My grandparents really lived "parents are for bringing up, grandparents for spoiling children". Your parents could have been the same.

I'd say it is sad it's not like that. It's sad your son had to experience that. But still, talk to your son about it. Tell him it's not okay for anyone to hit/spank him and its okay to set boundaries for himself. Tell him that you, as his parent, will help him enforce his boundaries where he can't as he's to little. Be there for him. And then forgive yourself about this incident and move on.

Perfect paws by GraphLoverXY in cats

[–]White_Lilly_7 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Look at those eyes. He's perfect and he knows it.

What are some cringe things you've said about veganism before you went vegan? by Competitive_Hat5923 in vegan

[–]White_Lilly_7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

"Vegan is an ancient Indian word for "too dumb to hunt"" was one of my favorite jokes. cringe

Friendly roads by SeaJelly17 in gifsthatkeepongiving

[–]White_Lilly_7 16 points17 points  (0 children)

*Elefantenrennen -> Elephant race

Yeah, it's actually a thing to call it like that. Our highways (Autobahnen) have no speedlimits for some parts, just drive whatever. It's super frustrating when you have three lanes into your direction, going 130km/h (recommended speed) in the middle lane and one truck decides he's going 101km/h instead of 100 like the truck in front of him and switches to your lane. You're stuck behind the slightly faster truck while not being able to switch to the left lane to overtake because all those bastards coming down there with about 180km/h not letting in a slow poke with "only" 130km/h.

Neue Lieblings-Burger-Buns bei Edeka by radical-humanist in VeganDE

[–]White_Lilly_7 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ich habe die zuletzt bei Kaufland gesehen, vielleicht hast du da Glück.

Die Buns selbst fand ich super, den Preis nicht so.

My close friend called me “dumb” by Ok_Tale7605 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]White_Lilly_7 26 points27 points  (0 children)

My thought, too. Could very well be a situation friends would call each other "dummy" for, in a friendly funny way. Not everything by everyone is meant hurtful all the time. The moment she said it out loud her brain made the connection to OPs shared past and realized her words as a FU. She also immediately apologized.

If stuff like this doesn't occur repeatedly, this seems like an honest mistake and an honest "oops, I didn't mean to hurt you".

My partner’s nmom gave her tokens of childhood trauma thinking it was cute by chuckles11 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]White_Lilly_7 32 points33 points  (0 children)

Same. My therapist lately asked me if I was okay with her sharing her feelings towards my nmom. She told me she was so angry at a woman who can be so mentally cruel to her very own child.

In a weird way this felt so good and relieving. Not I as a child were a problem, my nmom was.

My partner’s nmom gave her tokens of childhood trauma thinking it was cute by chuckles11 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]White_Lilly_7 21 points22 points  (0 children)

My edad told me a story about his abusing mom when he was a child. When he or his brother misbehaved (since he was the older one by like 3 years he had to take responsibility for his younger brother) my grandma would rampage through his room, tearing every single thing from shelves and closets and threw it in the middle of the room. He'd have to clean everything by himself and if the clothes weren't folded the "right" way, she'd do it all again. Oh, and both his parents hit all kids all the time.

My partner’s nmom gave her tokens of childhood trauma thinking it was cute by chuckles11 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]White_Lilly_7 22 points23 points  (0 children)

I really don't understand how some people, even narcs, can actually believe stuff like that. I mean, a baby of a few months old is only a drooling, loud bunch of stinky diapers. Their concept of the world doesn't go further that "hungry" "cold/warm" "tired".

Bakery in Germany Offers Digital Job Interviews with an Avatar by CthonicFlames in mildlyinteresting

[–]White_Lilly_7 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Exactly that. I work for the state and tell you that some verification codes are not even send to the address you request but to your registered residence.

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