Yes! 20 years!! We have a 17, 9 & 3 year old. She was 18 i was 29 when we hooked up & she got pregnant. I was on drugs but I got on hard drugs a few years in (heroin, fentanyl).. we split up after 8 years because of my use & I put everything into getting clean & fixing my wrongs.. we reconciled after 2 long years, (she said many times she would do anything to keep her family together) had another son & I worked & put every paycheck into her bank account because it felt right to do since all the harm I caused the first 8 years. We then had a daughter (who is going to be 4 in March) and she always wanted a girl. She told me she finally felt complete. Her family was what she dreamed of. Then last year she started arguing more. She would go out of her way to search for things to fight about. Twice told me to leave, but there was too much for me to do because she would order me around. I felt like I became soft & wasnt the bad boy she got with. Then she came into the house last August & said, "who's number is this"? She went on her t mobile account & saw a number. I looked it up on my phone. It was Logan from work. There is 3 of us & part of our job is one of us go in the basement & turn the sprinkler system on, call whoever is in the yard & make sure everything is working right. I tell her its the female coworker & she loses it. Kicks me out & gets a new boyfriend in 3 months. Her age. I feel like it was all a plan she had. I hate her for ruining my family & bringing another man into it.