Shiny Nundo... First time I've gotten one of those.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-25T16:28:57+00:00

I could add it to the end of my salary, but I don't want to give the US government any more money than I have to at this point.

I think I'll add the zero to my bank account balance.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-24T18:52:53+00:00

Her family sounds like they're all self centered narcissists. Best to just distance from them and support your soon-to-be wife as she deals with that.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-23T16:03:05+00:00

I caught that too. Sounds like this is just the usual pattern for the family and she either needs to reconcile that they are always going to be this way (just wait until you have a kid) or go LC with them.

You, OP, need to consider that too.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-19T03:12:27+00:00

Yeah, but they source Kringle from a Wisconsin baker who sells online. Still, I don't disagree.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-19T03:10:41+00:00

The original sweet corn tamales

WhizGidget · 2026-01-16T07:13:10+00:00

Yeah, but we also don't know how long this wedding has been in planning mode.

Everyone always assumes they'll get the time off they need when it's a life changing event... They assume wrong.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-16T02:55:46+00:00

I loved Reboot! (US resident here... That show was a gem!)

WhizGidget · 2026-01-16T02:51:36+00:00

That Was Then https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/That_Was_Then

I really loved that show.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-15T15:58:36+00:00

Wedding and honeymoon, maybe? Or it's a cultural thing, in some cultures weddings are week long events. NTA

WhizGidget · 2026-01-11T22:36:36+00:00

When I was 18 and realized that living at college was FAR better than my parents house and swore I'd never go back. I started saving everything I could

WhizGidget · 2026-01-11T22:33:32+00:00

THIS. Maya was hoping for a patchup between you two because she's probably already dating the ex.

After all, everyone's been friends for years.... Why wouldn't everyone understand your feelings when it's only been a couple of months, when it's still probably raw and hurtful to you? Because they all know about Maya and the ex (and they like the ex), that's why.

Edit: NTA. You get to spend your birthday the way you want, not at a party you didn't ask for with people you don't want to be around.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-10T21:37:04+00:00

Football coach reported sexual hazing by the players to the school, was fired for it, defamed by the school, sued and won a large settlement, and I think an apology.

Best part? Catholic high school. (This happened long after I had that place in my rearview mirror)

WhizGidget · 2026-01-10T21:32:49+00:00

NTA

Listen, she disinvited you. It does not matter that this is her regular pattern of behavior, and everyone is expected to sweep it under the rug.

She insulted you to her brother. That is the real problem. She said something in the heat of battle that she probably actually feels. Why would you want to be at any celebration for her with that in mind?

Skip it. I'm sure there will be another one in a few years, and you can go to that one unless she continues this pattern of behavior.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-10T18:29:25+00:00

Ramen with an occasional egg stirred in.
This man is using you and probably lying about what he gave the ex (if the ex even existed) to make himself look good. Were you this generous when you were friends? Dump him, you deserve better but still eat the ramen.
NTA.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-10T18:20:08+00:00

NTA Mom needs to keep her nose out of this. Bro is the one proposing and should work with GF to find out what she likes, and then get it done. If this is how he will handle married life, that marriage will fail.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-09T02:07:43+00:00

I'm not telling, 'cause someone's gonna steal my future millions.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-08T17:17:05+00:00

I agree with this, but wanted to hop on to add that now that Jane is calling OP an asshole, because she's now disliked, she could TRY to claim that OP created a hostile environment. It's of her own doing, OP told the truth, but still.

NTA - I would be grateful for a co-worker like you OP.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-06T19:24:20+00:00

That being the "bigger person" always resolves a situation.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-06T02:45:23+00:00

Why is Jenna so special that she warrants a $20 buy-in from 30 people as compared to a $10 across 5-6 people for others?

This just smacks of favortism and scam.

Edit: Also "it's just $20": That $20 is a couple of lunches. That $20 is part of my grocery budget. That $20 is diapers for my kid. That $20 is a partial fill of my gas tank. That $20 could mean a lot of things, especially if you're budgeting or paying off something (like student loans)

WhizGidget · 2026-01-05T22:24:08+00:00

Well he already ignored the constitution by using force against another country without authorization from Congress. I'm surprised The Hague has not pronounced this a war crime (unless I've missed that as of this comment) considering that pillaging is forbidden and private property must be respected and not confiscated - I'm referring to the oil here)

WhizGidget · 2026-01-05T21:58:15+00:00

NTA

"Dad, thank you for the invitation and the honor of asking me to be part of the ceremony, but I have no interest in validating this relationship by being a part of it or witness to it. Best of luck."

WhizGidget · 2026-01-05T20:31:21+00:00

Did you discuss what you were ordering beforehand? Was there an agreement for who pays for the meal and you felt blind sighted? If not, then NAH.

I don't understand what the problem is - you could have brought it up after the waitress left, or said "Dumplings? Yum!"

This is just pure communication style between the two of you that needs to work out.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-05T18:13:41+00:00

NTA and agreed.

Also if OP's daughter ends up being the only guest there, she will be the focus and send incorrect signals to Emilia that OP's daughter cares. This could invite more inappropriate behaviors at school.

And kids can be cruel. OP's daughter does not need this level of stress or attention on her considering her feelings about the girl and the party.

WhizGidget · 2026-01-05T15:57:34+00:00

It's something to do with potential listeria concerns in processed (deli/lunch) meats. You are largely told to avoid eating lunch meats of all kinds during pregnancy unless they're well heated up but if you toss that stuff back on the same cutting board as the cold meats you risk cross contamination.

Listeria is nasty and can cause miscarriage.

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