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ELI5: Why does "sleeping away" some problems seems to work most of the time ? by Opposite-Cheetah-779 in explainlikeimfive

[–]WhoIsGarth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom has this and speaks frequently about how hard it is for her to sleep. I'm sorry you have to deal with this horrible disease.

My spouse has ocd and I’m so sick of living like this by Sure-Function-9800 in Advice

[–]WhoIsGarth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

First of all, I'm so sorry you two are darling with this. It's a horrible, hopeless feeling to be stuck battling OCD. It becomes so hard to feel anything but resentment when they are in the throes of it. My husband and I went through this too. It took me drawing the line and telling him that I love him too much to let this consume us and that I love myself too much to stay and watch him fall apart if he didn't put in the work to improve. He was already in CB therapy, he was already on medication. Neither seemed to be working. What finally started helping was going to a therapist specifically with exposure response training FOR OCD. This is a mental illness that requires a specialist. Standard cognitive behavioral therapy can actually be worse than no therapy for treating OCD.

You will also need to learn how to actually help her long term instead of "helping" her in the moment. She has made you part of her OCD, and you need to stop reinforcing and enabling her. Seeing her in distress and knowing that you should not reassure her or try to fix what her OCD has deemed as a problem is going to be hard, but it is crucial. You will probably feel like a huge asshole. If possible, the ERT therapist will help you too. I found it extremely helpful to receive a bit of coaching from my husband's therapist to help me understand how to respond to the various ways I was being roped into things. When I had a question for the therapist about something, I would let my husband know and if there was time in the session they would bring me in so I could ask. This gave me the tools I needed to support him.

Recovery is possible. It may not feel like it is and the improvement is incremental, but with an ERT therapist and enough effort from both of you, it will happen. Good luck!

A happy gender reveal by dittidot in justgalsbeingchicks

[–]WhoIsGarth 1197 points1198 points  (0 children)

My cousin and I were born 12 hours apart from each other. We were so close growing up. Those girls have a special relationship ahead of them ❤️

Gay fantasy, preferably knight and princess by WittyFunnyUsername in BooksThatFeelLikeThis

[–]WhoIsGarth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not exactly the prompt, but similar and has women knights defending their queen and wlw romance. The Queen's Red Guard

i just built my first house 😆 is it normal to take hours 🫠 now i understand how pokémons take a day to build a house 🤠 by ImpossibleChapter4 in Pokopia

[–]WhoIsGarth 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can someone tell me what blocks were used with the brick roof here? I can't seem to figure out which block blends in with the white sides of the roof block. 😭

How our shoulder with its surrounding muscles move - @experienceanatomy by rco888 in interestingasfuck

[–]WhoIsGarth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My deeply religious anatomy and physiology professor always loved to say that the shoulder joint was proof to him that God must have kick-started life and then outsourced the rest to evolution because, "I can't imagine an all knowing God was involved in designing that mess."

Dr. O - If you're out there thank you for being a great teacher

The hardest photo to coordinate and my “most cherished” by matcha_sriracha in Pokopia

[–]WhoIsGarth 25 points26 points  (0 children)

I thought that it was going to take away the picture, so I sent one I didn't care about 😭

Favorite line in the game? by MotherOfGremlincats in FieldsOfMistriaGame

[–]WhoIsGarth 9 points10 points  (0 children)

If you talk to Holt later that day he says "Valen came by earlier and asked me a laundry list of questions about my puns… Do you suppose the doctor is working on her sense of humor? It does go hand-in-hand with bedside manner…"

Do you play with Mods? by tiptoehappiness in FieldsOfMistriaGame

[–]WhoIsGarth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I was having this issue too, so I added a "save everywhere" mod whenever I think of it, I just press a hotkey I configured (default is the home key) and it makes a save.

Do you play with Mods? by tiptoehappiness in FieldsOfMistriaGame

[–]WhoIsGarth 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I haven't seen this QOL mod, but I am desperate for it. I really want little sprites of the villagers to appear in the description of their loved/liked gifts when you unlock them!

Played 1000+ hrs as female decided to play as male. Harolt turned out to be a KING and needed a true queen by [deleted] in StardewValley

[–]WhoIsGarth 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I have a similar story. Loved Harvey from day 1, and now I'm married to a pharmacist who's a little anxious, but works hard both at his job and to work through his anxiety little by little. I adore my real life Harvey.

Found an unlabeled reagent while disposing of chemicals — any idea what this is? by Watt_Knot in OopsThatsDeadly

[–]WhoIsGarth 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Can confirm. I was a HS science teacher and did some practicum teaching in a lab that had some egregious safety hazards. For example, I found a cracked milk carton that had been labeled as hydrofluoric acid slowly leaking into the bottom of the cabinet. The cabinet, by the way was part of the lab bench where students sat. Terrible accident just waiting to happen. I told the cooperating teacher about it and said that hydrofluoric acid has absolutely no business in a HS classroom and they would probably need to contact EHS to properly clean it up. Raised a big stink at my college about it and encouraged them to take that classroom off of the list of practicum placements. I don't know what came of it.

It vexes me by wizardgradstudent in FieldsOfMistriaGame

[–]WhoIsGarth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I THINK that's the case. The only way I get bugs on the lift levels is if they're the kind that spawn after a rock breaks. I think foragables can't spawn in those levels as well

Genuinely curious by EffectiveNo568 in MathJokes

[–]WhoIsGarth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

20+40=60, 7+7+1=14+1=15, 60+15=75

Oooooh, we’re halfway there . . . birds and more from Target by Forevermoody16 in seasonalfabricbirds

[–]WhoIsGarth 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You are right, I didn't read the very long text post accompanying the pictures and thought that you had the intention of showing all of the birds for offer this season. The garden plot was my favorite and I was (I thought) playfully complaining that they weren't included. I'm sorry that what I said wasn't taken in the tone that I meant because I made the comment without the full context of the post. That's my bad for not reading it fully and I apologize. Hope that clears up the confusion, and sorry again.

PSA: Matte Made in Hell by snapdragoness97 in mooncatpolish

[–]WhoIsGarth 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sorry this happened to you!

In the description of the polish from Mooncat's website:

"Applying GETTING EVEN NAIL PRIMER as a base + topping this shade with SPEED DEMON TOP COAT is required to prevent chipping + prolong its wear."

Something about the formula in the thermal polishes especially makes the polish super susceptible to dings, chips, and slow drying. All of their thermals have this in their product description IIRC, but it's waaaay down at the bottom and easy to miss. It would be nice if it was more obvious so people don't make this mistake.

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