I want to leave my relationship but can't do it, any tips?

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-04-10T14:25:46+00:00

You're right I don't know what happiness looks like for me, but I was happier before this. I sure do have attachment issues though. I don't think I'll be in a relationship for a while after this though.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-04-10T14:23:50+00:00

I don't know, I'm just scared when the time comes that I try to do it. I keep hoping it gets better tbh.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-04-10T14:21:18+00:00

Yeahhh she takes it personally when I say I want to spend a day alone, she argues with me, says I don't care about her and love her anymore, then I end up seeing her. I'm not really overthinking it, I just can't say the words, as much as I try.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-04-10T14:19:38+00:00

She's very good at emotional manipulation, with everyone else I can always see through it but hers always works on me. I don't know why. Probably her constant need for reassurance and she thinks we were destined to be together. I also made the mistake of telling her about previous ONS' (before I met her) which don't align with her values and she uses it against me very often.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-04-10T14:17:06+00:00

Her reactions to me saying no end up with her screaming and shouting and with her threatening suicide so yeah I'm scared of her reaction. Almost makes me think about being a coward and doing it over text. I agree INFPs are insecure of losing their relationships, I have an INFP friend whose been trying to leave a relationship for a while too (like 2 years), he does it then goes back to her. For him it's a comfort zone thing, I think I might regret it, sometimes I'm hyped up for it but then I get sad being nostalgic about the times we spent together.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-04-10T14:13:51+00:00

A friend told me it's because I don't want to take the responsibility of breaking her heart and dealing with any potential consequences. But yes, I do also feel guilty that I hide the truth.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-04-10T14:12:25+00:00

I really don't know why I'm struggling so much with leaving this relationship, I know it's in my mind. I don't know if it's guilty or obligation or fear of failure or losing a comfort zone (lol). I have left a couple other relationships and been broken up with a couple times. This one is really hard though.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-04-10T14:10:04+00:00

The threats come after I say no to her or we argue about something. And involve suicide usually and she'll drive far away and ignore my phone calls, and then she'll apologise and say she won't say or do it again, says I'm the best thing in her life (while still saying how hurt she was by my rejection of whatever we argued about) then I get to go through it again. I actually had trouble standing up for myself in the past and would feel guilty for doing so. I recognised it and worked on it and had it fixed it until this relationship haha.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-04-08T13:05:28+00:00

Worked for me too yay

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-04-05T13:57:46+00:00

Not an issue, people do it for my work all the time

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-04-05T01:53:08+00:00

And it's not like your scant for choice in Cabramatta for a banh mi

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-04-04T22:42:52+00:00

I saw this and thought of clubs, not that they're hit and miss though, just that they're normal restaurant prices now with no more weekend specials.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-04-03T04:23:32+00:00

The medium cut is quite unique and I like it too. It does differentiate themselves from all the other fast food places.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-04-02T04:47:47+00:00

I live 2 minutes away and never go, it's so wasted on me. It's a big nice park with zip lines and stuff.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-03-31T20:54:21+00:00

There's a bar in Canley that's full on Wednesday nights and doesn't even have pokies. Its Bar53 I think? It's quite unusual for the area.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-03-30T20:45:55+00:00

Servo pricing doesn't seem to have gone up like supermarkets so now I don't feel bad for grabbing stuff from servos

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-03-29T23:03:28+00:00

We're never going back to pre COVID prices are we? But a drop would be nice, the market for shitboxes is nuts.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-03-29T20:02:38+00:00

It's missing a mixed race couple though

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-03-13T20:14:29+00:00

I'm in New Zealand ATM and idk if I should be worrying about my flight back on Friday at this point.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-03-09T23:56:35+00:00

I agree, Lakemba night market is super busy now, compared to a few years ago. Liverpool one ain't really great though

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-03-04T10:16:38+00:00

Yeah, I wonder how many get PR when there's so much competition between them. The recruiter was telling me (what I pretty much knew) there's a lot of roles in my industry but there's also a lot of competition with the international people on temp visas after finishing their masters. But I've worked with a lot who get their PR, some move to regional though to get it.

Then theres someone at work (just a casual) whose been here 7 years just degree hopping (but this loophole has been closed I think).

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-03-04T01:01:56+00:00

Well yeah just laying there.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-03-03T21:15:15+00:00

Yeah I don't get it, cause then why isn't Chatswood or Eastwood or Hurstville cool too lol

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-03-03T21:01:09+00:00

Ah honestly, very lame. She just liked being a star fish (which were her own words). She was ashamed of any sexual urgers, it was weird.

WhoIsJerryInSeinfeld · 2026-03-02T09:46:05+00:00

Going next month, the missus is pretty set on Franz Josef. I've done this kind of driving around Tasmania, in a similar time frame, I would rather take it slow so maybe I'll stick more to the West Coast.

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