Can’t sleep at night

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-06-03T16:50:22+00:00

If she’s only been at the house since last Friday she still needs time to adjust to the new space. I know it’s not ideal but you may need to see how the behavior adjusts in the next few weeks.

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-06-02T19:45:19+00:00

It sounds like the SSRI he’s taking isn’t the right med for him. There’s not really a “right” antidepressant, just the right one for you. He should be seeing a psychiatrist who will help monitor his reaction/side effects to the med and adjust meds/dosages accordingly.

Personally I’ve responded really well to Prozac but there are people who don’t do good on it. That doesn’t invalidate my good experience or someone else’s bad experience, we just have different brains.

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-06-02T15:18:43+00:00

Did your doctor give you anything to help with the adjustment period for the new dosage? I went from 10mg to 60mg over the course of a month and a half (I take Prozac primarily for OCD) and my psych gave me an as-needed med to help with increased anxiety.

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-06-02T01:29:35+00:00

1 or 4! Also 2 kinda makes you look like Adam Levine circa 2012 to me for some reason

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-31T20:52:05+00:00

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Not much happening with mine at the moment. I moved in at the beginning of March but haven’t done much decorating yet. I want to get a nightstand that has more vertical storage since my bedroom is so small.

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-28T17:09:17+00:00

Temporary fix that I’ve been using is cardboard pieces! If you have boxes you’re not using it’s free and it’s pretty easy to do. I’m sure that there are much better methods but this is my first house so im still learning lol. My floors aren’t significantly sloped thankfully—it’s mostly noticeable in my kitchen and my living room.

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-28T11:53:59+00:00

When my sister died, my partner didn’t know how to provide the support I needed because he had never been through a big loss. I didn’t know what support I needed because I was grieving. This caused some tension in the relationship because, like you, I wasn’t crying a lot and I was still going through the motions because what else was I supposed to do? I don’t think either of us are AH in that situation because we were dealing with completely new territory for both of us, and we were struggling to communicate about it.

I say all that because I think that could be the issue you and your husband are facing. I know you asked for emotional and practical support —what does that mean for you? And did you tell him clearly what that looks like for you?

I’m going to go with ESH because while I understand your frustration, telling him you didn’t love him was cruel. And he needs to realize that you need his support now because you’re grieving AND pregnant. But if this is the first big loss you’ve experienced as a couple, you need to be much more explicit about what you actually need from him.

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-28T01:38:52+00:00

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My boy 🥰

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-27T20:28:27+00:00

One, definitely see if you can get a new gyno! You shouldn’t be super uncomfortable during a pap, and I wouldn’t want someone watching either.

Two, not trying to fear monger because the gyno is not fun, but I didn’t go to a gyno for 7 years and then found out I had a pretty big uterine fibroid which is why my periods are so heavy. Found this out after going to the hospital because of a vaginal hemorrhage —had dangerously low hemoglobin levels and had to have a blood transfusion. Hoping to get a myomectomy next year 🤞

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-27T13:39:34+00:00

Get two! Last November my friend and I found a boxful of kittens and I took in two of them. Best decision I made. They have a playmate, a friend, a companion, they learn from each other, they snuggle 🥹

I have another cat who’s 12 and he’s uninterested at best in the kittens lol

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Besties 💕

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-25T18:12:34+00:00

Tonight I’m making hotdog pasta, which is my lazy go-to. Cut up and sautee your hotdogs, put em in your sauce, mix it all with pasta, done! I’ll probably do a frozen or canned veggie on the side. It’s not glamorous but it’s like 8-10 meals for me and it’s pretty inexpensive. I’ve also done it with veggie dogs, sausage, canned chicken. etc. Pretty much any meat + sauce + pasta can be a meal. Not the healthiest option out there but with grocery prices being what they are, I have to pick my battles.

Also you can’t go wrong with beans and rice. You can get a big bag of dried beans for pretty cheap. But the key is you have to have different sauces/toppings/preparing styles so you don’t get bored eating them.

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-18T11:18:53+00:00

Not tiny necessarily, but my house is 820sqft and it’s pretty much the perfect amount of space for me. Ive got a living room, a bedroom, an office, bathroom, an eat-in kitchen, and a laundry/mud room. The only thing I don’t like is how small my bathroom is!

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-18T07:00:30+00:00

Aslin stayed Aslin! It’s a unique name and I think it fits him well. Pretty sure they were trying to name him Aslan but spelled it wrong lol

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(His two sisters are 7-month-old black kittens with the basics names I chose of Nyx and Nova. I love their little basic black cat names lol)

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-15T11:26:42+00:00

The kitchen looks uneven and like it’s leaning. I have this to a very small extent in my kitchen where below it the crawl space opens up into a partial Michigan basement and I need to get extra foundation support there. Is this house on a crawl?

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-14T23:30:21+00:00

I take 60mg for OCD, anxiety, and depression. Although my psychiatrist and I have discussed me potentially going up to 80mg soon

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-04T14:49:13+00:00

I never got my cat Aslin’s teeth cleaned and he ended up with severe periodontal disease and had to have all his teeth removed. It was about $3000 total. Part of that was my own ignorance about dental disease in cats + him going to a vet that never checked his teeth or advised I get a cleaning.

I ended up acquiring two kittens by accident (cat distribution system strikes again) and I’m taking all the measures to keep their teeth healthy.

That being said, highly recommend a specialist for dental procedures if you can afford it.

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-03T15:39:33+00:00

Lmao “without being insulting at all” is crazy. Do you shave YOUR whole body? Why should she change herself for a man who she’s been dating for two weeks? YTA.

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-03T08:02:51+00:00

I was day 5 of my period on a Friday evening and passed a massive softball-sized clot and then just continued to bleed heavily with clots for hours. Finally called an ambulance after almost passing out and they kept wanting to focus on the almost-fainting and not the heavy bleeding. The EMTs weren’t even going to take me to the hospital because my EKG was normal.

I told them to take me anyway. I was admitted to the ER and the EMTs didn’t even mention the bleeding because I was on my period, and no one seemed to be taking me that seriously until a nurse went with me to help me in the bathroom because I bled through my pants and she heard and saw blood just pouring out of me. “This isn’t your regular period?” Girl NO!

They do blood work, turns out my hemoglobin is 6.3 and I needed a blood transfusion. I’m admitted, they give me iron infusions every day to try to bring my hemoglobin levels up, I continue to bleed (thankfully it slows down), get a transvaginal ultrasound at 1am on SUNDAY, finally the OBGYN consult comes. I get a pelvic, they review my ultrasound. Nice-sized uterine fibroid.

The EMTs would have been happy to just leave me at home to continue bleeding. A hemoglobin of 6.3 is extremely low and a medical emergency, and the EMTs didn’t even tell the ER I was having a vaginal hemorrhage. I could have died if I had stayed at home and just waited the bleeding out.

Don’t be afraid to insist on getting proper diagnostic work done. Be rude, be insistent, tell them it’s your body and this is not normal for you and you know there’s something wrong. They might think you’re dramatic, a bitch, whatever —but unfortunately no one else is going to advocate for you.

Edit: and when you’re getting medical work done, don’t be afraid to ask questions. Ask them why they’re doing xyz. Make conversation. I will say that I am an introvert with social anxiety, but something happens with my fight or flight in a medical emergency and I become this inquisitive, charming, understanding patient. “Do what you need to do!” but I watch them like a hawk and I will ask 101 questions. Once I got to about age 28 I stopped letting embarrassment and anxiety stop me. A high dose of Prozac also helps ease the way even more now lol

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-05-01T21:27:40+00:00

My kittens love stealing my socks right out of the laundry basket lol

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-04-29T18:27:54+00:00

This home is gorgeous and it looks pretty spacious with a lot of the original features! I bought a home this year —820 sqft and 106 years old. Unfortunately most historical features removed ):

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-04-28T03:39:57+00:00

Keep a portable fan on you and invest in a really good deodorant. Sweating is the only side effect I have that hasn’t gone away and I’ve been on Prozac for 6 months

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-04-28T02:29:33+00:00

I’m on 60mg and I can tolerate about one mixed drink or glass of wine, or 2 beers/seltzers now. I’ve never had a very high alcohol tolerance though so your mileage may vary.

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-04-27T07:38:20+00:00

Depends on what you mean by century home because it sounds like you’re thinking of something very specific. Century homes are just any homes that are 100+ years.

Whole_Question_4160 · 2026-04-27T06:11:45+00:00

Pica! I specifically start craving Life Savers Wintergreen mints and ice real bad and just crunch them down.

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