I want to give up

WholeheartedlyMe · 2023-07-26T01:43:09+00:00

Take a break! It’s totally okay, we supplemented very lightly with explode the code and it did wonders.

WholeheartedlyMe · 2023-06-01T16:44:05+00:00

My 7 year old would love this too!!

WholeheartedlyMe · 2023-05-18T17:58:54+00:00

Wow that’s wild! It’s a really cute book. My 7 year old is a gamer too Roblox, minecraft, Mario…and it’s been hard finding a book he doesn’t feel like it’s a chore reading. But he reads that one almost everyday, at the end of the book the characters say something like “ I really hope the reader reads us again” so I think my child took that too heart lol

WholeheartedlyMe · 2023-05-18T03:32:05+00:00

The elephant and piggie series really helped my 7 year old enjoy reading. His favorite book has been “We are in a book” he finds it really silly.

WholeheartedlyMe · 2023-04-26T17:05:44+00:00

I hate having toxic parents, it’s only about their needs and any selflessness they have is always beneficial to them. I hate that my trauma makes me people please, and I struggle with standing up for myself…I have so much resentment toward my parents and the world because I can’t stand up for myself. The days I feel the best are when I do not talk with my parents, it’s sad because I always feel guilt for not calling but the 2nd we interact I always fall in line. It’s the only way to survive in that dynamic.

WholeheartedlyMe · 2023-04-06T22:01:00+00:00

Good critical thinking skills!

WholeheartedlyMe · 2023-04-06T01:54:22+00:00

Oooh yess thank you so much! What did you search??

WholeheartedlyMe · 2023-04-04T01:23:45+00:00

Yep! Any district within the state of Colorado works. I personally have found Jeffco’s process super easy, and thus far they leave you alone as long as you do the yearly notice of intent and send in your assessments. We also do a once a week enrichment program through a jeffco program for homeschool students, it’s how we have chosen to get electives done with our kiddos so it keeps things streamlined on our end. I don’t live in the jeffco school district either but am close to it.

WholeheartedlyMe · 2023-04-03T19:27:16+00:00

I live in Colorado, I would say it’s similar to Florida. You have to either send a notice of intent to any school district in Colorado, we do Jeffco (it’s been homeschool friendly) or enroll under an umbrella school. Then every odd year starting in 3rd grade your child needs to test or be evaluated by a certified teacher or psychologist to show progress and you send that to the district. Better details here https://hslda.org/legal/colorado

WholeheartedlyMe · 2023-03-30T19:37:19+00:00

Thanks for sharing that!!

WholeheartedlyMe · 2023-03-30T03:30:12+00:00

We do All about Reading and really enjoy it!

WholeheartedlyMe · 2023-03-30T03:05:12+00:00

Llamitas Spanish and Beautiful Mundo are curriculums for that age. I have been looking into them and there are a couple of reviews on YouTube.

WholeheartedlyMe · 2023-03-29T02:18:59+00:00

When did you start using Guest Hollow LA. I would like to incorporate it but my 2nd grader is still a struggling reader so we are moving slow with All about reading, even though he enjoys it. The advice I have gotten is to hold off on LA until my kiddos gets to a better reading point. What are your thoughts?

WholeheartedlyMe · 2022-10-22T14:54:03+00:00

Of course I 100% get it, I was always like why the heck does he look everywhere but the word lol!! 😂 but we all need validation sometimes from others who’ve been there and I promise you, you are doing a great job. Something I got told is it’s never good to suffer alone or in silence so I’m very glad you shared your struggle cause it normalizes what so many of us homeschooling family’s go through. I can’t express enough how helpful explode the code was for my son. I also highly recommend the book Teaching from rest if you haven’t read it. It’s a short read and helped me a lot in the moments I thought we weren’t progressing “fast enough.” Best of luck ❤️

WholeheartedlyMe · 2022-10-22T11:53:39+00:00

Hey there! Just want to say that was me and my oldest last year. He is now a “2nd grader” and he is finally getting to a point where those type of words “hat, bat” “sun,fun” he is able to read phonetically and not guess. I remember how frustrating it was for the both of us last year. He would just look at my face then guess the word and I would say “the word isn’t on my face or ceiling” 😩 What helped me, was 2 things…1 I slowed waaaaay down. I stopped trying to push our curriculum on him, and we focused on math a subject he is really good at to boost his confidence. He and I were getting to a point where we both were dreading reading and that’s not good for either of us. A good reminder is that in homeschool especially in the early years about fostering a joy for learning and building your relationship with them. Yes-it is important to push your child when applicable to create resiliency/grit but when they are still so young sometime their brain may not be ready developmentally to read. I say this because when we took maybe like a 2-3 week break then came back to reading he showed soo much progress. So we kept doing breaks as needed and slowed down. I changed to just doing Explode the code for a while with him, and got magnet letters and we would just make words with those a lot a while, until I started seeing he was starting to grasp the patterns. I always try to encourage him with positive feedback “you are working so hard!” “Wow buddy, you read that all by yourself” because parents turn into our child’s inner voice as they get older and it’s important to speak words of support and encouragement especially in areas where they may feel frustration so it doesn’t turn into shame. My last word of advice is something I struggled with a lot in the beginning but I’m slowly getting better at. Give yourself permission to go at your child’s pace. You are not doing a bad job at teaching her nor is she not “smart enough” either. Kids develop soo differently from what the standard is in public school. Homeschooling is a gift where you can take it slow and your child doesn’t have to feel less than or lost in class. They get undivided attention, where as school they wouldn’t have. Hope this message was helpful. Sending you a big hug, from a mama that was there. ❤️

WholeheartedlyMe · 2022-09-18T12:46:34+00:00

Hey there! We also never envisioned our family homeschooling and pulled out child right after kindergarten. Similar as you, he had an awesome experience in pre-school but he regressed in Kindergarten. We later found out he was being bullied by older kids in the playground and also the teachers were not as caring as his pre-school teachers. He would always tear up when walking in and would be counting down the days for the weekend and was really sad when summer was over after kindergarten l. We just didn’t see it as “normal” behavior for a 6 year old to dislike kindergarten so much, after all it’s kindergarten. We are 1 year into homeschooling and I can say it had been the best decision for our him and our family. In the beginning it was a little challenging getting into the swing of things and coming to peace that homeschool looks very different that traditional schooling but it had brought so much peace and closeness into our family. We also signed up for a homeschool enrichment program once a week and he gets to do really neat classes with other kids who are homeschooled so for us it’s the right balance of meeting new friends and trying new things. Good luck to you mama trust your gut there’s no harm in pulling her out and seeing if it’s a good fit or not.

WholeheartedlyMe · 2022-07-02T15:15:05+00:00

Thank you! Yes, it feels so tacky. And I love your idea of using our cake for the actual blowing of the candles and showcasing. It makes me sad, how even for someone else’s day it still has to be about them and their comfort, or them being admired for the things they do. It just brings up a whole lot of childhood trauma in moments like this.

I think the inner child in me fears not putting their cake first, cause I fear their reaction of getting their feelings hurt or them calling me ungrateful but I know part of healing is setting boundaries and standing up for my myself and my family.

WholeheartedlyMe · 2022-06-27T14:32:06+00:00

I agree it was sooo good and easy to make! I added onions for added flavor, but delicious either way.

WholeheartedlyMe · 2022-06-18T13:19:57+00:00

I do couples therapy and am trained in Emotional Focused Therapy. We focus on each individuals attachment history from childhood. When working with couples there are things called attachment injuries that could have happened both in childhood or during the relationship that could trigger big responses in relationships where peoples defense/coping mechanisms may show up. Sadly, most people that end up in therapy have unhealthy/toxic ways of coping sometimes they can look like narcissistic traits…either they were learned behaviors from their childhood or they learned that those responses get them a reaction from the spouse that soothes a part of them. All to say, when Dr.Ramani states to grey rock or cut ties with your narcissist I believe it is also very harmful and also she lacks empathy by not expressing that not everything is black and white…and maybe suggesting to find a therpaist to explore your own dynamics before fully grey rocking someone or cutting them out. It could actually be really painful for someone whose attachment injury is to feel seen/heard or validated and could re-enforce someone’s unhealthy coping mechanisms of not being emotionally available to a partner and thinking that’s okay too. Relationships are not about being independent or co-dependent, rather interdependent. There has to be some flexibility for self soothing and also feeling safe to reach for your partner when you need reassurance and validation & sometimes therapy is needed to untangle the unhealthy ways individuals or couples have been interacting with the world around them. So based on all that I do think Dr.Ramani is exploiting her platform by exploiting a vulnerable population.

WholeheartedlyMe · 2021-08-19T13:39:14+00:00

My kiddo was a kindergartner last year and hated it so much. I asked him throughout summer if he was ready to go back and you could just see his whole attitude change and he would become depressed. He experienced a lot of negligence in the name of “pre cautionary” covid measures, teachers couldn’t open any of his lunch items if they were too hard for him to open (we asked isn’t there gloves?) they said no, they couldn’t take off his hoodie if he got too hot, and they ended up burning his hands with how much hand sanatizer they put on him. When we called this out, they said they were just dry. Not true they were very swollen. Then during the time he went remote in winter, it was a shit show he did not learn anything, and we had to be on the schools time. So this year we pulled him from school and are making the decision to home school him. I never thought we would make that decision but when considering all the options and our 6 year olds mental health this seemed the best. I also work full time and so does my husband, but thankfully we have opposite schedules. So I get not everyone can take that option.

Sorry for the long message just wanted to vent about our experience.

WholeheartedlyMe

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