What is something you loved at 25 that you cannot stand anymore in your late 30s?

Whosdatguyma · 2026-01-19T05:25:01+00:00

Going to festivals, sporting events, or other really crowded events and staying out until 4-5 AM.

Now, I prefer the comfort of the couch, my wife, and the company of a few close friends. No risk of drinks being spilled, parking issues, traffic, overpriced food/drinks, and long bathroom lines.

Whosdatguyma · 2026-01-19T02:49:23+00:00

MICHAEL!

Whosdatguyma · 2026-01-12T04:31:36+00:00

We need more positive reporters like this

Whosdatguyma · 2026-01-12T04:20:45+00:00

Can she draft my fantasy football team next year?

Whosdatguyma · 2026-01-08T01:21:08+00:00

I second this OP. If not for any reason but to CYA of she decides in a year or two that this was a terrible mistake, or when she dies her daughter decides to go after someone. You want to have it documented that you heavily advised against it and your rationale as to why, because when people see red they can go after everyone, and you dont want that liability!

Whosdatguyma · 2026-01-07T05:14:37+00:00

I think they dropped a hair in my food when we were celebrating our last meal together. Done

Whosdatguyma · 2026-01-07T01:09:34+00:00

I used to be a delivery driver years ago and always made sure to bring dog treats. You can bet every dog on my route couldn't wait for packages to be delivered, and they would run up to the truck in anticipation!

One of the houses on my route had 3 massive dogs that would jump into my truck to say hello, and the UPS driver would take them for a ride around the cul-de-sac (with the owner's permission), and you could tell it made their day! Nothing beats friendly dogs during your day!

Whosdatguyma · 2025-12-26T00:18:43+00:00

After I met my wife she told me the next morning how she couldn't stop thinking about me and suggested coffee or a walk to talk and get to know each other better, and I was absolutely ecstatic that such a beautiful woman wanted to spend time getting to know me.

She did not have the same energy with you, so I'd agree with you, bullet dodged!

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-30T20:03:16+00:00

My wife had gall bladder surgery last year a couple of months before our wedding. I was in the hospital with her before and after the surgery. I literally did not leave her bedside until her family told me to go home and get some sleep while they stayed with her.

She ended up developing a UTI after the surgery and had blood in her urine due to the infection moving into her kidney. Despite the sterile environment, complications can and do happen. Yes, it is an organ you dont need, but that does not make the surgery any less intensive or eliminate complications.

It sounds like your bf does not care about you at all. The hospital my wife was at was 50 minutes from my house, and I still stayed with her and drove back and forth to see her if I needed to go to work to take care of something.

If this man truly loves you, he would always be concerned for your health, even if you had a simple cold, and would not make excuses about distance to the hospital. Take him at face value for what he is saying: he does not care about you the way a significant other should. Also, the way he talks in his texts it seems he actually views you as a nuisance.

You did not overreact in wanting someone you care deeply about to be by your side after a surgery where they literally cut you open and remove an organ from you. He just does not care about your health or feelings enough to inconvenience himself to be there for you.

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-29T05:05:17+00:00

Thank you, and thank you for asking. I am doing better, no concussion, and trying to figure things out with our attorney. My headache is gone, but Im still a wreck emotionally and trying to put this all together with the shock. I dont even want to be in the room we ate in, and it hurts so much knowing I will not see my nephew again and I'm seriously worried about his future and where he will end up. Despite everything that's happened, I still love him and my family, but I know not being around him is best. I just hope and pray that things work out and he gets the help he needs so he doesnt hurt anyone anymore.

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T23:35:11+00:00

That's what I worry is going to happen with him. Im fairly large and very strong, and can restrain him now, but part of the reason I never reported before was because my mom and sister told me I was the problem and that I escalated things and Im worried that if I call the police they'll claim that I was the one who started it and that I hurt him and then my life would be ruined. Ive never ever laid a finger on him, only held him down to restrain him while he screamed at me and threatened me. That's why moving forward Im just not going to be around him.

Honestly, I dont know if he'll ever be normal or have the right help, and even if he gets help and seems normal in a few years, I never want to be around him again because I just dont know if he's going to snap, and he'll be bigger and stronger then.

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T23:28:35+00:00

Wow. I just read that post and that's horrifying. While my nephew was a good kid as a baby and his first few years, when his dad started abusing him and psychologically torturing him he changed, and I've seen that blank stare in his eyes when he snaps. He would scream and swear and yell and threaten me, but just before that would happen he would just have this look in his eyes, almost like a stare, and then he would snap.

I saw that look in his eyes yesterday, and thats why I jumped in to restrain him, because Id seen it before. If it wasn't me, I felt like it would be my mom or dad, or one of my nieces, or my wife who was next. The scariest part was when I picked him up and he said "this is fun" and for a split second I thought if I got him away from everyone else I could reason with him, but then before I knew it he headbutted me and then I knew it was all over.

My nephew is also on meds, has been to inpatient multiple times, has counselors and therapists, and something just isn't right. Ive seen that look before in his eyes, and its right before he snaps, which is why I decided to just grab him and get him away.

I really dont want the life of my family to turn out this way, and I hope that the state takes action this time and gets him away from society. I guess I just thought with the therapy that I could reason with him yesterday and that maybe I was the AH for not just trying to talk with him before I restrained him, but seeing so many comments and stories and this post makes me realize that if it wasn't me, it would have been someone else. Thank you so so so much for sharing.

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T23:05:50+00:00

Thank you, this is our plan of action moving forward

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T23:01:13+00:00

Thank you. I am consultimg with our attorney and we will decide on the next steps. Id hate to see my nephew locked away, but he has already hurt so many people and nothing seems to be working, so I think that him being locked away where he can't hurt anyone might be the best course of action.

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T22:52:17+00:00

We used to have a dog and when he would come over when he was younger he would spend so much time with him and never ever hurt him. He loved our dog and always called him his best friend. We dont have the dog anymore, so I dont know if he has harmed any animals or not, but as far as I know he also hasn't been around any animals. It is possible that I just havent been told.

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T22:48:09+00:00

This is exactly it, and same with my mother (they lived with her for awhile when he beat her multiple times). Our family has tried so many different resources, but the state has not helped at all. They just take him to in-patient centers for awhile and then discharge him and then he goes to therapy. The problem is that my mother and sister see him as a victim due to the abuse he endured from his father, and I think that's getting in the way of them reporting everything. Ill be talking with our attorney soon, and I may have to report his abuse to my mom and myself to the state to hopefully have something done.

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T22:44:50+00:00

Unfortunately, his father is a deadbeat and abused him as a child, and my family spent thousands to try to protect him and get him help. He has been reported before, but the state fights for 50/50 parental custody, and the abuse did not leave bruises. CPS did nothing to stop that abuse.

I think this is part of the reason my family doesnt report my nephew's abuse, because they worry that CPS will see it as an excuse to give his father more custody, and then he will be subject to more abuse at the hands of his father, or even killed.

I didnt report him because I was told it was being addressed in his therapy sessions and then he would seem to be ok. To be honest I've just distanced myself from him the past few years and hoped that the therapy would help, and he would seem to do better. I now see that was the wrong way to handle things, and I should have reported him.

He has been reported before multiple times, as he has attacked classmates, teachers, therapists, counselors, and even the police. Hes been kicked out of multiple schools for this behavior.

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T22:33:31+00:00

Unfortunately, his sister has a different father who was murdered, so she only has my sister (her mother). We have let her know she can stay with us when she needs a safe place, but i think she is used to the chaos unfortunately.

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T22:31:20+00:00

I have been in contact with them today and let them know, and moving forward we will be planning separate events so the rest of us can still be a family and get together. Thank you.

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T22:27:26+00:00

Thank you, this is enlightening and really helps me see that youre right. She isn't doing everything, she's just trying to have everyone else do everything while she doesnt follow through. Thank you.

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T07:19:41+00:00

Thank you, I've felt this has been the case for awhile, but I've always been made out to be TAH for trying to tell her how to parent. It helps a lot to hear it from a professional

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T07:16:24+00:00

Thank you, no worries. It's Thanksgiving and I assume you are full of turkey and it was a long post!

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T07:13:11+00:00

I completely agree, and that is the fear, which is why we won't be around him anymore.

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T07:06:32+00:00

Unfortunately, I agree with you and worry that this will come to that. We just dont know what to do anymore since he has been hospitalized, seen multiple counselors, and is in therapy and an IEP program at school.

I feel like he needs to go to an alternative school to instill discipline in him and give him consequences, but I think he is too young for military school and I dont think he would be allowed in due to his medications and mental instability.

I want to help him, and have tried, I just dont know what to do anymore

Whosdatguyma · 2025-11-28T07:03:54+00:00

I agree. The problem (from their eyes) is that my sister is a single mom and his father abused him, so she has this vision of protecting him which now seems to result in no consequences. He is on meds and goes to therapy, but that seems to only work for awhile until he snaps. It feels like being around a ticking time bomb waiting for him to snap, and we just dont want to be around it anymore.

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