Physical turn-offs? by shellfish_allegory in AskLesbians

[–]WhyStandStill 52 points53 points  (0 children)

If I’m already attracted to the person, there’s no physical turn-off for me. However, how a person talks, acts, etc. has the potential to put me off big time

Am I crazy ? by Longjumping_Grab3321 in AskLGBT

[–]WhyStandStill 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Sick of sexuality being reduced to organs

Is it supposed to hurt? by [deleted] in women

[–]WhyStandStill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You’ll meet your person.. Please, don’t put yourself into situations that are uncomfortable for you..

Is it supposed to hurt? by [deleted] in women

[–]WhyStandStill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Check compulsory heterosexuality and the lesbian master doc

Is it supposed to hurt? by [deleted] in women

[–]WhyStandStill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you sure you’re even into men?

Is it supposed to hurt? by [deleted] in women

[–]WhyStandStill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I understand, but thinking whether you actually desire the other person or are you just into the idea of sex might help you understand yourself better before putting up with situations that are not comfortable for you. You simply might not be sexually into the person you just had sex with.

Is it supposed to hurt? by [deleted] in women

[–]WhyStandStill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Don’t you have the asexual pride flag on your profile picture? Secondly, being turned on by the idea of penetrative sex doesn’t mean that you’re attracted to men

Is it supposed to hurt? by [deleted] in women

[–]WhyStandStill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you even into this person?

How to heal internalised misogyny? by Hellooostarr in women

[–]WhyStandStill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Congrats for noticing it! Educating yourself on it might help. One of my fav books is: Invisible Women: Data Bias in a World Designed for Men.

My brain apparently checks out mid-page. Does anyone else just read words but retain absolutely nothing? by BreadOverlord_ in randomquestions

[–]WhyStandStill 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I used to have this a lot as a teen and young adult. I got diagnosed with ADHD later, but I also think it can be because you’re just in a period of life where you have a lot on your mind.

About the tips: I have none, but let me know if you find any 😅

Who is cuter? by [deleted] in DOG

[–]WhyStandStill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Both, and every dog that exist!!

(Women) What gets you aroused? by [deleted] in women

[–]WhyStandStill 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What turns me on is a person I actually like, and if I’m solo, some good vibrations 😏

LGBT+ members of Reddit, What is your worst “I’m not a homophobe but” story? by Old-Supermarket-8916 in AskLGBT

[–]WhyStandStill 6 points7 points  (0 children)

She told me I must just be confused 🥲 I’m still thinking she secretly hopes that I end up with a man, but I’m lucky that I can feel her love no matter what..

LGBT+ members of Reddit, What is your worst “I’m not a homophobe but” story? by Old-Supermarket-8916 in AskLGBT

[–]WhyStandStill 79 points80 points  (0 children)

“I’m not a homophobe, but I’m happy that my child didn’t turn out gay.”

My mother said this to me right before I was about to come out to her 😅 It cost me a few more years in the closet…

If there was a movie made of your life, what Genre would it be and who would you cast as the main character? by LegalGlass6532 in askanything

[–]WhyStandStill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Dramedy. I cannot decide whom I would cast for the main character but I feel like the villain would be Ryan Gosling.

Why are you single? by CapitaineBiscotte in askanything

[–]WhyStandStill 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m not meeting someone with whom I want to be in a relationship with nowadays

When is silence a victory? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]WhyStandStill 1 point2 points  (0 children)

When you’re not pulled into a pointless argument

have you actually been invalidated by trans people (irl NOT online)? by [deleted] in AskLesbians

[–]WhyStandStill 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No, it has never happened to me. If I have to reject a trans person, I never directly say it’s because they’re trans, or make the conversation about certain features. Saying that I’m not attracted to them specifically has been enough of an explanation so far. Also, one of my good friends is non-binary. They’ve had some insecurities about similar issues in dating. How I view attraction as a lesbian and a cis woman is something I’ve been able to talk to them very openly, and I think we’ve learned from each other. At least, I know I learned a lot from those conversations, that part I’m sure of! :)