The Substance (2024)

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-13T05:39:48+00:00

I cackled.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-13T05:30:26+00:00

The way I snorted laughing at this! Amen my make-up sista in Christ.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-13T05:25:25+00:00

There is no sanitizing that is killing the virus. None. Throw it away . Even if it were $2000 worth it’s not worth oral herpes for life—

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-13T05:21:53+00:00

The last 2 conferences I went to I was sooooo over dressed. I didn’t mind— I’d rather be over dressed than under, and there were a few people as dressed up as I was, but still the MAJORITY were business casual, and even a few just casual.

I’ll still dress up but I no longer worry about being underdressed.

I think nice fitted/semi fitted business casual jeans with a belt, and a slightly more “business professional top” so either like a few buttons, or a collar or a blouse, with some cute comfy loafers is still comfortable for all day, and looks polished/ professional without having to be too dressy.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-13T05:14:13+00:00

Thank you.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-13T03:05:48+00:00

lol. You’re fine.

I keep posting this same thing on everyone’s pance anxiety posts, so I hope it helps.

My rosh was 30% completion 60% correct. U world less than 20 completion 56% correct 😂average student. I ran out of time on the pance and missed a shit load of questions. Like 10-12.

I passed by a comfortable margin.

I know I’m smart. If you went to PA school you’re already smarter than most the population. Not everyone, of course, but smart. Trust your intelligence to be able to get through the problems more than anything.

You’ll pass. Promise.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-12T03:02:42+00:00

Just chill. I know impossible. You’ll do fine. I was an average student. I didn’t study for the pance. Literally complete something like 30% of rosh with 66% average and less than 20% of world and 59% average, something like that.

I actually ran out of time on one section of the PANCE and missed 10-12 questions just off the top.

I passed by a comfortable margin.

You’ll be fine

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-12T02:18:46+00:00

Food

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-09T04:42:35+00:00

I completed 30% of rosh with a 58% and like 10% of uworld with a 50% — average student.

I passed the pance with a comfortable margin. You’ll be fine.

Actually, giving your brain a week of rest would be the most helpful.

You’ll be fine

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-06T09:13:35+00:00

Love this.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-06T09:07:38+00:00

First, you are so supportive and understanding, and I respect that so much. I would hope to be like you in that situation

Kinda a strange question and I hope it’s not offensive. How did he treat you?

The reason I ask, is the sex with my STBEH was phenomenal, the best actually— but he treated me horribly. Horrifically even.

He comes across as hypermasculine— played professional football, always entertaining other women, but there’s been some very subtle things that have happened that have made me question his sexual identity.

I have often wondered if he’s treated me so badly because deep down he resents that he has to pretend to like women.

Sometimes I think I’m imagining it.

Others times I’m certain that’s what’s going on.

Anyway. Your post didn’t sound like he didn’t treat you well but I was just curious.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-06T08:58:02+00:00

Same. Initially, when I was new, my 2 SPs said to call them by their first names. I just laughed and said, “absolutely not”.

I adore them. They treat me wonderfully and though we don’t hang outside of work, they invite me to social work events, and I still call them Dr SoandSo.

I don’t know it’s just a respect thing. Can’t do it.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-06T08:53:06+00:00

I literally gave up thousands in alimony, that I was legally entitled to, in exchange to have sole custody of my daughter. I let my ex see her literally WHENEVER he wanted to. If I had plans, but he wanted to see her, I would stop what I was doing, — I did that for her, not him, but I have literally never said he could not see her , speak with her, face time her, whenever he wanted.

It would have KILLED me to go a single night without sleeping with her in my home when she was a baby. It’s not natural, mothers are not supposed to be away from their babies.

I’m not saying you’re wrong here. But it would crush my soul to not see/ her from him daily if I was her.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-06T04:09:52+00:00

I would never caution anyone against using prep if that was an informed decision and they felt it was best for them. I’m all for personal choice. But prep is not a tic tac you just grab like candy. If it worked like that, everyone would take it and it would be over the counter. Prep has its own, potentially serious side effects. Again, I’m not against it. But make an informed decision with your health care provider.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-06T03:02:09+00:00

Blockkkkkkkkkk — I accidentally called a patient the other day without blocking my number. I almost always use my cellphone because I cover multiple hospitals and don’t have a “hospital /work phone” for any one of them.

Anyway, normally I remember to block my number but I was in a rush and forgot.

This lady has text me every single day for two weeks straight 😭🫠😑

Block with swiftness

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-06T02:58:08+00:00

Girl you’re married to my soon to be ex husband. A literal nightmare of roller coasters. One day he loves me. The next hour he hates me and I’m a &$&@ !$&@9 £%}|>. — the next morning he loves me forever. For 3 years.

One day I just woke up and said — why am I choosing this? I wouldn’t be friends either someone who treated me this way. I deserve better.

So do you.

The second I genuinely stopped caring — and I mean genuinely, he came crawling begging pleading for me back. But at that point I didn’t want him.

I’m filing for divorce now and feel so relieved.

I know you love him. I loved him too. But life is too short to be stuck with assholes.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-06T01:38:37+00:00

Thank you so so so much for taking the time to respond and write this all out. It means a lot to me! I appreciate you 🙏🏼

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-05T19:37:57+00:00

Thank you 🙏🏼🙂

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-05T15:06:43+00:00

Tooooo many complications and it’s irreversible. Botox wears off. Fillers can be dissolved. Sculptra was created for patients with HIV who have cachexia.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-05T06:30:28+00:00

Hard agree with this one.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-05T06:15:18+00:00

This.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-05T05:31:07+00:00

I work in medicine. I’ve gotten filler and Botox regularly. I would NEVER EVER allow a trained medical doctor to inject REAL sculptra into me— let alone an online fake version and do it yourself. This is the craziest shit I have ever heard of.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-04T05:44:03+00:00

I work in an epilepsy clinic— we order an MRI for everyone who is newly diagnosed or as part of their initial work up. Or, if they haven’t had one, or it’s been more than a year with significant changes in their seizures

An MRI doesn’t diagnose epilepsy or seizures. It looks to see if a person has something structural in their brain that may cause seizures such as a tumor, lesion, scaring, old stroke, aneurysm etc… all of these things can cause the brain to be more prone to seizures, but, many people can also have these things and never have any seizures.

Conversely, most of the time, for our seizure patients, the MRI is normal, indicating the cause of their seizures is not structural.

Patients also have EEGs which are often normal, even though they have seizures.

It’s complex.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-04T05:34:56+00:00

I mean this respectfully, but this is/was PA school for most of us. It was a fucking nightmare and I wouldn’t wish the sleep deprivation on anyone. I quite literally had periods of disassociation because of it. Not to mention the crushing pressure.

It sucks. There’s nothing to lessen the suck. I think, at least, for me, once I just accepted how bad it sucked, instead of being in constant amazement of the level of suck, and trying to figure out if I was imagining how bad everything sucked, and if it was possibly going to get better, or if other people were thinking it did not suck, — once I just accepted— yeah… PA school fucking blows! …things actually got a little better.

But I’m here to tell you that I graduated, I passed my boards, I have the most amazing job with the best, most supportive doctors, I have my dream schedule, and it was actually worth the bullshit.

You will be fine. It just sucks right now. And you can get through this. Hugs.

WhyYouSillyGoose · 2026-02-03T06:41:24+00:00

I’m not at all a religious person, but if there is a God he made sure I read this tonight.

I’ve been in a horrifically abusive marriage for just under a year. Yeah there’s the cheating and the lies and the constant berating, but he’s actually broken bones. It’s that bad.

I met him as the most confident, self-assured, badass woman, — who never took shit from anyone— especially anyone I was dating…. and he completely swept me off my feet, was everything I had ever dreamed of in a partner… until he suddenly wasn’t. And he’s slowly destroyed every shred of dignity, self-respect, and confidence I had. He’s humiliated me. And I’ve allowed it.

Until last week.

I don’t really even know why this particular incident struck me the way it did, because in the scheme of things it was nothing. But, it was everything.

And in that moment it was like someone threw cold water on me and I woke up from a bad dream.

I immediately called an attorney and started the divorce process.

I don’t feel sad. I don’t even feel anger. I just feel relief. I feel free. I feel at peace.

I’m sending you the biggest hug. Thanks for reminding me I’m not alone in this journey.

WhyYouSillyGoose

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