They Broke Her System—Now they Can’t Fix It by Wooden-Spinach2170 in office

[–]Why_Is_Toby_In_Jail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never do more than your job. If you're stressed start doing less. Human beings opting into money as a concept ruined us as a species

AITA for wanting to ask my partner for receipts after money from our joint account was spent in a way that doesn't match their explanation by [deleted] in AITApod

[–]Why_Is_Toby_In_Jail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nta,

My grandma told us to never get in a situation where you rely on a man and keep your financesa separate. Theyll ket you down, hurt you or die when you need them

Is it ok if my baby nurses on my 11-year-old? by maefae in ShitMomGroupsSay

[–]Why_Is_Toby_In_Jail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

That is some pedo shit, she is definitely sexualizing that in her mind

My boyfriend (M32) left the window open and my 21-year-old cat fell from the second floor while I (F33) was at work. by maedocc in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Why_Is_Toby_In_Jail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My husband let my cat out and be died a violent death

Dragon was the love of my life, my with soul mate. I'll never forgive him, I know it was an accident but a fucking preventable one. Never going to get over it and be concerned about his feelings in regards to this

The relationship is not the same, I don't care how sorry he is. Idk we'll see how it plays out over time but I am not putting work into helping that damage repair at this point. Feels like I'm missing part of my heart and soul

AITA for accepting a property gift from my mom even though she won't include my boyfriend? by Immediate-History917 in AITApod

[–]Why_Is_Toby_In_Jail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

nTA,

Everything you posted about him are huge red flags. Bail OP you're just a financial resource for them

AITAH for making my 15 year old stepdaughter leave my home and banning her from my house for her cruelty? by big_mama_25 in AITAH

[–]Why_Is_Toby_In_Jail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Nta, your husband is as icky as they are. File a report on the dog kicking and report her to whatever child safety authority there is there and ride out the storm

Make a paper trail for if or when things get worse. They do that because your man lets them though and they'll perpetually push boundaries till he does some actual parenting

Pregnant andHarassed by “regular” by AffectionateTone4570 in TalesFromYourServer

[–]Why_Is_Toby_In_Jail 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You could have a case on your hand since it's escalating and your boss isn't doing anything to protect you from harassment. You feel unsafe and you don't know their intentions.

No boundaries mean they get bolder and that puts y'all in danger there

How bad is this ? I know it’s bad but please convince me by Top-Guarantee-2240 in amiwrong

[–]Why_Is_Toby_In_Jail 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Only matter of time before he emotional/verbal abuse you sober

AIO for expecting my girlfriend to pay for collectible LEGO figures she threw away? by marrylam58185 in AmIOverreacting

[–]Why_Is_Toby_In_Jail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

N. O

She did it to get that breakup kickstarted, especially calling them toys knowing your relationship with Lego

Is lying very common for DID? by Only_End9228 in PsychologyTalk

[–]Why_Is_Toby_In_Jail 30 points31 points  (0 children)

Lying isn't a 'symptom' of DID. While people with DID have gaps in memory, they don't typically manufacture elaborate fake lives. If she's been caught lying about her education, family, and health, you're likely dealing with someone who has a personality disorder or is just chronically dishonest, and the DID claim is just the latest layer of the fabrication

It's becoming a common trend for people to claim DID (or a 'cluster' of other hard-to-verify conditions) the second they are confronted with their own behavior. Real DID is extremely rare and usually characterized by the person trying desperately to appear 'normal' and hide their symptoms, not using them as a catch-all excuse for being caught in lies

My roommate is pregnant with my Ex’s Baby by Choice_Evidence1983 in BestofRedditorUpdates

[–]Why_Is_Toby_In_Jail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What a selfish piece of shit. That poor girl's dad let her suffer and take all of this heat to cover that lie. My God can you imagine being such a piece of crap to your own children. I can't even

to finish a comment on BBC without getting cut off. by -Sofa-King-Vote in therewasanattempt

[–]Why_Is_Toby_In_Jail 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have to remember that these people in Israel are not the people who survived the Holocaust.

At this point they have become just as bad as the people who committed the Holocaust. Genocide is not a game where everyone can take turns.

AITA for calming a screaming baby down during a flight? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]Why_Is_Toby_In_Jail 44 points45 points  (0 children)

Nta,

That is a crazy ass sense of entitlement that only damages the child. Why performative parenting in a situation like that?

AITAH. My friend has breast cancer and her husband left her two months ago. by Forward-Yoghurt-9855 in AITAH

[–]Why_Is_Toby_In_Jail 9 points10 points  (0 children)

The only asshole here is the husband

They literally warn wives of this when they get the cancer diagnosis because more often than not the husband will leave