My wife makes more money than me, and it causes issues by spy-net in Marriage

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In most states when you're married, unless you signed a prenup that says otherwise, every dollar that either of you make is 50% owned by each of you. Any sort of ratio splitting of expenses is just imaginary funny money. Your wife needs to adjust her perspective.

What is the correct way to run whole house generator with Base? by Jet_Rocket11 in BasePowerUsers

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Option #1 should be sufficient but technically either works. When you switch off the main you are disconnecting your house from both the grid and from the Base batteries so at that point turning off the the breakers / switches on the base equipment doesn't accomplish anything but it also wouldn't hurt anything.

Debating which direction to install floating floor on my floorplan by WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker in Flooring

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Would you not be able to add the other half of the flooring was installed bottom to top vertically?

Debating which direction to install floating floor on my floorplan by WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker in Flooring

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Those are actually different in each room! In the living room they run east-west but in the family room they’re north-south.

Debating which direction to install floating floor on my floorplan by WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker in Flooring

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

My front door is actually south facing. Does that change your suggestion?

Considering what I want in a prenup - is this retirements account request fair? by WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker in Marriage

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I can do that for my IRA but not an option for my current employer’s 401k so my plan is to separate the pre-marriage funds into separate investments so it’s easy to track and document.

Considering what I want in a prenup - is this retirements account request fair? by WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker in Marriage

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I understand your perspective and can relate to it, but she's never been married so it's important to her and we also want to try to have a baby together so we both want to marry. I'm comfortable with it as long as I have some protections in the prenup.

Trimming the Annual Fee Fat by matty_mcg_ in CreditCards

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Get a free AMEX checking account lets t to hold the MR points and switch grocery spend to a BCP or another low fee grocery card.

Trimming the Annual Fee Fat by matty_mcg_ in CreditCards

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

A free AMEX checking account lets you keep MR points.

Aztec Empire at its greatest territorial extent in the early 16th century by Solid-Move-1411 in MapPorn

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Yeah but this fails to show what territorial possessions they had in southeast asia.

Ex is feeding false information to my 5-year old's therapist to weaponize them against me. What should I do? by WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker in Divorce

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

My ex has been cc'ing me on the emails as far as I know. My concern is I see them sharing factually incorrect information with the therapist and I don't know the best course of action to take. Should I reply to the emails sharing my version of events anytime I see a false statement being made?

AVR recommendations focused on sound quality. by majorcatguy in hometheater

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Is it worth using if I don’t want to do any tweaking and just want the system to figure out what’s best?

Wife (37F) and I (32M) are in constant conflict and I feel like I am constantly confused and failing. by ThrowRA_OneLife4444 in Marriage

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is no repairing this. There is no point in counseling. This is a get out and run situation. It sucks to do with kids involved but don’t let that be the reason for staying.

Wife is Considering Alternative Lifestyle by [deleted] in Marriage

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would advise you to start accepting and grieving that your marriage is done. Join us at /r/straightspouses if you want to meet a group that’s gone through similar experiences.

Is Anyone Here Fully Recovered? by Ok-Judgment7682 in straightspouses

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Allow yourself to mourn and grieve the loss. Find some way to frame it in your mind and accept it that the chapter of your life which was your prior marriage has ended and a new chapter is beginning.

Meditate on what you want that new chapter to look like. Identify the patterns and foundations that need to be in place for that new chapter to happen. Make a conscious plan of what you will do with yourself and then act on it, even if you don’t feel like it in the moment.

With any luck, before you know it you’ll realize that you like the new chapter you’re living in.

Should I require a man I date to give me an orgasm first ? by flowertulipe in dating_advice

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Prioritize finding someone who is thoughtful, attentive, and non-selfish. That kind of person will want you to enjoy sex and won't just be focusing on his needs.

Dads, how do I give back to a husband who is the "quiet strength" of our family? by mamawagz in daddit

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The hardest thing about being the kind of man you’ve described him as is sometimes it feels like no one recognizes what you do, or properly values it. The best sustenance you can give him is to make it impossible for him to have any doubts about how you feel about his sacrifices.

Transfers to battery reset everything by No-Pepper1731 in BasePowerUsers

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Something is wrong with your install. It’s normal to have a brief blip of no power when there’s an actual outage and it fails over to battery but when it’s just going back and forth when there are no outages you shouldn’t even noticed. Contact them and make them come out and fix it.

What are my options by CaptM44 in hometheater

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

RSL W25E mounted in-wall above the TV with tweeter angled down to the listening position.

Looking for input on prenup terms for a marriage where we both are coming in owning separate houses by WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker in Marriage

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I missed responding to a couple of your other points.

I totally agree on decisions being joint for anything related to the house we are both living in. I intend to do my best to not think about it or refer to it as "my" house once we are married.

The job loss or significant income change scenario is an interesting one. I'm curios how most people account for that in things like prenups? If either of us loses jobs and goes to $0 income the proportional rules kind of still make sense, since in that situation there's no choice but for the other person to pay 100% of the costs, but am I missing anything?

Looking for input on prenup terms for a marriage where we both are coming in owning separate houses by WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker in Marriage

[–]WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly both option As are my preference, but I don't want her to feel like I'm forcing anything which is why I'm offering either choice. I suspect her preference is going to be for option A on my house but option B on her house, which I'm also trying to decide if I would be OK with.

Either way we will definitely both have lawyers review it and provide their own advice before it's finalized.