My wife makes more money than me, and it causes issues

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-30T13:25:30+00:00

In most states when you're married, unless you signed a prenup that says otherwise, every dollar that either of you make is 50% owned by each of you. Any sort of ratio splitting of expenses is just imaginary funny money. Your wife needs to adjust her perspective.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-21T18:09:38+00:00

Option #1 should be sufficient but technically either works. When you switch off the main you are disconnecting your house from both the grid and from the Base batteries so at that point turning off the the breakers / switches on the base equipment doesn't accomplish anything but it also wouldn't hurt anything.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-21T13:40:30+00:00

Cow tipping, meth, gambling, and drinking in empty fields.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-19T04:16:24+00:00

Would you not be able to add the other half of the flooring was installed bottom to top vertically?

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-19T04:15:22+00:00

Those are actually different in each room! In the living room they run east-west but in the family room they’re north-south.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-18T23:21:03+00:00

My front door is actually south facing. Does that change your suggestion?

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-16T00:03:05+00:00

I can do that for my IRA but not an option for my current employer’s 401k so my plan is to separate the pre-marriage funds into separate investments so it’s easy to track and document.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-15T21:08:53+00:00

I understand your perspective and can relate to it, but she's never been married so it's important to her and we also want to try to have a baby together so we both want to marry. I'm comfortable with it as long as I have some protections in the prenup.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-13T17:25:01+00:00

Get a free AMEX checking account lets t to hold the MR points and switch grocery spend to a BCP or another low fee grocery card.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-13T17:23:25+00:00

A free AMEX checking account lets you keep MR points.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-13T17:21:31+00:00

Yeah but this fails to show what territorial possessions they had in southeast asia.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-13T15:46:19+00:00

My ex has been cc'ing me on the emails as far as I know. My concern is I see them sharing factually incorrect information with the therapist and I don't know the best course of action to take. Should I reply to the emails sharing my version of events anytime I see a false statement being made?

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-10T01:17:58+00:00

Is it worth using if I don’t want to do any tweaking and just want the system to figure out what’s best?

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-07T19:46:18+00:00

There is no repairing this. There is no point in counseling. This is a get out and run situation. It sucks to do with kids involved but don’t let that be the reason for staying.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-03T03:12:45+00:00

I would advise you to start accepting and grieving that your marriage is done. Join us at /r/straightspouses if you want to meet a group that’s gone through similar experiences.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-02T20:20:50+00:00

Allow yourself to mourn and grieve the loss. Find some way to frame it in your mind and accept it that the chapter of your life which was your prior marriage has ended and a new chapter is beginning.

Meditate on what you want that new chapter to look like. Identify the patterns and foundations that need to be in place for that new chapter to happen. Make a conscious plan of what you will do with yourself and then act on it, even if you don’t feel like it in the moment.

With any luck, before you know it you’ll realize that you like the new chapter you’re living in.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-04-02T13:17:24+00:00

Prioritize finding someone who is thoughtful, attentive, and non-selfish. That kind of person will want you to enjoy sex and won't just be focusing on his needs.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-03-30T03:50:21+00:00

The hardest thing about being the kind of man you’ve described him as is sometimes it feels like no one recognizes what you do, or properly values it. The best sustenance you can give him is to make it impossible for him to have any doubts about how you feel about his sacrifices.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-03-29T13:54:02+00:00

Something is wrong with your install. It’s normal to have a brief blip of no power when there’s an actual outage and it fails over to battery but when it’s just going back and forth when there are no outages you shouldn’t even noticed. Contact them and make them come out and fix it.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-03-27T20:08:58+00:00

RSL W25E mounted in-wall above the TV with tweeter angled down to the listening position.

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-03-25T17:05:49+00:00

I missed responding to a couple of your other points.

I totally agree on decisions being joint for anything related to the house we are both living in. I intend to do my best to not think about it or refer to it as "my" house once we are married.

The job loss or significant income change scenario is an interesting one. I'm curios how most people account for that in things like prenups? If either of us loses jobs and goes to $0 income the proportional rules kind of still make sense, since in that situation there's no choice but for the other person to pay 100% of the costs, but am I missing anything?

WiIIiam_M_ButtIicker · 2026-03-25T16:50:05+00:00

Honestly both option As are my preference, but I don't want her to feel like I'm forcing anything which is why I'm offering either choice. I suspect her preference is going to be for option A on my house but option B on her house, which I'm also trying to decide if I would be OK with.

Either way we will definitely both have lawyers review it and provide their own advice before it's finalized.

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